The grumpy thread

[bub2006]

I have been slightly mulling at shitefest,as I don't really fit in with the Honda clubs format of hold event,then spend all day riding 100 miles,brief return to camp field,then do same again,after riding for 5 hrs to get there I just want a beer,food,and to talk bollocks with lunatics.

I much prefer shitefest meets. I had noticed the little cliques in the Honda group. It was a case of if you wasnt in the 'in' crowd then you had no hope. At shitefest everyone just muddles along. I was made to feel very welcome.

[eddyramrod]

I don't think my problem is solely down to my job tbh, I think it's more a case of being generally down all together.

 

I think the only thing that will drag me out of this is more american car retail therapy!

+1   Maybe we should do something about it instead of just tickling the ebay thread...

[xtriple]

Boot lid of my car has got water spots all over it and I can't get them out. Not happy.

[saucedoctor]

Boot lid of my car has got water spots all over it and I can't get them out. Not happy.

 

Had that on my S Type. Meguiars 1-2-3 did the trick. 1 is a cleaner that takes out bonded contaminants, 2 is a polish and 3 is carnobby wax. I don't think the stuff is marketed with the number system anymore, but I think you can get the same stuff(s) in different bottles.

 

EDIT: Looking at the Halfords site, 1 is now called Meguiar's Deep Crystal Paint Cleaner, 2 is called Meguiar's Deep Crystal Car Polish and 3 is now named Meguiar's Deep Crystal Carnauba Car Wax.

[danthecapriman]

+1   Maybe we should do something about it instead of just tickling the ebay thread...

I'm well up for it Eddy if you are! Be a good trip if nothing else. That black Pontiac in Germany is still sounding good...

[chaseracer]

At shitefest everyone just muddles along. I was made to feel very welcome.

 

This may well be not entirely unrelated to the fact that you are a top bloke, Daryl.

[fordperv]

My god I think customer service is dead, mrs fp rung our local dacia dealer earlier to purchase a towbar loom for her dad's duster, they were busy so took her number and we're going to call her back, guess what no call so 3 hours later tries them, no one picks up, so we popped down to order it, while we were waiting a cheery driver from a tyre company was dropping a tyre off, the guy at the service desk with a right attitude accepted the tyre then tried to rip strips off him for bringing it into parts and not goods in, the driver looked at the guy and took the tyre back from behind the desk and told him in a polite manner to learn how to talk to people and walked out with it, 10 minutes later an angry looking manager type came around with the driver and asked who it was, I did tell the manager looking man how disgusted I was by the unprofessional approach and the unnecessary attitude to the driver, I had a bit of a laugh with the driver after he was a really nice chap.

[Barry Cade]

Called in on my day off again. Heading down the M6 to Manchester soon. My beer in the fridge survives another week- it's gonna be out of date at this rate.

[Cavcraft]

'Completely Anonymous' Employee Surveys which arrive with a 'unique to you' URL and are mandatory to fill in

 

Call me paranoid, but I'm doubting the complete anonymity here...

 

binned

 

 

We have an ace thing at work where you're supposed to fill in a 'near miss' type thing in on the computer on a frequent basis. It's all 'anonymous' and 'nobody will know who put the form in' yet we get the occasional visit from our gaffer telling us to put them in as he knows our department haven't done it. I just keep asking how he knows we haven't if it's anonymous, then an argument starts and I say that I have knowing full well they can't say I haven't!

[Parky]

Woman hits Mrs P's two week old car from behind in traffic. Scratches and a deep gouge but no serious damage.

 

Woman sees Mrs P getting out of her car, backs up and speeds off. Mrs P gets the plate but it's not insured. That's the second time we have been hit by an uninsured driver. Nice to know people can afford 15 plate Binis but obviously can't afford the insurance so don't bother. I thought ANPR was supposed to cut down this fucking racket?

 

Another £100+ I don't have for Chipsaway. Fucksticks.

 

Plus I had a works lunch and the restaurant kept fucking up my order which annoys me intensely. Tuna salad ain't hard to do and it certainly isn't Lamb cutlets or Tuscan Sausage which I apparently ordered according to rude waiter.

[Captain Furious]

I could fill these pages all on my own with things that annoy me about other drivers, but my particular grump recently is this, when you pull out of a junction, and the car you pull out infront of deliberately accelerates right up behind you to make an issue out of it, whereas if they'd maintained their original course and velocity they'd have been nowhere near you.

 

Fortunately today, being nice weather and all, I already had the window down so I was able to extend arm and give him the finger in one fluid motion

[AlabamaShrimp]

The carpet stuff just above the pedals in the Fiesta has been falling down for weeks after someone fitted a fan bypass switch.

Fixed it today by moving a clip after I'd just parked up in town.

 

Started up a few hours later and the car fills with smoke. I shit it but no flames so I drive off home.

