The grumpy thread

[maxxo]

Ah don’t we love living with your partner

got a parcel for a neighbour, I said “oh I’ll pop it round now” but oh no she says that’s apparently way too late (7pm at night) and apparently needs a minute etc etc and in a right mood with me now

sick to shit of this

ill run the parcel to the neighbour tomorrow, she will hate that as I’ll be speaking to a female without her there

cant be arsed anymore

wish we never met

[Remspoor]

1 hour ago, Zelandeth said:

It seems to be tracking reasonably most of the time.  There are plenty of periods where there's no usage (when you'd expect, middle of the night etc), there are just hours where there's random huge spikes in usage, including at times where it makes absolutely zero sense - like between 4 and 5 this morning again, apparently we used another 200 odd litres.  It's those spikes that just make no sense rather than a slow continuous leak.  That's not the sort of leak which would come and go!

It's not something daft like a cistern overflowing - they all dump into the pan if they overflow so it would be really obvious.

Our main stop cock is pretty noisy when there's a large usage going on as well, so running water when there shouldn't be is something I'd be likely to pick up on.

You are going to have to convince the water company the meter is faulty.

[chaseracer]

On 20/05/2024 at 17:49, beko1987 said:

Bet his grass looks 👌 though? 

Unless he's smoking that too... 🤪

[RoverFolkUs]

56 minutes ago, maxxo said:

Ah don’t we love living with your partner

got a parcel for a neighbour, I said “oh I’ll pop it round now” but oh no she says that’s apparently way too late (7pm at night) and apparently needs a minute etc etc and in a right mood with me now

sick to shit of this

ill run the parcel to the neighbour tomorrow, she will hate that as I’ll be speaking to a female without her there

cant be arsed anymore

wish we never met

Sorry but it sounds like you need to get out of that situation as soon as you can, if you can, that sort of behaviour is irrational and borderline coercive. Don't forget men can be victims of domestic abuse as well

[Pieman]

17 minutes ago, RoverFolkUs said:

Sorry but it sounds like you need to get out of that situation as soon as you can, if you can, that sort of behaviour is irrational and borderline coercive. Don't forget men can be victims of domestic abuse as well

Exactly this.  Just because in the eyes of the media men can't be victims of anything, doesn't mean that view is true.  As for "speaking to a female without her there" she needs to be told to get to fuck just for that, if it was you telling her she wasn't allowed to talk to another male she'd probably have you arrested just for saying it!

[Rust Collector]

11 minutes ago, Pieman said:

Exactly this.  Just because in the eyes of the media men can't be victims of anything, doesn't mean that view is true.  As for "speaking to a female without her there" she needs to be told to get to fuck just for that, if it was you telling her she wasn't allowed to talk to another male she'd probably have you arrested just for saying it!

I agree with the sentiment that society holds men and women to different standards when it comes to domestic abuse, but for the sake of anyone worried that they won’t be taken seriously, then I’d just like to say that I had dealings with the police on more than one occasion where I was a victim of domestic abuse as a man and I’m pleased to report that they were really supportive and helpful. It’s possibly the only positive interaction that I’ve ever had with the police, all the rest have been shitty experiences sadly.

[Pieman]

According to some, in today's society most of the time men may as well be rounded up and got rid of!

[High Jetter]

3 hours ago, maxxo said:

Ah don’t we love living with your partner

got a parcel for a neighbour, I said “oh I’ll pop it round now” but oh no she says that’s apparently way too late (7pm at night) and apparently needs a minute etc etc and in a right mood with me now

sick to shit of this

ill run the parcel to the neighbour tomorrow, she will hate that as I’ll be speaking to a female without her there

cant be arsed anymore

wish we never met

Can't she pop it round?

[maxxo]

4 minutes ago, High Jetter said:

Can't she pop it round?

That wound up happening

of course more bickering as I answered the door

just feeling down today

[Rave]

@maxxo Life's too short to be doing with a shitty relationship mate. I gather you're pretty young; I had a real dire patch and didn't manage to even snog a woman between the age of 18 1/2 and 22, so I was damned keen on the first couple of women who showed an interest in me after that, and I arguably rushed into getting married aged 24. Fortunately my wife, while a bit of a nightmare in many ways, is at least really kind hearted and not controlling or abusive, but if she ever had been I'd have shown her the door and sacked it off as a bad job. I guess if you really think your partner is worth fixing then fair enough, but that won't happen unless you actually set about it, passive aggression won't cut it. Set boundaries, respectfully tell her how it's going to be from now on, be prepared to walk if it doesn't work.

