The grumpy thread

[Lord Sterling]

 

Ran out of money today (again). Spent too much on Rovers this week (again). Had very little petrol in the car to get to work (yay!) Smashed my phone out of anger (good riddance!) and therefore couldn't take a picture of the Rover Sterling I spotted today (and, no, it wasn't mine)

EFA and truth 

Nah chap, I've spent nowt on any of my Rovers apart from petrol which is pretty essential to get myself to work...

[cort1977]

I've only been back at uni a week and the dreaded depression has got hold of me again. Feel like shit, no motivation and I'm missing my friends and family terribly. And the new housemate keeps smoking in the house (despite me asking him politely not to) and playing shit rap music which makes the walls shake it's so loud.

I just want to get this final year of uni over with, get a job that pays enough to move out of my parents house, and I'd like to spend the rest of my life with the girl of my dreams. I don't want much out of life really, but lately it just seems like everything I try and do I fail miserably at. For a bloke I'm too sensitive and fall in love far too easily as well

Might give the forums and stuff a break for a bit, see if it makes me feel any better.

Sorry to hear this.   Don't have much knowledge about depression but most unis have a whole social scene around clubs for different activities.   Gives an easy introduction to all kinds of people.   I was in the windsurfing club and never did any windsurfing evver (it was in Newcastle  FFS) but did make friends and even met a few girls.   So it doesn't really matter what the activity is, I recommend going to a few first week events.   Will get you away from fags and rap music at least.

 

Just thought, is there a motorsport club?   I once spent a happy afternoon drinking and smashing an old caravan to bits with hammers to make a trailer for some mech eng types for their grass track car.

[outlaw118]

@ Mr Angreh Richard: You want me to burn you some horrible* metal cd's Chuff? I'm thinking Carcass, Bolthrower, Strapping Young Lad, Sepultura.....

[Lankytim]

Well you never know when someone's going to walk into your life, so the ship never really sails. 

[jakebullet]

The quiet weatherspoons where I've been going for 'cuddles' is full of bastard braying students getting free beer. Sod off you twunts and let me interfere with this woman sexually.

[inconsistant]

Richard, can't help with words but it does sound like time for another South Eastern Autoshitists get together. Also paging Alex, Outlaw? Others I can't remember? 924 is back on the road and mot'd so let's do it!

 

Also Outlaw (re SYL) you going to D Townsend London gig?

[ruffgeezer]

The black dog is with a lot of us here it seems, I've recently found mine doesn't sit on my shoulder if I can ride around with the top down for a while.

[vulgalour]

I don't understand why AD isn't beating off the flange and the good times with a myriad sticks.  You've got it all going on!  If I were a ladyperson I'd be on you like butter on toast.  But then if I were a ladyperson I'd probably have a gajillion cats...

[captain_70s]

Might give the forums and stuff a break for a bit, see if it makes me feel any better.

I've found taking a break from forums in the event of misery rarely helps, at best it means you post less grumpy stuff and make yourself less of a nuisance but you end up trapped with your thoughts. My thoughts are generally not much fun, I despise myself, dislike my job, my finances are poor, life is going all wrong and I'm steadily getting further from anything I want to achieve.

 

By far the best course of action is to stay busy. I've been doing 45-50 hour weeks at work and I think it's helping, I don't really like my job all that much but it keeps me occupied and earns me the money that I'm desperately short of. When I get home I tried to fire straight into fixing a car or cleaning or anything to keep me occupied. The result is that I'm constantly either knackered, busy or asleep and as thus rarely have time to be miserable.

The problem with forums and the like is that you end up surrounded by people who actually have motivation and you see them getting shit done and wonder why you've been getting nothing done and why everything is all bollocksed up and why you've failed and that makes you feel worse and have less motivation and it becomes a vicious circle.

Girls are just a nightmare best avoided if you're already unhappy to begin with. I'm sure they mean well, bless 'em, but Christ knows I'm in no position to interact with anybody in a romantic fashion. I find the concept of dating the same as the concept of winning the lottery. It's something I think I'd rather like to do and I'm sure the general outcome would be beneficial if the highly unlikely positive scenario occured, but I'm not buying any tickets...

