The grumpy thread

[Snipes]

Yeah my own fault, I should have copper slipped them or taken them off entirely. They bring nothing to the party. In a fit of rage/efficiency I also removed the shiny plastic wheel bolt caps, because with the current run of luck, I'll not be able to change a tyre due to forgetting the stupid puller thing.

As an ex-tyre dude I have no sympathy for the fitters of snazzy valve caps. I hope you've learned your lesson lol.

[Pillock]

 

 

Did you try flowers tied to a breezeblock through the window ?

Edited. Sorry Podster but I'm failing to see a reason to even try. I guess there might be something "off camera" - like she's normally perfectly nice, or is well fit or something. But based on what you've said it's just mental abuse, pure and simple. "You need to do exactly what I'm thinking to make this right, but you don't deserve a clue. Good luck, the clock is ticking".

 

I dunno. I got out of a relationship where I ended up apologising for EVERYTHING like the time I once slipped on ice and picked up a limp, or hours of screaming because when I went to the shop they had no skimmed milk. My fault, sorry. Won't happen again.

 

Maybe you need to make a list of the good things and then see where you stand?

[dollywobbler]

 skimmed milk. 

 

Well that's a reason to run away all on its own! You might as well lick a cow for all the satisfaction you'll get from a cuppa with skimmed milk.

[Mrcento]

I don't understand why I don't leave. 28 years thrown away ??

The belief in marriage vows.

In sickness and in health.

She has reasons to be sad due to her health. And she's obviously menopausal. And vitamin D deficient. But she's always polite and objective with everyone else.

With me it's like a fucking roller coaster.

She says she loves me, but then directs all her pain and frustrations at me.

I don't want to hurt her more by saying it's over but I have nothing left.

 

Have you spoken to anyone who knows/has access to both sides?

 

You really need to speak to someone who can help in a professional or personal way, If not a pro, then perhaps a mutual friend? A relative? maybe some of her family? Kids? (i saw you said they were grown up next post down). Somebody who can listen to both sides and convey things from a somewhat neutral stance towards her (and perhaps you, if she opens up to them) and if nothing else, get the lines of communication and further options open.

 

It's clear by your posts that it's (understandably) dragging you down, how she is acting is hammering you and all the thinking and second guessing is weighing even more heavily on you, If nothing else, perhaps talking in person with someone closer to it could be a way of unloading that weight?

[BorniteIdentity]

Yesterday, woke up to find the dog staring at me. Told it to fuck off but it proceeded to stalk me from mid distance for the rest of the day. No sign of the dick by the end of the day so went to bed in a moderately good place. The fucker woke me this morning once again, this time more persistently. Just gonna ignore the attention seeking little shit for a few days. He hates it when I do that.

[Kiltox]

That's what I thought it'd be , maybe £50 , not £214

 

I think admiral are cheap if you're a perfect driver with no convictions for anything ever but stray off that straight line and they'll hammer you , I bet it's one fault claim and next years premium has £fuck.off instead of a figure

I don’t have any convictions but do have a habit of hitting things. They have always been pretty decent.

[Pillock]

Have you tried hitting less decent things? They're cheaper.

[dollywobbler]

I don't understand why I don't leave. 28 years thrown away ??

The belief in marriage vows.

In sickness and in health.

She has reasons to be sad due to her health. And she's obviously menopausal. And vitamin D deficient. But she's always polite and objective with everyone else.

With me it's like a fucking roller coaster.

She says she loves me, but then directs all her pain and frustrations at me.

I don't want to hurt her more by saying it's over but I have nothing left.

Might be worth trying Relate or similar. You need advice from people other than randoms on the internet.

[fairkens]

Might be worth trying Relate or similar. You need advice from people other than randoms on the internet.

This ^^

 

 

From witnessing the deterioration of Mrs Kens relationship with her mum I would say that the menopause has a lot to answer for but this is beyond the competence of an internet forum.

 

Hope you are able to work it out

[AlabamaShrimp]

I don't seem to post on here anymore so let's solve that with a moan

 

Text from work last night, boss moaning that some figures are wrong and don't match up with what other people have. Says both me and they guy I took off numbers equal about half what they should be. I've worked it out that the boss has input the stats wrong but he won't admit it, wankers gone and thrown the originals done on the day away so he can't double check.

 

Also had a lot of tooth pain for the last week. Been to the dentist who found nothing on the x-ray 'think it's just sensitive'.

Doing some kind of weird sucking on it yesterday and the filling popped, loads of blood come out and now there's a hole in it. Why didn't they use take the filling out and have a look like I wanted in the first place...

[SiC]

 

FFS. Uber it is today then.

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

I don't understand why I don't leave. 28 years thrown away ??

The belief in marriage vows.

In sickness and in health.

She has reasons to be sad due to her health. And she's obviously menopausal. And vitamin D deficient. But she's always polite and objective with everyone else.

With me it's like a fucking roller coaster.

She says she loves me, but then directs all her pain and frustrations at me.

I don't want to hurt her more by saying it's over but I have nothing left.

 

PodFella - seriously, seriously - see professionals or it's toast!

Sadly my little one was a new arrival and I was also working away or travelling…..  - so I stuck it for 4yrs until I walked. All the time trying to get her to see someone, together or alone - either way. It won't be easy - my ex wouldn't ever go... of course the minute I had a place sorted, the usual - we could've gone to counselling etc... bullshit.

I was screamed at for seeing friends, doing sports and of course, the cars. Ended up I didn't see mates for over 2yrs.... fuck that ever again.