You only get one life and the absolute worst way to spend it is living in fear of your partner; a single life doing whatever the fuck you want with a daily pornhub wank on your phone is honestly much better, not that there's any shortage of quite decent women out there if you get to 35 in good shape and with an interesting personality.

[jakebullet]

It's the Mrs's birthday today. What has Mad Jean bought her daughter? Er, nothing. Well you got a card? Er, nope. Wrote on your facebook wall? Nah.

But Mrs's brother has wrote on facebook. And so has the DEVIL, that HELEN WALKER!!!!

Mad Jean is curiously absent from facebook today. None of the usual 40 copies of the same praise JEZZZZUS, or whatever is in her head.

Place bets now, my money's on Mad Jean has been SO ILL and the NHS ALMOST LET HER DIE, 'cos nobody cares about the elderly. So that's why the birthday just got missed* in the trauma of it all, and besides you're in league with THE DEVILS for letting them post happy birthday on your wall. So it's GOD'S WILL that you get nothing at all.

TLDR, Mad Jean is a nasty piece of work, and can get to fucking fuck.

[Rave]

I refer you also @jakebullet to my post above

[Pieman]

9 minutes ago, jakebullet said:

It's the Mrs's birthday today. What has Mad Jean bought her daughter? Er, nothing. Well you got a card? Er, nope. Wrote on your facebook wall? Nah.

But Mrs's brother has wrote on facebook. And so has the DEVIL, that HELEN WALKER!!!!

Mad Jean is curiously absent from facebook today. None of the usual 40 copies of the same praise JEZZZZUS, or whatever is in her head.

Place bets now, my money's on Mad Jean has been SO ILL and the NHS ALMOST LET HER DIE, 'cos nobody cares about the elderly. So that's why the birthday just got missed* in the trauma of it all, and besides you're in league with THE DEVILS for letting them post happy birthday on your wall. So it's GOD'S WILL that you get nothing at all.

TLDR, Mad Jean is a nasty piece of work, and can get to fucking fuck.

Seriously, lay off the acid, all of you.  I'm getting genuinely concerned now.

[Rave]

Anyway, let's get to why I opened this thread that I've never posted in before to my knowledge.

My Audi A6's MOT expired 5 days ago; I knew it would fail on the engine light being on, which was due to the post-cat lambda sensor being dead. @DirtyDaily supplied the replacement with the car, I just never got round to it because it ran fine (post-cat lambdas are just there to dob you in to the MOT man) and it looked like a right prick to get to, being buried behind the engine. Anyway I bit the bullet on Sunday and it was actually quite easy, it cracked off no bother with the 4-sided lambda socket I found lying in the road a year or so ago, and obvs I just bunged the replacement in with an adjustable spanner, fuck doing it up tight. While I was in there I also fitted the supplied cam cover gasket, which was a bit more effort, but still not a struggle. But I could hear that it also had an exhaust leak and I know from bitter experience that you've absolutely no chance of passing an MOT with one as they totally screw the CO/lambda reading.

So today I drove it the 50 yards round the corner to the nearest side street onto my ramps, before wriggling under to inspect the exhaust. I found the leak pretty quickly at the joint between the link pipe and the first silencer section. I went to ECP and paid 4 quid for an exhaust bandage kit, and then went back again to pay £3.69 for a 300g tube of gun gum (vs £4 for the 150g tube of amateur shit) when I found my old one had gone rock hard.

By that point it was tipping down with rain so I effected the repair lying on an absolutely piss wet road. Wriggling out from under the car I was quite literally making squelching noises. I figured I'd just leave the car up on the ramps, as although the gun gum says to dry it off with the engine running , the bandage says to leave it 24h and I wasn't that confident that I'd done it up super tight.

Anyway after stripping off my piss wet clothes, having a shower, ringing the MOT station to book the car in for tomorrow, and cooking dinner for my elderly FIL, I fancied some cans to take the edge off so decided to wander to the offy. On my way out I found this:

...some dick has parked <2m from the junction, and 6" from my towbar. I've zero chance of backing the car off the ramps if they don't move.

