The grumpy thread

[Pillock]

Just logged into Dart Charge and it's debited me for one crossing, which is right - the M25 east was so knackered in the evening I went the other way past Heathrow.

 

However it's still frustrating that they can't tell you what crossings you've made within 48 hours, but they'll fine you less than 48 hours later if you don't pay.

The lady I spoke to was lovely, but my concern was more to do with my lease company potentially charging me an admin fee (as some hire companies do) if they get a letter as a result of me being a naughty boy in their car.

 

Still, it seems to be working now.

[fordperv]

Old Man: I don't mind you fixing things on my car, but it's my car, not yours. I want to do it myself on my own time, I'm not as mechanically inept as you seem to think. It's just annoying to go to fix something and find someone else has randomly come along and done it. Now I've got nothing to do and no sense of achievment. You're my dad ffs, you should know better.

Ask me before you touch it, I've had to tell you several times. I want to fix things myself.

Sorry if this comes across as harsh but

 

I would give anything in this world to fix motors with my dad again they were the best times ever, obviously he enjoys helping you so get him involved with your shite fixing and stop moaning, trust me it will be crushing when he's not around amymore so enjoy the happy memory making

[Supernaut]

Sorry if this comes across as harsh but

 

I would give anything in this world to fix motors with my dad again they were the best times ever, obviously he enjoys helping you so get him involved with your shite fixing and stop moaning, trust me it will be crushing when he's not around amymore so enjoy the happy memory making

This. My parents are getting on a bit (both 70 now, I'm not even 30 yet... youngest of 4), and I always try to go to their farm to do jobs on the car. Partly because they have nice big barns for me to work in (I just have a street on a hill) and partly because my dad is really helpful / has loads of obscure, even home-made tools, and partly because it's just nice to see them.

[Ghosty]

Sorry if this comes across as harsh but

 

I would give anything in this world to fix motors with my dad again they were the best times ever, obviously he enjoys helping you so get him involved with your shite fixing and stop moaning, trust me it will be crushing when he's not around amymore so enjoy the happy memory making

 

He's not helping me though, he's just doing things behind my back with no consultation. I take exception to that. Whenever I ask for help he just does everything and won't let me do anything.

[Noel Tidybeard]

I've had a run of higher-end vehicles recently through work. Today that run ended with a PINK Fiat 500

[BorniteIdentity]

He's not helping me though, he's just doing things behind my back with no consultation. I take exception to that. Whenever I ask for help he just does everything and won't let me do anything.

May I?

 

It’s time to move out.

 

I moved out early. 17. I roughed it with friends, rented and then bought. It has given me 20/20 vision of the difficulties of being a parent. I became a Dad at 21, and it all suddenly clicked. Every single parent does their best - almost without fail.

 

If you don’t think your old man fits into that category; why live under the same roof? Spread your wings and see for yourself.

 

You may think I’m a humpbacked dog turd for saying this, but I’m pretty sure it’ll all make sense one day.

 

Good luck man.

[vulgalour]

Sometimes personalities don't click.  I've had a rough relationship with my Dad, for various reasons, over the years.  We both have our faults, we both try to be good people but we butt heads too often because of who we are.  From reading Ghosty's posts I think this is more the case than either one of them actually being a twat and I can empathise with Ghosty's situation.  I can't abide when I'm steamrollered with a job, or worse it's done behind my back!  I'd far rather work with someone and them be patient as I learn and my Dad, it seems, would far rather the job just be done so I don't need to worry about it.

 

Relationships are tricky and when it's your own family, even more so.  Moving out to go it alone isn't as easy at is used to be either.  I did it when I was 18 because of personality clash more than anything else and while I don't regret it, logically and practically it was a pretty stupid thing to do because I effectively ended up homeless and jobless as a result and only really got back on my feet through sheer luck.

 

In Ghosty's position the best he can really hope for is that he has the financial security to move somewhere of his own or that he and his Dad can resolve their differences and work with one another, rather than against.  Until that happens, the situation is likely to continue.

[Frogchod]

Throttle cable snapped in the van today

Had to do a bit of bodgery to get home, hand throttle and manual transmission was interesting*

Bit of electrical cable, a bungie, and a screwdriver got me home.