I left - I was finally into the Lindy Hop I wanted to do..... she makes a show and big noise of going to a demo of it... of course, since then - no passtimes and not doing anything - but 'could have if I'd only tried' etc.... absolute bollocks

It's mental torture fella - you're in the place I was 4yrs ago. Don't do it to yourself - I didn't bother with the ultimatum as I'd eventually given up on the bi-polar nutjob. I know it's a sickness but you have to draw a line - for your own health.

I'm always available on PM if you need to vent, warble or just blah blah……

 

Best wishes dude.

[mrbenn]

Sarcastic Tone : Gosh. Wish I'd thought of that.

 

Earnest Tone: I am inclined to believe that flowers will be seen as an insult. At least she can't complain she only gets flowers when she's upset. I buy flowers at random times. Just because.

 

As mentioned above, I/we don't know you or your wife. We don't know you as people, how to communicate with each other or your history. So all we can offer is well intentioned advice. You clearly need more help than that.

 

Best of luck.

[Tadhg Tiogar]

Rick has just whatsapped me laughing about Rolls Royce prices ( he’s worked for the specialists) and suggested again you call the teddington place.

 

Noted, I'll send an e-mail.....

[New POD]

As mentioned above, I/we don't know you or your wife. We don't know you as people, how to communicate with each other or your history. So all we can offer is well intentioned advice. You clearly need more help than that.

 

Best of luck.

and I know that it's a very male dominated forum that I'm venting on. So likey to be more on my side, but when I try to see it from a female perspective I just see my wife in self destruct mode. She must think that I'm a proper twat who likes making her miserable.

[pandamonium]

Yesterday, woke up to find the dog staring at me. Told it to fuck off but it proceeded to stalk me from mid distance for the rest of the day. No sign of the dick by the end of the day so went to bed in a moderately good place. The fucker woke me this morning once again, this time more persistently. Just gonna ignore the attention seeking little shit for a few days. He hates it when I do that.

 

Got a bit confused for a minute, thinking this was advice for New POD...

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

and I know that it's a very male dominated forum that I'm venting on. So likey to be more on my side, but when I try to see it from a female perspective I just see my wife in self destruct mode. She must think that I'm a proper twat who likes making her miserable.

 

POD - it isn't just that. No matter the gender - if someone told me they were driven to the point of tears/breakdown I'd say the same. It just isn't healthy. You are correct in the fact your missus is on a destructive path - but it can drag you (and others) into the vortex and you are the only one who can decide the fight is

1. worth it

2. winnable

3. going to be a joint effort

If you can't answer a yes to all 3 of the above you're going to regret it.

I didn't actually realise how bad it was until I took pictures of our place, the state it was in.... and friends had an intervention - thinking I was on drugs! I broke down completely to a very close friend and the walls came down..... Once I'd admitted I couldn't do it alone - and she was in no state to fight for us either - it actually got a little easier. Pick your battles and keep your calm - vent to those outside the whole thing certainly, but don't take advice from all and sundry. Only you and your wife can get to professionals, talk to each other or call it a day.

I'll give you a single example - the ONLY time my ex came to me...… didn't reject me or tell me I wasn't attractive etc.... was when I had signed the contract on the new place - then and only then did she curl up on the sofa, with a sobbing fruitcake(me) and hold me - saying 'we'll be together when we're old'..... too little too late. It reminded me of my parents - and my dad has regretted it every single day of his life since he 'gave it another go' (mum drove him to attempt suicide and he still stayed!) - you can repeat mistakes (yours and others) - or you can learn from them.

 

I really hope you can work something out - whatever decision YOU come to…………

As I said - PM any time...…….

 

John

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

Okay, so the Hyundai Matrix that belongs to the guy who bought my 164 over two months ago is STILL outside.

 

Council didn't respond to abandoned vehicle report. I have had no comms from the guy for two months now either.

 

What do I do? Like seriously, because he lives like 200 miles away.

 

 

Apply for the V5 and get a key cut. It's yours. 

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

 tell her to fuck off

 

 

 

 

Yup.

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

I don't want to hurt her more by saying it's over but I have nothing left.

 

 

No, but you packing things and leaving will certainly put the wind up her, and the shoe on your foot.

 

Fuck wedding vows btw.

[bramz7]

Apply for the V5 and get a key cut. It's yours.

 

Anyone want a Hyundai Matrix?

[dean36014]

Smash a window, release brakes and push into the road so its blocking the road. Then report to council/police. Hopefully it will then be removed as its a hazzard.

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

Smash a window, release brakes and push into the road so its blocking the road. Then report to council/police. Hopefully it will then be removed as its a hazzard.

 

This…….… easiest option by far

[wuvvum]

Or poke a hole in the fuel tank. Defo a hazard if it's leaking pez.

[Timewaster]

Fuck wedding vows btw.

I've said this before, I am not convinced that you are a bona fide minister of the church.

[Tadhg Tiogar]

....Fuck wedding vows btw.

 

"Abolish Divorce. Stay Single"?

[purplebargeken]

Anyone want a Hyundai Matrix?

 

Hmm, do like them.
 

[andy18s]

Or poke a hole in the fuel tank. Defo a hazard if it's leaking pez.

Removing the fuel filler cap and hanging some hose from it,then call it in will have the same effect without being too destructive

[New POD]

Got a bit confused for a minute, thinking this was advice for New POD...

Brilliant. She's not been the same since the dog died.

[Guest Hooli]

Anyone want a Hyundai Matrix?

 

A lucky* roffle winner would love* it.