The grumpy thread

[Dan29]

7 hours ago, DavieW said:

Every shop is the same. 

True, this year I got my family eggs from Ann Summers.

[sheffcortinacentre]

56 minutes ago, Dan29 said:

When we got our kittens we put old sheets on the spare bed in case they decided to sleep on it and had some sort of pissy/shitty accident situation.

After six months with no issues, we were reassured that they had adequate control of their bodily functions so we bought a new duvet and cover and installed them on the spare bed.

Literally that same evening, one of them did a massive turd right in the middle of the brand new duvet cover, which I then sat in the next morning.

In both above cases it's because you suddenly got rid off something with all the families smells on, so their natural instincts told them to get their group/clanscent on it before interlopers did.

[Metal Guru]

2 hours ago, sheffcortinacentre said:

In both above cases it's because you suddenly got rid off something with all the families smells on, so their natural instincts told them to get their group/clanscent on it before interlopers did.

I can’t keep my cat off my bed. I’ll have to be more precise with my other two wishes when I see the genie. 

[New POD]

On 13/01/2026 at 09:28, Talbot said:

And now we have cats.  A slighty* safer version of having a tiger as a pet.

There will always be morons who manage to kill themselves in new and inventive ways.  What pisses me off greatly is that as a society we have decided that we have to protect these utter fucking idiots by having safety equipment, warnings, barriers, etc. etc.  I am a very firm believer in removing all of the stupidest safety warnings from everything and just letting things work themselves out.

My personal favourite/worst annoyance is the label on a hot tap that says "warning, hot water".  No shit, really?  a tap with a red dot on the top has hot water coming out of it?  I would never have guessed if it wasn't for the warning!  And they're everywhere.  A massive control panel in an enclosure on an industrial site, with "warning, 240v electricity" on it.  Noooooooooo!!! really?  I thought it was full of puppies and kittens! 

What really pisses me off is that if someone is indeed killed by their own stupidity, we then haver to increase our "safety" to further protect even more idiotic morons.  This has the double-whammy effect of making things even harder for people who do know what they are doing, while simultaneously ensuring that a more idiotic idiot is in the making.

It's exhausting.

One place i worked had very hot water. To kill the bacteria apparently. 

They decided signs were not enough. 

And plumbed in a system you can buy that feeds cold water into the hot supply automatically so that it's at a temperature that almost takes the skin off. 

Where I work now there are automatic taps.  Perfect temp. 

[chaseracer]

7 hours ago, Metal Guru said:

Screwfix doesn’t  have any.

Only a matter of time... 😉

[Metal Guru]

4 hours ago, chaseracer said:

Only a matter of time... 😉

You might be right. They did have Xmas stuff (jumpers, socks, beanie hats).

[Spiny Norman]

Evri courier living up to their reputation. 
Bought a few photography books on eBay, seller claimed he'd be using RM which is fine but instead no doubt due to the weight involved went with Evri instead. 
Like  many people in Glasgow I live in a tenement flat, with a door onto the street leading to stairs up to all the flats within; there's a door buzzer which remained unbuzzed around the time of delivery.
Guess where this bawbag courier left my large, enticing looking parcel? 

Which has now disappeared presumed stolen by one of the local jaggies. 😡
 

[vulgalour]

Got the result from the mandatory appeal of my PIP application back: 0 points.

I don't understand why they're ignoring the info I've put on the forms twice, the gp report, the neurologist report, referrals to therapy, and all the additional info provided.  Trouble is the nature of ME/CFS really, I'm not the same level of incapacitated every day so I either have to be honest and say some days I can do things (oops, not disabled enough, no help for you!) or lie and say every day is my absolute worst and I can't leave my bed (oops, that's benefit fraud!), and since there's no medication for it I can't "prove" there's anything wrong with me, despite the opinion of medical professionals.

I do want to give up with this process and that's the whole point isn't it?

Somewhere I've put the details for an ME/CFS advocacy group aside to help with the independent tribunal, which is the next stage of appeal, but my brain is too scrambled to find it.  Because the ultimate irony of all this has to be that the stress of applying for help is making me more ill, reducing my cognitive ability, and making it harder for me to work.  I'd definitely recommend to anyone if they have any other option available to them to survive financially to not go through the trauma of applying for PIP.  I'm only doing it because I have to.

 

This is also why I've not been so active on the forums of late.  It's a battle just getting through a day.

[Dan29]

10 minutes ago, vulgalour said:

Got the result from the mandatory appeal of my PIP application back: 0 points.

I don't understand why they're ignoring the info I've put on the forms twice, the gp report, the neurologist report, referrals to therapy, and all the additional info provided.  Trouble is the nature of ME/CFS really, I'm not the same level of incapacitated every day so I either have to be honest and say some days I can do things (oops, not disabled enough, no help for you!) or lie and say every day is my absolute worst and I can't leave my bed (oops, that's benefit fraud!), and since there's no medication for it I can't "prove" there's anything wrong with me, despite the opinion of medical professionals.