 

Dig at home and find the switch has melted. Maybe I'd touched the wires when putting all back together

 

 

Still seems to work

[cort16]

After 10 years of working for a little company who pretty much had the freedom to do what we wanted we've been bought and the new owners starting to enforce their corporate policies on us. One of which is no access to the internet. That's right I'm a software developer and I'm not allowed access to the largest free  knowledge base in the world on the off chance I visit Facebook or look on the bbc news website. Give me strength. 98% of a software developers job is downloading code of the internet so productivity is going to go down about 140%.

[dave21478]

I could fill these pages all on my own with things that annoy me about other drivers, but my particular grump recently is this, when you pull out of a junction, and the car you pull out infront of deliberately accelerates right up behind you to make an issue out of it, whereas if they'd maintained their original course and velocity they'd have been nowhere near you.

 

Fortunately today, being nice weather and all, I already had the window down so I was able to extend arm and give him the finger in one fluid motion

 

 

I have the opposite grump at the moment.....people in side roads not paying attention.

 

If I am trundling in heavy traffic and see someone ahead waiting to get out I will slow a little and create a gap for them to pull into. This is a fucking moot point if they are fiddling with their telephone or generally gawping all around them everywhere except the fucking road they want to drive on. By the time they notice its always too late and no, I will not then stop to let them out anyway as that has knock-on effects to the traffic behind me.

Or the bellends who pull out in front of me as I approach at 90kph even though the road behind me is fucking empty.

[Tamworthbay]

I have the opposite grump at the moment.....people in side roads not paying attention.

 

If I am trundling in heavy traffic and see someone ahead waiting to get out I will slow a little and create a gap for them to pull into. This is a fucking moot point if they are fiddling with their telephone or generally gawping all around them everywhere except the fucking road they want to drive on. By the time they notice its always too late and no, I will not then stop to let them out anyway as that has knock-on effects to the traffic behind me.

Or the bellends who pull out in front of me as I approach at 90kph even though the road behind me is fucking empty.

just remember the good old prioritaire adroite days.......

[320touring]

After 10 years of working for a little company who pretty much had the freedom to do what we wanted we've been bought and the new owners starting to enforce their corporate policies on us. One of which is no access to the internet. That's right I'm a software developer and I'm not allowed access to the largest free knowledge base in the world on the off chance I visit Facebook or look on the bbc news website. Give me strength. 98% of a software developers job is downloading code of the internet so productivity is going to go down about 140%.

time to go Freelance?

[dave21478]

Still got that shit here too. Apparently this area is renowned France-wide for large numbers of P.a.Droite junctions where everywhere else has been scrapping them. Its a fucking eye-opener to be doing 90 on an open A-road and folk just pull out in front of you and stop across your lane because they are turning left.

[Cavcraft]

Oh yeah, we've got 'do not use the internet' for almost everything, especially social media and YouTube. Every few months we get a safety video we're supposed to watch, on YouTube of course. Obviously, I got to lengths to tell them I can't watch as it we're not allowed, then there's an argument and I still don't watch it.

[cort16]

time to go Freelance?

 

 

Certainly time to have a think. Shame as they've been a great company to work for, which is why I've been there so long.

[dave21478]

The ads sites have always had loads of cheap-ish 4x4s for sale, but now I actually want to buy one they have all disappeared. Im looking at either an old Frontera or Cherokee with the 2.5 vm lump, or something of that sort with minimal electronic voodoo. Suddenly - none locally.

 

Saw this up for 1500

 

Seems fine for the money, 2.5 lump, nice colour, worth going for a loo.....oh.

 

 

 

That seems to be pretty typical for what 1500 gets you at the moment. Time for a trip back to UK soon, I feel.

[cort16]

Oh yeah, we've got 'do not use the internet' for almost everything, especially social media and YouTube. Every few months we get a safety video we're supposed to watch, on YouTube of course. Obviously, I got to lengths to tell them I can't watch as it we're not allowed, then there's an argument and I still don't watch it.

 

it's okay I've ordered the latest version of the internet on DVD off eBay. £3.99

[bub2006]

Text received tonight. Bcan I move the vectra by Monday. I live in a small narrow cul de sac with a double drive. I have a trailer,xantia,moped,2 pushbikes and a fiesta there already and now the vectra has to be moved. Only one word can surmise this predicament. Bollocks.

[Rovorsche]

I suppose its unavoidable for things to change but I was slightly grumpy to read of the closure of the place I had my first paying job quite a few years ago.

 

OK, I lied about my age to get a job collecting glasses and changing barrels but so did the kid that gave me the lead on the job and £5 a week went a long way in 1983, not quite coke and tarts unless you are thinking tinned beverages and Mr Kipling.

 

So Morris Motors Sports and Social Club I raise a glass to you and your sticky carpet, it was fun while it lasted.

[captain_70s]

Isn't it odd, that there seems quite a few of us 'youngsters' (I'm 32) that seem so down? I know a few people at work that are a bit like it too. I don't know why though.