 

Aside from being busy I have a few other things I do to combat the urge to direct my car in to a sturdy tree at speed, you may wish to try some of the following:

 

Eating Tesco's cheap ice cream straight from the tub.

Compulsive hoarding of Triumph Dolomites.

Compulsive hoarding of other worthless shit.

Masturbating.

Watching Japanese cartoons.

Masturbating while watching Japanese cartoons.

Leaving people unsure as to what's a joke and what isn't causing general discomfort.

Typing funny things on the internet in list form.

Self deprecating humour.

Real ale.

Eating vast quantities of Dairy Milk chocolate.

 

Good luck and hopefully things will improve for you! Feel free to hit me up on Facebook chat or something if you need somebody distant from your actual real life to chat to by the way.

[fred]

I've only been back at uni a week and the dreaded depression has got hold of me again. Feel like shit, no motivation and I'm missing my friends and family terribly. And the new housemate keeps smoking in the house (despite me asking him politely not to) and playing shit rap music which makes the walls shake it's so loud.

I just want to get this final year of uni over with, get a job that pays enough to move out of my parents house, and I'd like to spend the rest of my life with the girl of my dreams. I don't want much out of life really, but lately it just seems like everything I try and do I fail miserably at. For a bloke I'm too sensitive and fall in love far too easily as well

Might give the forums and stuff a break for a bit, see if it makes me feel any better.

Apart from the Forum bit - that is the thought of every single young blokes life since the 60's - Hold on, the Forum is here for you good brethren We all have been through similar shit N bollocks and crossed the finish line. Keep the faith good buddy we are behind you

[rml2345]

Hirst and others are right. It's better to keep occupied so the black dog is distracted rather than give the forums a rest and invite the big bastard to sit on your face. Even if it's just reading what the rest of us are up to, it's still a distraction.

As for women, some of them are definitely best left alone.

[Inspector Morose]

I don't think where you are matters when you feel like that. I feel, near enough, exactly the same as you and I live in Birmingham. Sometimes I wish for a complete change in my life just to relieve the utter tedium of my own existence but I know in the back of my head that, given time, I'd feel exactly the same again just looking at different scenery.

 

I bought a big gold French slug. It's cheered me up a bit. Little things folks, little things.

 

Oh and to those of you fighting their own black dog. Don't try and use work to blank it out. It works for a while but it will bite you big time if left ignored. Go and get help. You have to learn to live with it not try and blank it out or ignore it. Took me a long time to work that one out ('bout 30 years) and I've had to change my lifestyle completely, giving up trying to have any sort of a career or a 9-5 job but now I've accepted my black dog. Still not great but I'm still vertical.

[jakebullet]

Top tip black dog / mentals people. Get thee to meetup.com , find a group of mentals and go out n do things. It's helped me massively. It feels so nice and safe and like you've known the people for years just because they're also defective. Also men are massively out numbered if you're into milfs.

[beko1987]

I thought it was Saturday... got on the m40 as usual and there wasnt a single car going my way behind be for a good 6 miles. Turns out theres a mahoosive smash just behind the junction I got on. Amys sisters just called me (who lives by the side of the mway) to say everywhere is gridlocked now, you jammy bastard for already being at work.

 

Now I'm sad because its still only friday!

 

BV - you clear of it yet?

[dave21478]

[michael1703]

I reckon Facebook should be avoided if you have depression

 

I'm not a doctor but I'm also not a Facebook user

 

Other useless diagnosis is available from me for a small fee

[xtriple]

Crikey, depression... It does suck the very life out of you does it not? Having enjoyed its company now for most of my life I am well aware how easy it is to give in to the bastard.

 

First things first, sort out you current housing. You can't live like that it will drive you mad. Get on to your housing supplier and complain like fuck/request he moves or you do. Home is your sanctuary, not another living hell.

 

Don't leave the forums, they are part of your support structure and you need as much of that as possible even if it's just banter and people ripping the poss, sometimes that is what you need.

