The grumpy thread

[philibusmo]

I'm out of surgery. I now have a metal plate in my arm which will make airports more exciting but there's been a miscommunication somewhere as the surgeon wasn't aware my wrist is also properly kippered so nothing seems to have been done about that and my thumb still doesn't work.

[philibusmo]

Amusingly according to the nurse, when I first began to come round from the general anaesthetic I just shouted 'car' repeatedly at her when she tried asking me questions.

[Ghosty]

Got a very close friend visiting Manchester from Los Angeles for the first two weeks next month that's staying in Macclesfield (she likes Joy Division). Go on to Confused to see if I can get temp insurance for either of my parents' cars for the two weeks so I can drive about so don't have to keep using the train... nope, can't get any quotes at all. Figures for the A4 I suppose, but the Bini, eh starting to feel a bit odd. It's bloody automatic as well.

Tried a reg for a random 1 litre Swift... £75/day, £440 for 16 days.

 

WTaF?

 

I'm 20 and I've had a full, clean licence for two and a half years.

A year's insurance on the same 1.0 Swift would probably be about £1500. 

Insurance makes no bloody sense. Can't rent a car either as I'd have to be several years older than I am, and it'd cost more.

Trains and my bike it is, then.

[Richard]

Have you asked about getting temporary cover on the car's existing policy? It was going to be £45 to cover Robin (20, new licence) on the 850 for SF weekend but we ended up adding him permanently.

[cms206]

Try the RAC. I added a myself onto a car for about 70 quid for five days recently.

 

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[purplebargeken]

Coming round and shouting 'car', that is fucking priceless! You could have found an easier way of having sex with nurses you know.

[purplebargeken]

Supernaut - you have the right idea about wanting to move to improve your prospects, sounds like nothing will change much if you stay put and the resentments will eventually add up, making you an unhappier bunny.

 

Canada is an amazing place, I was there on and off from the age of 16 and had a wonderful time, the folk there were uber friendly and welcoming. I wish I'd emigrated at times but here I am. What if is a pain in the arse.

 

List your concerns and try and work logically through them as best you can, in the meantime, do some research about heading away. It might give you that final bit of oomph to overcome the wibbles. You never know. Good luck mate.

[chaseracer]

My sister-in-law's stepdaughter married a Canuck and moved out to the Land of Moose & Maple Syrup a couple of years ago.  She's very happy there - says it's the best decision she ever made - but I suspect there wasn't a great deal keeping her in Watford... 

[STUNO]

A terrible dilemma for me... Philibusmo would like a visit tomorrow because he is bored in Hosp. BUT Jon has also asked me to help with a brake job on a Peugeot. Am I right insisting that Peugeots don't need brakes due to regular FTP's , but Jon And I should both go to commiserate and say sympathetic things to Philibusmo.

P.S. It is all of an hours drive to the hospital. 

[purplebargeken]

Drive slowly to the hospital, wheel Phil to the carpark and then fix the Pug. He can be wheeled to various carpark locations for better views and so on. However, he may be too busy having much sex with nurses due to his car orientated chat up lines.

[philibusmo]

A terrible dilemma for me... Philibusmo would like a visit tomorrow because he is bored in Hosp. BUT Jon has also asked me to help with a brake job on a Peugeot. Am I right insisting that Peugeots don't need brakes due to regular FTP's , but Jon And I should both go to commiserate and say sympathetic things to Philibusmo.

P.S. It is all of an hours drive to the hospital.

I've been told that I might be out of hospital quite early tomorrow. It just depends on if my thumb decides to start working again. If it's working and my arm hasn't swelled up then i'll head off come morning if not then I will probably require more surgery. Unfortunately communication isn't a strong point here so it's a bit of a struggle to get correct information about what's actually going to happen to me.

[philibusmo]

Also if you two can smuggle me out I'd love to help fix the brakes. I've spent 1 day doing nothing and am going out of my mind. They told me to not get my cast wet, but they didn't mention not getting brake fluid on it.

[Supernaut]

Regarding Canada, I specifically like Ontario (even though Canadian natives seem to shit on it).

 

I also have a relative in Ottawa, my mum's cousin, and he's a total leg-end. I stayed with him for 2 weeks back in October 2014 and I didn't want to leave Ottawa. It's a truly beautiful city. I even rented a car and drove around Ontario a bit.