A bit* dodgy, but no nuns, kittens or me died

[Noel Tidybeard]

He's not helping me though, he's just doing things behind my back with no consultation. I take exception to that. Whenever I ask for help he just does everything and won't let me do anything.

 

if it bothers you so much why do you leave the keys where they can be found? no key = no entry = no fixy

 

and as you seem to be working ZERO hour at the mo i would think FREE fixes would be a good thing regardless of any dented pride- i wish my dad was still alive to fix things i didn't ask for!

[Supernaut]

I can't abide when I'm steamrollered with a job, or worse it's done behind my back!  I'd far rather work with someone and them be patient as I learn and my boss, it seems, would far rather the job just be done so I don't need to worry about it.

Edited to reflect my situation at work. :/

[Kiltox]

May I?

 

It’s time to move to South Ayrshire.

Shiter discount available

[andy18s]

Phoned Dart Charge. None the wiser!

She took the reg, asked when I'd crossed, and then said "oh yes, if that crossing shows up then it'll be covered by your account"

 

Hang on, IF? That seems to imply she didn't see anything for 7.30am on the 24th and she's just being generic. Does the system often lose people?

Couple of years back I used the crossing to collect an interior

Went online and made the payment,all sorted

6months later I got the NIP about non payment,and how they now wanted something stupid like £90each way

Armed myself with copies of the payments and got ready for a right argument

Assistant on the phone couldn't have been more helpful

They acknowledged the payments had gone through originally but "the system had a habit of throwing a load of random fines"

They asked me to make another £5 to confirm the source,which was immediately refunded and the NIP cancelled

[AlabamaShrimp]

My mate wants me to change his front brakes. He thinks it'll take about 10 minutes and cost sod all.

 

Does he not know me at all?? It'll take me hours, I'll break something or it'll all go tits up

[Ghosty]

if it bothers you so much why do you leave the keys where they can be found? no key = no entry = no fixy

 

They're in my room... further why I'm pissed off.

[wuvvum]

Aye, OK, I'll give you that one.  Bit of an invasion of privacy there.

[Noel Tidybeard]

They're in my room... further why I'm pissed off.

 

in ur pocket with house key would be better

[Heidel_Kakao]

in ur pocket with house key would be better

He may already have a spare set of keys made up! I appreciate that sometimes it's easier said than done but I would echo the suggestions of getting to the point where you can move out. I could never go back to living with my mother permanently but I don't mind stopping over for a few days occasionally.

[NorfolkNWeigh]

Ref Dart Charge, don't forget to remove cars from your account when you sell them.

I got an email telling me my balance was low a couple of weeks ago, funny thinks I, haven't been over for ages.

So I check my account, sure enough DU61TYP has crossed 3 times in August and September. Pity I sold the fecker in March!!!

Needless to say,I've updated my account.

[MikeR]

when it takes 20 mins of cussing and "what do I do now " with the set top box ......to find somat to watch

 

 

I have come to the conclusion that TV technology and her indoors don't mix , its only taken 30 years

[gordonbennet]

Funny thing about being a dad, your young ones will always be your young ones, you'd take a bullet for them without a moments hesitation, even when they have grown kids of their own they are still your young ones, dad doesn't mean anything by it, he's just doing what he's always done, looking after his lad and helping out.

 

My dad's been dead nigh on 30 years now, there isn't a day goes by that i don't wish i could rest my old eyes on his kind face nor hear his words of encouragement or advice just once more, there were no shades of grey with my dad, black was black and right was right.

Yes its time to move on, you'll miss him more than you know.

[Ghosty]

He may already have a spare set of keys made up! I appreciate that sometimes it's easier said than done but I would echo the suggestions of getting to the point where you can move out. I could never go back to living with my mother permanently but I don't mind stopping over for a few days occasionally.

 

I'm thinking about it. 'move out' is currently a can of worms, though. I have a degree I need to finish first, and I'm not doing that for this year at least.

[wuvvum]

Job application forms, again.  Finally managed to cobble together some sort of answer to the smeg-awful questions they ask.  Then wanted to go back to the first page of the form to check one of the fields - which was fine, except it then subsequently "forgot" everything I'd filled in on the following pages.  Clicked out of it then logged back in, but that didn't bring my previous answers back, so started filling everything back in again, clicking through the pages, and it turned out the application form was now completely different to when I first started filling it in.