 

Go and join a club if that's your thing, personally I like being alone/ being able to be alone. I just shut the door and pray that no one calls round or phones. If you like being alone (doesn't sound like it) accept it. I can be the most sociable bloke in the world... for 15 minute bursts and everyone thinks I'm really cheerful, but I'm not.

 

You can get all the professional help in the world and it will help no end, but you have to accept that you are a depressive and learn to deal with it your own way. Drugs are great (prescription ones!) and really take the pain away when you find the right one but that can take ages. Persevere.

 

Don't worry about women. There are loads of them out there and if/when you are ready to have some sort of relationship it will come easily. You have to learn to live with yourself first or you'll just keep having disastrous episodes with lasses that will make you feel worse.

 

I could go on and on and on but I won't. If you need to talk....

[bub2006]

Depression. Conjours all sorts of dark images for me. Never been diagnosed but then again I've never told doctors I feel low. I feel I'd be thought less of as a person. Times I feel like crying,days I don't want to get out of bed. I'm sure something not right.

[AlabamaShrimp]

Depression. Conjours all sorts of dark images for me. Never been diagnosed but then again I've never told doctors I feel low. I feel I'd be thought less of as a person. Times I feel like crying,days I don't want to get out of bed. I'm sure something not right.

This is exactly the same with me but I put it down to me being a total lazy, unmotivated sarcastic twat

 

Honestly I'm not that bad but it does stop me joining in things or actually getting on with some work. When I get started I can't stop...

[EssDeeWon]

Signed my redundancy papers this morning. It took them three attempts to get it right and even now there are a couple of minor things missing. Why is everything done so sloppy these days?? This is someone's redundancy notice FFS. They tell me its fine and nothing to worry about.... That maybe so but please just DO THINGS PROPERLY the first time and not after the 2nd, 3rd and 4th.

[Taff]

I find exercise beats depression, plus it gets a bit of timber off the frame and leaves me knackered so I can sleep.

 

sniff about for good quality exercise bike, mine is ex-gym stock, RRP was £600, I paid £15 for it 2nd hand.

 

You're getting fit, you're losing weight, you're not wasting time. lots of win

[philibusmo]

I want to microwave a pie, but there is a fucking massive snake sat in front of the microwave. I think I'll have a beer and wait for him to leave.

 

Stupid Australia and its creatures.

[Pillock]

#thirdworldproblems

[DeeJay]

I want to microwave a pie, but there is a fucking massive snake sat in front of the microwave. I think I'll have a beer and wait for him to leave.

 

Stupid Australia and its creatures.

Poke the bugger in, 2 mins, french loaf, breakfast sorted

[philibusmo]

Poke the bugger in, 2 mins, french loaf, breakfast sorted

He looks about 5ft long, so might be a bit of a squeeze to poke him into the microwave. It's alright, he's gone now so I'm tucking into a tasty warm pie. I think he lives in the ceiling.

[fairkens]

😱

[Pillock]

Mrs_Pillock has been known to stop breathing when unexpectedly encountering a snake.

I think we've just crossed Australia off the list of future places to set up home.

[Cavcraft]

How effing hard is it to buy a car? I'm trying to deal with some complete tit who's clearly as conversant with emails and pictures as my pet twatting fish

[Pillock]

Is there some sort of legislation that cars must have a glovebox?

After trying to put something in mine and finding it so tiny that it may as well not be there, I figure the only reasons they're still included are:

1) It's TEH LAW

2) People who never use it anyway would complain if it's not there, like egg trays in a fridge*

 

My Astra glovebox is full with the owners handbook, and a Cadburys Twirl. Tried to put a Wispa in there too and it wouldn't close without crushing it.

 

 

* True story. A major refrigeration manufacturer tried to remove egg trays from their fridges to save costs, based on the fact you shouldn't refrigerate eggs anyway. It cost them so much to send them out to customers as a "goodwill gesture" who believed they were missing the item, they started putting them back in.

[garbaldy]

How effing hard is it to buy a car? I'm trying to deal with some complete tit who's clearly as conversant with emails and pictures as my pet twatting fish

Said tit doesn't bide in the north east and have an aversion to coo skin.