I do want to give up with this process and that's the whole point isn't it?

Somewhere I've put the details for an ME/CFS advocacy group aside to help with the independent tribunal, which is the next stage of appeal, but my brain is too scrambled to find it.  Because the ultimate irony of all this has to be that the stress of applying for help is making me more ill, reducing my cognitive ability, and making it harder for me to work.  I'd definitely recommend to anyone if they have any other option available to them to survive financially to not go through the trauma of applying for PIP.  I'm only doing it because I have to.

 

This is also why I've not been so active on the forums of late.  It's a battle just getting through a day.

Sorry you're having to go through this, it's shit that the system is making things worse, not better as it should.

Just wondering if this is the advocacy group you were looking for? https://www.actionforme.org.uk/supporting-you/our-free-support-services/adults-advocacy/ 

[comfortablynumb]

I think rejection is an automatic thing currently, in the hope you'll just fuck off and not bother.

MK2 daughter is jumping through hoops to get any sort of support with nonverbal grandson MK2, who is completely in his own world, been rejected twice so far 😞 

[robt100]

1 hour ago, vulgalour said:

Got the result from the mandatory appeal of my PIP application back: 0 points.

I don't understand why they're ignoring the info I've put on the forms twice, the gp report, the neurologist report, referrals to therapy, and all the additional info provided.  Trouble is the nature of ME/CFS really, I'm not the same level of incapacitated every day so I either have to be honest and say some days I can do things (oops, not disabled enough, no help for you!) or lie and say every day is my absolute worst and I can't leave my bed (oops, that's benefit fraud!), and since there's no medication for it I can't "prove" there's anything wrong with me, despite the opinion of medical professionals.

I do want to give up with this process and that's the whole point isn't it?

Somewhere I've put the details for an ME/CFS advocacy group aside to help with the independent tribunal, which is the next stage of appeal, but my brain is too scrambled to find it.  Because the ultimate irony of all this has to be that the stress of applying for help is making me more ill, reducing my cognitive ability, and making it harder for me to work.  I'd definitely recommend to anyone if they have any other option available to them to survive financially to not go through the trauma of applying for PIP.  I'm only doing it because I have to.

 

This is also why I've not been so active on the forums of late.  It's a battle just getting through a day.

Sounds very typical of the PIP process. Which company was your assesment sub-contracted out to? The Mrs' application has been sent off to capita apparently. Although her Fibromyalgia can fall in a similar category to ME/CFS (ie: No obvious identifiers from blood tests etc, variable good/bad days) she does have medication for it, so hopefully that will work in her favour but we will see. Same issue as you, the stress of applying is making it much worse and causing more issues with the fibromyalgia than before. I think having to focus on how bad it gets to put on the forms doesn't help as you end up in a negative focus on your predicament which just promotes feeling worse.

[DavieW]

If I'm watching the Masters snooker, I don’t want adverts for football matches and documentaries. 🤬🤬

[vulgalour]

6 hours ago, Dan29 said:

Sorry you're having to go through this, it's shit that the system is making things worse, not better as it should.

Just wondering if this is the advocacy group you were looking for? https://www.actionforme.org.uk/supporting-you/our-free-support-services/adults-advocacy/ 

This is the one I was trying to find, thank you!

 

@robt100 I really hope you have an easier time of it, fibro is another really unpleasant condition to have to live with, you don't need PIP application stress on top of that.  You've both got my sympathies with all of this.

[hairnet]

where did sunday go

watched bit of motd on sat then listened to sounds of 80s

went to bed at 130

woke up 10 mins ago thinking its 4-5am sunday

no its 1210 monday

wtf

[Tickman]

21 hours ago, vulgalour said:

or lie and say every day is my absolute worst and I can't leave my bed (oops, that's benefit fraud!), and since there's no medication for it I can't "prove" there's anything wrong with me, despite the opinion of medical professionals.

Just snipped this bit.
I don't think it is a lie to describe the worst day.
It is unpredictable so you can have a worse day everyday, no harm in describing that day.

[New POD]

CFS/ME can go fuck off in the sea... 

(As can the medical professions attitude to it...in general..occassionally you meet a doctor or nurse that isnt a patronising twat) 

Note: I don't have it... but my wife does.  She hasn't claimed benefits in all the time she's had it (20 years) because she didn't need to stress of it, plus about the same time she was diagnosed a local councillor was videoed running up the steps of the council office to a meeting and this was used as evidence to convict him for benefit fraud.  What they didn't video was the post exertional malaise that probably hit 2 days later and put him in bed for 3 days. 