 

I don't think the proliferation of social media has done any good at all. 30 years ago people were desperate to impress the neighbours but you could most probably ignore them with enough effort. Now-a-days the neighbours can post pictures of their new TV, holiday in the Med and fantastically talented kids on Facebook or whatever for the whole world to admire.

 

There's no bloody escape, the whole world is geared around telling you that everybody is better looking than you, earns more money than you and is generally having a gay old time, regardless of whether or not it's true or not. I think for a lot of people the future looks bleak, a massively over inflated housing market, a problematic government, a media obsessed with pushing problems on to certain demographics, a world which promises happiness if you spend your money which is ultimately a lie.

 

The world gives you a picture of a life you and 99% of the rest of the world can't achieve and says "you need this to be happy", you can't achieve it but post a load of shit on Facebook that makes it look like you do, nobody broadcasts the bad times in their life. Everybody else does the same and you end up looking at yourself and wondering how things seem to be going so much better for everybody else. It's shite.

 

Captain 70s. Do something so you don't need to work as much. Share a house , get a smaller place , move in with parents . There's no shame in it. Figure out what you want to do , make plans - Escape. You're young enough to be able to try to do, something fuck it all up and it not matter .

 

I was sort of planning on moving to Glasgow next year, given all my mates either live there or are moving there. Problem being I'd need a similar wage there than I have here because the cost of living is higher and the job market is far more competitive. I have 5 years of working at the egg packing factory and some outdated college certificates for IT support. I've done loads of shit, mechanical repair/maintenance, stock keeping, supervisory work etc but no paperwork to back it up. I'll never get in to an IT role without experience and I don't really want to and have forgotten almost everything I leaned.

 

I'd also have to ditch my cars, which I really don't want to do...

 

Of course the other issue is my long term struggle with self-esteem/self-worth. At this point I can't differentiate between real life and my own paranoid delusions.

 

I work hard so I can save money and fix my cars, but I don't think I can ever achieve it because I'm not smart/talented/motivated enough.

I also don't work hard enough, everybody else actually works far harder than I do.

I'm sure everybody I've ever met hates me behind my back, I'm not a likeable guy.

I'll never be in a relationship, I'm unattractive and devoid of positive attributes, anybody who likes me has low self worth.

I'm constantly terrified my employers will suddenly realise how useless I am and fire me.

I'll never get another job because I lack charisma/talent/skills.

I've never achieved anything without help, I have nothing to be proud of.

I should probably see a doctor for my obvious mental health problems, but they'll just say there's nothing wrong with me, everything I think about myself is true.

 

As can be seen the problem is largely a self fulfilling prophecy, I'm aware of it, I can't stop it. This has been life for the last decade. Every 6 months or so I go through a period where it almost gets too much to deal with and then after a couple of months things either improve or everything goes to shit.  I think a lot of the problem is that if left with my own thoughts I become extremely self-destructive and my job involves a lot of mundane tasks that are done alone and I live alone in a remote location with only myself for regular company.

I don't like talking to people about it in real life, mostly because I'm sure they all hate me, as previously said. Online I have the option of deleting most of my internet presence and fading back into obscurity.

 

You'd think I'd be bloody used to this shit by now...

[Barry Cade]

Burger king is shut in Lancaster services. Hungry.

[purplebargeken]

Drag yer arse down to the GP and beat him to a pulp until he refers you for free CBT.

If done by someone with a reasonable level of competence it could well help with the negative cycle of thinking that you are experiencing. 

 

Strip one Dolly so you have a stash of bits, scrap the remains and focus on making one good one out of the two. This may hurts but is probably the right way to go.

[purplebargeken]

We all experience feelings of self-loathing, worthlessness and other things that I can't be arsed to type out. We either put up with it, become alcoholics, drug addicts, serial buyers/sellers of shite cars or.........

 

hang on. I'm ok with the car thing. Carry on.

[Bucketeer]

Well said Hirst.

 

As for self-worth, try not to worry about it so much. I reckon I'm a pretty worthless individual all things considered, I absolutely despise myself and I probably always will. But I get to enjoy myself in spite of this.

Are you me?

I'm quite happy being in that mindset. I would much rather be aware that I am one of seven billion people on this planet and as such have no importance/worth than be one of the many people who seem to believe that they are a vital cog in the mechanics of the world and everything they say and do should be heard and seen. Acceptance is good, not liking yourself is fine. There is a lot of 'you are the best you, love yourself' kind of false expectation raising stuff nowadays and I believe society has softened up as a consequence. I am generally an unimportant, unlikeable shitbag and that's okay, I still enjoy myself.

Be happy being happy, be happy being unhappy.

[Richard]

I think the fear of being "found out" at work is fairly common. I have it too and I'm sure others will admit to the same feelings.

[BavarianRetro]

I think the fear of being "found out" at work is fairly common. I have it too and I'm sure others will admit to the same feelings.

Absolutely. 100â„… correct. And I'm self employed!