 

I seriously, seriously just wanted to stay there.

[The Moog]

Got a very close friend visiting Manchester from Los Angeles for the first two weeks next month that's staying in Macclesfield (she likes Joy Division). Go on to Confused to see if I can get temp insurance for either of my parents' cars for the two weeks so I can drive about so don't have to keep using the train... nope, can't get any quotes at all. Figures for the A4 I suppose, but the Bini, eh starting to feel a bit odd. It's bloody automatic as well.

Tried a reg for a random 1 litre Swift... £75/day, £440 for 16 days.

Take out Diamond insurance and cancel in the 2 week cooling off period - £25 each time. Done that 4 times now when I have gone to collect new cars

 

. My problem is that I've never really lived anywhere else, and as much as I want to, I hit a mental brick wall of anxiety / completely lacking the guts to just make that move. I know for certain that if I move I can make a better life for myself by earning more and living somewhere cheaper, but I just... can't do it.

I particularly like the idea of moving across to Canada, but the thought of the logistics of that almost makes me melt!

 

Just do it. The worst that could happen is you come home (well no the worse that could happen is that you marry a crazy Canadian lady who abuses you steals all your money and passport, my friend learnt that one). 

 

I did a student exchange and lived in Newfie during Uni. It was great and nuts at the same time. 

 

I packed in job and went to Cambodia for a year with no plan. Yes I had some savings but by chatting to people found work and contacts easily enough. People always say "ohh thats brave" ... what compared to sitting still being miserable? Its not brave its the only option. 

 

The only thing I will say that if you are running away from problems then they are still with you when you move. Just cause it is warmer/colder/speak a foreign language life is still life. 

 

Cambodia was great because people who lived out there fell into two camps -

 

Escape from reality and live like royalty - People who couldnt cope/rejected by the normal world. They used to lord it up over everyone, wanted it to be a bit like home and wanted to save the poor people of the foreign land who had no morals and spoke funny. Mostly proper proper proper pricks 

 

Wanting something more from life  - People who wanted to be constructive and add to their community and have shared learning. These people tended to be ultra positive and achieved loads. You can soon spot them. If you make friends with these guys you will do amazing shit you would never think of doing (going to the opening of the ASEAN Conference at Angkor Watt with massive theatre shows, diving to help find a crashed ww2 plane etc) 

 

Once you make the decision, the rest becomes easy.  Talk to Bucketeer at SF or Knockhill to see what can be achieved. 

[Sheefag]

Amusingly according to the nurse, when I first began to come round from the general anaesthetic I just shouted 'car' repeatedly at her when she tried asking me questions.

 

Philibusmo recently.........

 

[oldcars]

Sounds grim Phil. wishing you a speedy recovery.

[Angrydicky]

My grump is I've had to stop working on the Sierra to go and pick up no. 2 sister from school after an exam. I'm sitting outside in the A40 like an idiot and she's half an hour late out.

[phil_lihp]

Blimey, was not expecting to see that.  Get well soon Phil, hope everything mends up OK.  

[HillmanImp]

I packed in job and went to Cambodia for a year with no plan. Yes I had some savings but by chatting to people found work and contacts easily enough. People always say "ohh thats brave" ... what compared to sitting still being miserable? Its not brave its the only option. 

 

The only thing I will say that if you are running away from problems then they are still with you when you move. Just cause it is warmer/colder/speak a foreign language life is still life. 

 

Cambodia was great because people who lived out there fell into two camps -

 

Escape from reality and live like royalty - People who couldnt cope/rejected by the normal world. They used to lord it up over everyone, wanted it to be a bit like home and wanted to save the poor people of the foreign land who had no morals and spoke funny. Mostly proper proper proper pricks 

 

Wanting something more from life  - People who wanted to be constructive and add to their community and have shared learning. These people tended to be ultra positive and achieved loads. You can soon spot them. If you make friends with these guys you will do amazing shit you would never think of doing (going to the opening of the ASEAN Conference at Angkor Watt with massive theatre shows, diving to help find a crashed ww2 plane etc) 

 

 

I had always wanted to make some cash and live next to a lake in somewhere like Thailand taking tourists on fishing trips but it never came to be.

