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[cros]

Posting rubbish about cars doesn't feel appropriate for a while after hearing this. I hope that the support and understanding shown here is of help to those in despair. Very sad.

[AlabamaShrimp]

I've k my just seen this and Tbh I've no idea what to say.

 

We knew he was having problems but thus is awful.

[spartacus]

This is terrible. I'm sat in my van crying over the futility of it. When Hendry put that post up about access to his daughter I thought about messaging him but didn't. If I'm ever in that situation again I'll do my best to be there, unfortunately that won't help Hendry.

I'm struggling to take it in and I never even met him, I can only try to imagine how his family must be feeling.

Life deals some cruel cards and takes some rough turns but when somebody you know, even from a distance, like many of us knew Hendry, takes their own life it's almost the most unbearable shock of all.

I'll miss those huge posts that took ten minutes to read.

RIP Hendry.

[tooSavvy]

**Reality Attack**

 

Real world issues... Who OWNS his content?

 

"..His Flickr stream was a treasure trove and should also be preserved.."

 

Where are his rights to logins....

 

RIP Hendry

 

TS

[Guest]

Just caught up with this.. F*ck. This sort of thing is happening too often in our society.  It really does need an overhaul.

[RobT]

Posting rubbish about cars doesn't feel appropriate for a while after hearing this. I hope that the support and understanding shown here is of help to those in despair. Very sad.

 

That's why I refrained from posting details in this thread about my collection yesterday (keeping it to a brief post elsewhere), as it just didn't seem appropriate at the moment.  Tragic news.

[sierraman]

That is desperately sad news.

[Captain Furious]

Crikey, that is awful news, 30 is no age at all.  I hope he finds the peace in death that he obviously couldn't in life.

 

I didn't really know him other than the odd comment on his Mk6 escort thread, nevertheless it is a sobering thought that you are brushing shoulders, if only virtually, with someone going through such unimaginable suffering that they felt taking their own life was the only way out.  Needless to say I urge anyone having any similar thoughts to reach out to someone, a family member, friend, work colleague, random stranger on the internet.  You'd be amazed at the goodwill that can be found in the human race when the chips are down.

[greengartside]

Just read the card tribute thread to him. Just in a state of shock - so young. I didn't know him personally but felt he was a part of the family on here. Like everyone has said, please talk to someone and don't EVER bottle things up. There's always a solution to any problem. There's a dealer-plated Escort waiting for you up there. R.I.P.

[Captain Furious]

As well as the well wishing and condolence messages, would it be worth forwarding some of the posts he made here about how he was feeling, or at least making them aware of his profile here should they wish to look for themselves.  It is a journal or diary of sorts and often people will write out their true feelings to a bunch of strangers on the internet far more readily than disclosing them to friends and family, who they tend to suffer in silence with.  Having that insight could help them understand how he was feeling. 

 

It could also come across wholly inappropriately though, so I dunno.

 

Edited to add: Sorry I originally posted this in the card thread and didn't realise it had already been suggested here.  Needless to say I agree that there may be some value in it for his family, and daughter inparticular.

[Yoss]

I've just found out about this via the card thread and spent the last hour reading that and this. Don't really know what to say but I know I'm in good company here, some of you have a far better way with words than me. Happy to admit I was in tears a couple of times.

 

I must admit I've never suffered from depression but the human mind is something none of us can truly understand.

 

I've got some Broadfields Garage dealer plates in my garage, from one of my old Dolomites and whenever I stumbled across them I was reminded of Hendrys conversations about Scottish dealers and his quest for the holy grail Escort. I kept these because Broadfields was an important place in the history of Club Triumph being the starting place of all the early Round Britain Runs. It's not the same thing but I understand the feeling of a nice set of dealer plates. I think I will have to mount them on the wall properly now.

 

Thanks Hendry for all the posts.

[Datsuncog]

I don't think I'll ever see another Mk6 Escort and not have the impulse to check the dealer plates on Hendry's behalf, the most recent opportunity being only last week. A fair few Scottish registered cars end up in Northern Ireland, and I was hopeful that I might help him find his 'unicorn' one day.

 

But yeah. Been reading over his detailed posts on the Charles Hurst dealership hierarchy on my Laguna thread, and can't get my head around him not being here anymore. He'll really be missed. I just hope that somehow, despite everything, he knew he was loved and valued. And it's pretty crappy that I only ever think to type these words when the person they're directed to isn't here to read them.

 

All of you here on Autoshite mean more to me than you'll ever know. We'll all have our squabbles and disputes, but the core of what this community is - what it stands for - is pretty rare and worth celebrating. We're all little Lucas lamps glimmering in an eternal night; some brighter, some dimmer; some closer, some farther. But I never want to see another go dark too soon.

[spartacus]

Well said Datsuncog.

[mrbenn]

All of you here on Autoshite mean more to me than you'll ever know. We'll all have our squabbles and disputes, but the core of what this community is - what it stands for - is pretty rare and worth celebrating. We're all little Lucas lamps glimmering in an eternal night; some brighter, some dimmer; some closer, some farther. But I never want to see another go dark too soon.

 

Right, which one of you bastards is chopping onions in here??

[Jams]

I’m lost for words! Totally shocked me that has! RIP sir!

[vulgalour]

All of you here on Autoshite mean more to me than you'll ever know. We'll all have our squabbles and disputes, but the core of what this community is - what it stands for - is pretty rare and worth celebrating. We're all little Lucas lamps glimmering in an eternal night; some brighter, some dimmer; some closer, some farther. But I never want to see another go dark too soon.