I'm not actually bothered about them not noticing that they're blocking me on my ramps, I'm an ADHD space cadet who goes through life not noticing shit like that. But the parking <2m from the junction is a dick move and clearly against the highway code. I've left a polite notice under their wiper, hopefully they'll fuck off to work before I need to get the car out tomorrow, and if not I could potentially MOT it Thursday.

If not would the council tow them for being too close to the junction? I really don't want to have to borrow my brother's car for my airport run on Friday.

 

[sheffcortinacentre]

No they won't give a shit, neither will plod.

[DirtyDaily]

Anyway, let's get to why I opened this thread that I've never posted in before to my knowledge.
My Audi A6's MOT expired 5 days ago; I knew it would fail on the engine light being on, which was due to the post-cat lambda sensor being dead. [mention=28666]DirtyDaily[/mention] supplied the replacement with the car, I just never got round to it because it ran fine (post-cat lambdas are just there to dob you in to the MOT man) and it looked like a right prick to get to, being buried behind the engine. Anyway I bit the bullet on Sunday and it was actually quite easy, it cracked off no bother with the 4-sided lambda socket I found lying in the road a year or so ago, and obvs I just bunged the replacement in with an adjustable spanner, fuck doing it up tight. While I was in there I also fitted the supplied cam cover gasket, which was a bit more effort, but still not a struggle. But I could hear that it also had an exhaust leak and I know from bitter experience that you've absolutely no chance of passing an MOT with one as they totally screw the CO/lambda reading.
So today I drove it the 50 yards round the corner to the nearest side street onto my ramps, before wriggling under to inspect the exhaust. I found the leak pretty quickly at the joint between the link pipe and the first silencer section. I went to ECP and paid 4 quid for an exhaust bandage kit, and then went back again to pay £3.69 for a 300g tube of gun gum (vs £4 for the 150g tube of amateur shit) when I found my old one had gone rock hard.
By that point it was tipping down with rain so I effected the repair lying on an absolutely piss wet road. Wriggling out from under the car I was quite literally making squelching noises. I figured I'd just leave the car up on the ramps, as although the gun gum says to dry it off with the engine running , the bandage says to leave it 24h and I wasn't that confident that I'd done it up super tight.
Anyway after stripping off my piss wet clothes, having a shower, ringing the MOT station to book the car in for tomorrow, and cooking dinner for my elderly FIL, I fancied some cans to take the edge off so decided to wander to the offy. On my way out I found this:

...some dick has parked <2m from the junction, and 6" from my towbar. I've zero chance of backing the car off the ramps if they don't move.
I'm not actually bothered about them not noticing that they're blocking me on my ramps, I'm an ADHD space cadet who goes through life not noticing shit like that. But the parking <2m from the junction is a dick move and clearly against the highway code. I've left a polite notice under their wiper, hopefully they'll fuck off to work before I need to get the car out tomorrow, and if not I could potentially MOT it Thursday.
If not would the council tow them for being too close to the junction? I really don't want to have to borrow my brother's car for my airport run on Friday.
 

Some people are severely lacking in the common sense department unfortunately. I suspect they didn't consider any of it when they parked there.
Good luck with the MOT though, was the 90 degree adapter on the secondary O2 sensor still? When I first tried to fix it, I fitted that as I thought maybe the cat was losing its efficiency but it didn't help so got the new O2 sensor but never fitted it? Thought I did but I could be going mad. Either way you can clear the code just beforehand and get it through the MOT without fixing it properly. Looking forward to seeing this get another year of motoring.

[beko1987]

13 hours ago, RoverFolkUs said:

Sorry but it sounds like you need to get out of that situation as soon as you can, if you can, that sort of behaviour is irrational and borderline coercive. Don't forget men can be victims of domestic abuse as well

I look back on my relationship with the ex now after 4+ years and after the fun bits are removed I think the same, now when she starts screaming at me I can hang up on her 👌

[captain_70s]

Suspect plod would be more likely to book you for no MOT or leaving a car in a "dangerous" position.

Merc driver has likely parked there deliberately as penance for you leaving the car like that. Many folk are of the opinion working on a car on a public road is illegal.