 

My mate made a bit of money in the housing boom and when he was travelling through Cambodia bought the guest house he was staying at and was there for a few years though, sort of living my dream. http://web.archive.org/web/20100214151035/http://www.topbanana.biz/index.htm

 

I would say do something whilst you can. If it doesnt work, you can always come back.

 

And Phil, that recount of your accident was scary monkeys, get well soon.

[AMC Rebel]

Been thinking about getting a small tent. Looked in the free Mountain Warehouse catalogue - what the actual flip is a showerproof tent? Isn't that like offering a chocolate fireguard considering the British weather?

[Eddie Honda]

what the actual flip is a showerproof tent?

A Wendy house?

[Skizzer]

I'm late to the party as usual: bloody hell Phil (literally). Get well soon.

[captain_70s]

Well done on not getting horribly killed, Phil. Sounds like a nightmare, hope you get your arm back to a functioning state in good time.

 

 

I could theoretically move right now at the drop of a hat. No SWMBO or children or anything, just me, my stuff and my car, but I'm really struggling to pluck up the courage.

You should probably do it. If things are shit currently then changing the situation is only going to either make things better or maintain the shitness in which case you've lost nothing. LOGIC.

 

 

I have a similar problem to yourself but on a slightly smaller scale. Not really going anywhere with my job and money is tight BUT it's tolerable and the bills get paid. Main issue now is the last of my Aberdeen based mates has moved away and my social contact with people is now nigh on non-existent. I spend too much of my time sitting around staring at the walls and trying not to spend money, it's driving me crazy. Becoming increasingly aware that my youth is over and I spent it doing nothing interesting and now my 20s are half over and I've done nothing of any real interest in them either.

 

Friends are saying I should move to Glasgow, cos that's where they mostly live. For a similar cost of renting my current house I could live in an alright area in a rather crap flat or have a nice flat in a somewhat crap area, I could probably sell the Civic/1850HL as I'd likely never need to drive anywhere and keep the 1300 as my only car. The concept of "going to the pub with mates" would no longer entail at least 2 hours of driving for most of the people involved. Also I'm not bad on the pull in Glasgow, probably because lasses in rural Aberdeenshire only like two sorts of bloke, loaded oil workers or burly farm hands.

 

but I've spent nearly 5 years at the egg packing factory as a "senior operative" doing a bit of everything, primarily mechanical maintenance/repair, but having no qualifications in anything other than IT tech support. I feel my chances of getting a job that pays a similar wage to mine without me sentencing myself to 70 hours a week are slim. Also, I've lived in the countryside since age 8 and the year 2000, I don't know how well I'd take to city life... I'm also a very small and muggable sort of chap.

 

Ultimately I fear I'm too good at talking myself out of things and am going to end up living a perpetually lonely life in a house with two spare rooms and a driveway full of cars I can't afford to fix and a job that I think is tolerable but I'm increasingly sure is a lie to myself.

 

 

TL;DR: Sacred of making huge move in life. Moving from shit bit of Scotland to a different shit bit of Scotland.

 

 

[eddyramrod]

Another vote for Move.  I did it, and I'm the most timid/least qualified person I can imagine!  Mind, I had to come back after too few years because I hadn't been able to get work, but you know.......

If I had suitable qualifications I would definitely be considering USA or Canada, even at my advanced age.  Yes, I'd probably end up in a shit low-paid job, if any at all, but spot the difference from here?  That's right, there isn't one.

 

Phil, you need to fire your stunt double, he shouldn't have left you to go through all that!

[Split_Pin]

I was invited to apply for a job at another bank a few weeks back and went for the interview on Thursday. The prick from the recruitment department phoned me back today and started the conversation off with "how do you think it went?". I fucking hate that, it's a total amateur way of starting off a feedback session. He then went on and gave me one small positive from the interview and about fifteen negative points. Aye, thanks very much for that, you've already taken the wind out my sails, no need to knife them up as well.

 

He finishes by saying we will keep you in mind if other positions come up to which he received a KTHXBYE in return.

 

Fucked my confidence right up that has. I'm more annoyed because they asked me to apply for it.