 

Eventually got to the end, clicked "submit", and got the page I'd seen before saying "Your application has been saved, click here to return to it".  So I thought "FFS, has it submitted or not?".  Clicked on the "return to application" button and it took me to a blank page in the form, which the numbering informed me was page 9 of 8.  Clicked "next" and landed on page 10 of 9. 

 

Also there was a superfluous apostrophe in the job title.

 

It's a large, well-known and reputable company, so I'm putting the application glitches down to "Because HR".  And hoping the form has submitted OK...

 

 

EDIT:  FFS again - just been to my profile page on the company's website and it says I have one partially completed application, which is 160% complete.

[vulgalour]

Another case of farming out a job to the lowest bidder, rather than the most competent.  I swear, job applications are part of the ridiculous Krypton Factor of getting a job these days and I dread having to go through the whole rigmarole probably for a job I don't want.  Keeps me focused on making my own business work so I don't have to go through the application process!

[andy18s]

Job application forms, again. Finally managed to cobble together some sort of answer to the smeg-awful questions they ask. Then wanted to go back to the first page of the form to check one of the fields - which was fine, except it then subsequently "forgot" everything I'd filled in on the following pages. Clicked out of it then logged back in, but that didn't bring my previous answers back, so started filling everything back in again, clicking through the pages, and it turned out the application form was now completely different to when I first started filling it in.

 

Eventually got to the end, clicked "submit", and got the page I'd seen before saying "Your application has been saved, click here to return to it". So I thought "FFS, has it submitted or not?". Clicked on the "return to application" button and it took me to a blank page in the form, which the numbering informed me was page 9 of 8. Clicked "next" and landed on page 10 of 9.

 

Also there was a superfluous apostrophe in the job title.

 

It's a large, well-known and reputable company, so I'm putting the application glitches down to "Because HR". And hoping the form has submitted OK...

 

 

EDIT: FFS again - just been to my profile page on the company's website and it says I have one partially completed application, which is 160% complete.

Maybe making sense of the application form is part of the whole process?

(insert smiley faces)

[captain_70s]

Aye, OK, I'll give you that one.  Bit of an invasion of privacy there.

My parent's rule was that for as long as I lived in their house they had the right to enter my room whenever. My Dad's favourite game was to sneak up the stairs and up to my bedroom door while on his way to the bathroom and then fling it open violently, he'd never actually come in, just liked the fact I'd start yelling bloody murder.

 

Having said that I used to nag him to fix the Doloshite all the time, he usually did quite a good job. Apart from the time he attached the battery terminals backwards because it's on the opposite side to the other Dolomite...

[Mr_Bo11ox]

That sounds like borderline psychological abuse to me

[M'coli]

^^^ It is. Some parents are like that.

[BorniteIdentity]

I remember my Dad once burst in on me masturbating. I still remember it to this day. He said “Don’t do that son, it’ll send you blind”

 

I said “Dad, I’m over here”.

[BorniteIdentity]

(I thank you)

[M'coli]

Job application forms, again. Finally managed to cobble together some sort of answer to the smeg-awful questions they ask. Then wanted to go back to the first page of the form to check one of the fields - which was fine, except it then subsequently "forgot" everything I'd filled in on the following pages. Clicked out of it then logged back in, but that didn't bring my previous answers back, so started filling everything back in again, clicking through the pages, and it turned out the application form was now completely different to when I first started filling it in.

 

Eventually got to the end, clicked "submit", and got the page I'd seen before saying "Your application has been saved, click here to return to it". So I thought "FFS, has it submitted or not?". Clicked on the "return to application" button and it took me to a blank page in the form, which the numbering informed me was page 9 of 8. Clicked "next" and landed on page 10 of 9.

 

Also there was a superfluous apostrophe in the job title.

 

It's a large, well-known and reputable company, so I'm putting the application glitches down to "Because HR". And hoping the form has submitted OK...

 

 

EDIT: FFS again - just been to my profile page on the company's website and it says I have one partially completed application, which is 160% complete.

I hate job application forms like this. You think you've finished a section and they throw another set of questions at you.

If I can offer some advice...open a blank Word document (notepad works too), copy each question into it and your answer as you go along, if the Web page crashes and loses it it's still in your (saved) word document. It also means that the next time you have one of these to complete, you aren't starting from scratch.