[Dyslexic Viking]

Dad is still in hospital. And the hospital is as crap as ever.

And I've had a trip down to town and there are too many people in this world.

That's mine for now.

[Rave]

They had moved by 10am, and I'm at the MOT station now. It has passed emissions, just waiting to see what else the MOT man finds...

@DirtyDaily I wondered about that elbow, didn't know they were a thing. The fault code was for the sensor being faulty and indeed the new one has sorted it (though I had to clear the code, the ECU didn't seem to just notice). Weirdly the old one showed a voltage in Torque but I'm not going to argue with it any further! 🙃

[DirtyDaily]

They had moved by 10am, and I'm at the MOT station now. It has passed emissions, just waiting to see what else the MOT man finds...
[mention=28666]DirtyDaily[/mention] I wondered about that elbow, didn't know they were a thing. The fault code was for the sensor being faulty and indeed the new one has sorted it (though I had to clear the code, the ECU didn't seem to just notice). Weirdly the old one showed a voltage in Torque but I'm not going to argue with it any further! 

Elbow worked on the Jag x350 I had which had an efficiency code. Also made it a bit easier to get to the O2 sensor on the A6!
Fingers crossed, it's cosmetically challenged but mechanically it seemed good so my hopes are high!

[Rave]

27 minutes ago, DirtyDaily said:

Elbow worked on the Jag x350 I had which had an efficiency code. Also made it a bit easier to get to the O2 sensor on the A6!
Fingers crossed, it's cosmetically challenged but mechanically it seemed good so my hopes are high!

It passed with a few insignificant advisories . Hopefully the new cam cover gasket will sort the oil leak. It's still leaking a bit of coolant from somewhere out of the back of the head (or possibly block), I should really find out where the thermostat is and replace that as it seems lazy anyway and I suspect that's where the leak is coming from as well, but I can just keep topping it up for now. Just got to hope the clutch holds out a bit longer, though there's a specialist down the road who were very cheap when it needed doing on my Mondeo. The thing is I would like to stick the gearbox from a diesel one on as it revs a bit high on the motorway for my liking, but then I'd probably want to stick a bigger turbo on and get it remapped so it doesn't become a slug with the longer gearing. All pipe dreams anyway until I get some more money coming in...

[DirtyDaily]

It's still leaking a bit of coolant from somewhere out of the back of the head (or possibly block), I should really find out where the thermostat is and replace that as it seems lazy anyway and I suspect that's where the leak is coming from as well, but I can just keep topping it up for now.

One thing I did, which has just come back to me, is I replaced a coolant temperature sensor which is at the back of the head. It's all plastic back there so don't know if I disturbed something while I was in there. Seems a coincidence if that's roughly where it's coming from.

[Pieman]

8 hours ago, DirtyDaily said:

Some people are severely lacking in the common sense department unfortunately. I suspect they didn't consider any of it when they parked there.

I'm becoming convinced that people deliberately park in order to inconvenience others - and sometimes it can be stereotyped by what they drive.  By far the worst I have seen are Range Rovers.  They will deliberately park over as many spaces as possible or diagonally across disabled spaces, purely because owners of modern Range Rovers seem to genuinely believe they are more important than anything or anyone else in the world and want to rub that status into everyone's faces all the time.

See also: anything with a number plate spelling "BO55".  Best option here is to run them off the road before they inevitably try to do the same to you.

[MikeR]

What more can I say .... So much for a controlled supply chain ... 

[Remspoor]

4 hours ago, MikeR said:

What more can I say .... So much for a controlled supply chain ... 

That is crying out for pineapple bits thrown on top.

[anonymous user]

3 hours ago, Remspoor said:

That is crying out for pineapple bits thrown on top.

Then into the bin

[GrumpiusMaximus]

3 hours ago, Remspoor said:

That is crying out for pineapple bits thrown on top.

Forget Stalin, forget Ivan the Terrible, forget Genghis Khan.  You are history's greatest monster.

[hairnet]

wtf is the football on two channels live at once

there has never been any need

keane summariser on one

rooney on the other 

fuck that

karate kid now and watch the rugby in a bit and the cricket later

[Metal Guru]

Went to a wedding yesterday. At the sit down meal , the room got louder and louder. Just became white noise to me, unable to have a conversation even with people next to me. When did shouting everything become the norm?