[oldcars]

I was invited to apply for a job at another bank a few weeks back and went for the interview on Thursday. The prick from the recruitment department phoned me back today and started the conversation off with "how do you think it went?". I fucking hate that, it's a total amateur way of starting off a feedback session. He then went on and gave me one small positive from the interview and about fifteen negative points. Aye, thanks very much for that, you've already taken the wind out my sails, no need to knife them up as well.

 

He finishes by saying we will keep you in mind if other positions come up to which he received a KTHXBYE in return.

 

Fucked my confidence right up that has. I'm more annoyed because they asked me to apply for it.

I worked for a bank for 6 months it was hell. I would take 15 negative points from a bank as a positive. You must be good.

[purplebargeken]

I had something similar a few years ago for a hospital post in Essex. Goodmayes I think. I'd met the manager several times, spoken to him on the phone a few times. My experience was spot on, just what they were looking for, etc, etc. Went for the interview, they roasted me above and beyond, it bloody irritated me, some silly cow phoned to give me feedback a couple of days later but also told me I was not successful. I told her I was too busy to take her call and that I would phone her back when it was convenient for me. I never did.

[Supernaut]

Well done on not getting horribly killed, Phil. Sounds like a nightmare, hope you get your arm back to a functioning state in good time.

 

 

You should probably do it. If things are shit currently then changing the situation is only going to either make things better or maintain the shitness in which case you've lost nothing. LOGIC.

 

 

I have a similar problem to yourself but on a slightly smaller scale. Not really going anywhere with my job and money is tight BUT it's tolerable and the bills get paid. Main issue now is the last of my Aberdeen based mates has moved away and my social contact with people is now nigh on non-existent. I spend too much of my time sitting around staring at the walls and trying not to spend money, it's driving me crazy. Becoming increasingly aware that my youth is over and I spent it doing nothing interesting and now my 20s are half over and I've done nothing of any real interest in them either.

 

Friends are saying I should move to Glasgow, cos that's where they mostly live. For a similar cost of renting my current house I could live in an alright area in a rather crap flat or have a nice flat in a somewhat crap area, I could probably sell the Civic/1850HL as I'd likely never need to drive anywhere and keep the 1300 as my only car. The concept of "going to the pub with mates" would no longer entail at least 2 hours of driving for most of the people involved. Also I'm not bad on the pull in Glasgow, probably because lasses in rural Aberdeenshire only like two sorts of bloke, loaded oil workers or burly farm hands.

 

but I've spent nearly 5 years at the egg packing factory as a "senior operative" doing a bit of everything, primarily mechanical maintenance/repair, but having no qualifications in anything other than IT tech support. I feel my chances of getting a job that pays a similar wage to mine without me sentencing myself to 70 hours a week are slim. Also, I've lived in the countryside since age 8 and the year 2000, I don't know how well I'd take to city life... I'm also a very small and muggable sort of chap.

 

Ultimately I fear I'm too good at talking myself out of things and am going to end up living a perpetually lonely life in a house with two spare rooms and a driveway full of cars I can't afford to fix and a job that I think is tolerable but I'm increasingly sure is a lie to myself.

 

 

TL;DR: Sacred of making huge move in life. Moving from shit bit of Scotland to a different shit bit of Scotland.

 

You have 3 potential Aberdeen-based mates right here on this very board! Me, 17-Coffees, and Tayne (although I've still not managed to hunt down Tayne).

 

But yes, I've considered the whole idea of moving elsewhere in Scotland / the UK, and I've also grown up in the countryside then moved into Aberdeen, and that's it.

However, I like Canada, and I'm coming round to the idea of going big or going home, if you will. If you're only halfway through your 20s, you're younger than me! I'm 28, not far from 30...

[Rocket88]

You have 3 potential Aberdeen-based mates right here on this very board! Me, 17-Coffees, and Tayne (although I've still not managed to hunt down Tayne).

 

But yes, I've considered the whole idea of moving elsewhere in Scotland / the UK, and I've also grown up in the countryside then moved into Aberdeen, and that's it.

However, I like Canada, and I'm coming round to the idea of going big or going home, if you will. If you're only halfway through your 20s, you're younger than me! I'm 28, not far from 30...

Why not rent some ramshackle old property between all of you, and park shite all over the place...................

[richardmorris]

Seemed to be give a muppet a car day today. Either they were hungover or sleep deprived from the shortest night.