Had a great Christmas? Come the new year you'll be unable to move or think straight for a week. 

 

[New POD]

17 minutes ago, Tickman said:

Just snipped this bit.
I don't think it is a lie to describe the worst day.
It is unpredictable so you can have a worse day any day, no harm in describing that day.

You probably need to describe the day that you'd need to have every day in order not to crash and burn 2 days later. 

That day would involve getting up.  Someone providing breakfast (maybe a tray set up in the corner of the bedroom by your partner before they went to work) . Resting from getting up. A walk around the garden. Some light reading. A sleep. Making lunch for yourself. Resting for a couple of hours.  Making a list of jobs you need your partner to do so that you can get through the next few days.  Sleep until your partner comes home from work. Hope that you have enough energy to sit in the car whilst he drives you 10 mins to see the sea.  Go home and have dinner cooked for you. Watch telly with partner, until his bed time. 

If you add extra tasks into this day. 2 days later you will not wash and stay in pjs. You will struggle to eat breakfast. You won't be able to make lunch unless its a pingable meal. You won't be able to read, write or watch the telly. Going in the car will make you want to vomit with exhaustion.  Sleep will not help this exhaustion. 

[dozeydustman]

On 12/01/2026 at 10:34, dozeydustman said:

Received some pretty devastating new today about a colleague and good friend of mine, and also a long time lurker on here by the name of ezefloat.

Diagnosed with heart failure Saturday, his daughter phoned me last night and he also now has a ruptured bowel. Too weak to operate on and make the repair or even give him a bag. He’s 54 so no age really.

I’m going to see him in hospital today and geared myself up as being the last time.

It’s my sad duty to report that @ezefloat passed away this afternoon. He’d been a lurker for about 5 years and finally signed up when I got the 205 but just continued to lurk.

He was a good friend and colleague and despite being as daft as a brush 99% of the time he was a sound fellow and a gentleman.

[ruffgeezer]

49 minutes ago, dozeydustman said:

It’s my sad duty to report that @ezefloat passed away this afternoon. He’d been a lurker for about 5 years and finally signed up when I got the 205 but just continued to lurk.

He was a good friend and colleague and despite being as daft as a brush 99% of the time he was a sound fellow and a gentleman.

Truly sorry, DD. 

[High Jetter]

It's rough, and as you get older it becomes more frequent. Making the effort to see them etc helps complete the memories.

[108]

3 hours ago, dozeydustman said:

It’s my sad duty to report that @ezefloat passed away this afternoon. He’d been a lurker for about 5 years and finally signed up when I got the 205 but just continued to lurk.

He was a good friend and colleague and despite being as daft as a brush 99% of the time he was a sound fellow and a gentleman.

I’m very sorry to hear this dd. I hope your friend didn’t suffer at the end. 
 

A glass has been raised. Take care. 
 

54 is no age. 

[Lord Sterling]

Sorry to hear this @dozeydustman 😟

[dozeydustman]

Thanks all. I did get to see him last Monday and he was in good spirits; I had planned to see him on Friday but he sent me a message saying he had lost his voice and only wanted to see his family, by which time I knew the writing was on the wall and was expecting him to conk out within a couple of days.

[Zelandeth]

I just had to climb into my car through the boot because of how close two bloody SUVs (Range Rover and Porsche) had parked to me in a car park.

[captain_70s]

32 minutes ago, Zelandeth said:

I just had to climb into my car through the boot because of how close two bloody SUVs (Range Rover and Porsche) had parked to me in a car park.

I raise you this "effort".

You'll note somebody has snapped the driver's side wiper off...

Standard hospital parking where there are a third as many spaces as required so anything not double yellowed is fair game.

[Zelandeth]

9 minutes ago, captain_70s said:

I raise you this "effort".

You'll note somebody has snapped the driver's side wiper off...

Standard hospital parking where there are a third as many spaces as required so anything not double yellowed is fair game.

One of our family used to work at the John Radcliffe Hospital in Oxford, so that sort of chaos is something I'm very used to seeing!

[comfortablynumb]

QE hospital in kings Lynn is as bad, they've actively fenced off all the grassed areas to stop people parking on them.

How about you spend the money on creating more parking spaces, then people won't have to.

It's now at the stage that even with a blue badge, you've got to get in the carpark an hour before your appointment, in order to get parked 🙄

[Dan29]

3 hours ago, Zelandeth said:

I just had to climb into my car through the boot because of how close two bloody SUVs (Range Rover and Porsche) had parked to me in a car park.

[ruffgeezer]

1 hour ago, Dan29 said:

That Withnail and I remake was shit.

[Wibble]

4 minutes ago, ruffgeezer said:

That Withnail and I remake was shit.

That’s Steve Wright, isn’t it?