Autoshite has been the important wiggle to my own varying brightness bulb many a time. So thank you to everyone here that's supported me, propped me up, kept me going. There are folks here that have definitely pulled me through some rough patches, some probably don't even know it.

[sporty-shite]

I don't feel.that I can add anything that hasn't already been said, but really can't emphasise enough how important it is to talk if you're suffering. The whole male pride thing needs to take a back seat.

[flat4alfa]

Just caught up with this.  Awful.  I remember the long post about being denied access to his baby, it made me shudder.  And only three weeks later, this.

 

RIP

 

 

[Guest]

Vito just passed it's MOT. Would normally be grinning, but seems a bit trivial really. Makes you think about whats really important in life, and old motors aren't really. 

[Dick Longbridge]

Ditto. I've been thinking and been on my mind all day. Online forums are like a modern day pub. Even though you don't often see the people in person, you have a good chin wag and share quite a lot of thoughts+emotions. So you get to know someone very well. I'm sure we knew Hendry more than quite a many other people, his likes+dislikes and interests.

Hence even though you may not ever see someone, they're still a person, a friend and someone to chat to. The only difference is that the medium of communication is through text rather than voice.

This. I didn’t ‘know’ the fella in the literal sense of the word, but as a member of a forum I spend too much time on, he was one of the clan. Any loss is a wrench.

 

Thinking of the content of his most recent posts, it’s pretty clear he was going through a tough time. Even the most confident, level headed person could well have struggled with the shiz he was dealing with. It’s just so sad when someone makes a decision which is so final, and feels there really is NO other way. Cap doffed to all those who’ve hit the lowest point, have avoided the trigger finger and slowly dragged themselves back out of the seemingly bottomless, black hole. Not everyone can manage it, as Hendry sadly proved.

 

RIP Hendry.

[dollywobbler]

Vito just passed it's MOT. Would normally be grinning, but seems a bit trivial really. Makes you think about whats really important in life, and old motors aren't really. 

 

No, they are. We can look out for each other, and discuss vacuum cleaners and stuff, but old motors is what brings us together. It isn't unimportant because of what has happened. Sure, maybe grumbling that my S-MX brakes aren't behaving doesn't compare with recent events, but what we do and what we celebrate still matters. It's worth taking a few minutes to absorb the impact, grab a cup of tea and then we move on. We don't forget, we don't just cast his memory aside, but we do continue to celebrate old shite and non-important updates, because that's very much what this thread, and indeed this forum, is all about really. Frankly, I'll never look at Mk6 Escorts in the same way again, and I think that's a good thing.

 

In the spirit of normality returning, I have parked this pair back in the garage again, hiding from the snow.

[twosmoke300]

I was going to post something similar but decided against it as the written word isn’t my strong point . Thank you for doing it for me DW

[beko1987]

I gave Hendry much vacuum help a year or so ago!

 

Yep, normality will return. I grt a new sounding clonk from the front end now over 2 big bumps on my commute home... Although did find the source of the terrible sounding idle, a bit of the air intake is loose and vibrating into a blur at idle. Best lob a cable tie on that at some point...

[drum]

Yeah, well said DW. I reckon this place was good for hendry. Where else would he get such an appreciative audience for his car knowledge? I like to think he was happy when logging on to the beige, writing his long posts telling us about trim levels and car dealerships.

 

My car news for today ...

 

I took the Santa Fe into work this morning because snow. It hadn't been started for two weeks and was displaying what is best described as the 3 amigos of Disco 2 fame. Abs, esp and hand brake warning lights. The Glen road had an inch of snow on it and pressing the brake pedal only seemed to operate the back brakes! Very exciting it was too. Stopping, switching off the engine and restarting seemed to reset it all back to normal, thankfully.

 

I have some sweary dashcam footage as a result.

[RoadworkUK]

Every time something like this happens I realise just how lucky I am.

 

As DW mentioned, two much loved characters from the car-bothering world have succumbed to the worst, most invisible disease of them all so far this year, and it's floored me on both occasions. Having never been troubled by the Black Dog, I can only imagine how bad things must have got.

 

I'm pretty good at sympathy, but it can be impossible to read what's bubbling under the surface, and like many have said, we can only respond to what we see or hear. Autoshite has the potential to be the greatest shite-focused group-therapy source in existence.

 

In fact, lets face it, that's what it already is. Long may it stay that way.

 

God speed and much respect to Hendry, sincere commiserations to everybody his passing affects, and three cheers to everybody who really is ready to listen.

[bigstraight6]

Very sad and tragic news of Hendry’s passing, my condolences to his family and friends..

[Skizzer]

I just caught up after BorniteIdentity posted elsewhere. Aw shit, poor Hendry. I don’t read the open forum or the grumpy thread much so I had no idea. Don’t really know what to say, but it doesn’t feel right not to say anything, as if it didn’t matter.

[Jim Bergerac]

Found out the news about Hendry when I saw the card thread and still struggling to process it and the thought that I'll never see his name online or a fresh post from him again. If you're struggling try and find someone, anyone, to talk to about it and if, on the other hand, you see someone who you think is struggling try to be there for them and support them.

 

Fuck depression.

[AdeMk1]

Very sad news. I'm new here so I didn't have the opportunity to get to know him, sounds like I missed out there.

My thoughts and condolences go out to his family, friends and anyone that knew him.

R.I.P Hendry 

[Parky]

As well as the card, are we sorting out some sort of collection? Maybe get a little something for his daughter (premium bond/s?), something that can go towards her future. Never know she might win a million quid or something