The grumpy thread

[Mally]

  On 21/05/2019 at 10:36, Split_Pin said:

Found out today that I will be out of a job in around 3 months.

I know to many this sort of thing will have happened before however this is a first for me.

Unpleasant times now and ahead.

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Is this definite, or is there an appeal process?  If so go through the appeal.

I've had it twice, first time I walked straight into a job, but less money, second time I was out of work 6 months. I've also volunteered a couple of times when it suited me.

It's not a nice feeling, gets worse as time drags by, there's loads of applicants for every job and they never pick you, although you know your work ethic is better than most.

Can only suggest you start looking at once, many hang on to the folorn hope it wont happen.

Consider self employment in whatever skills you have, there may be grants available.

Best of luck.

[strangeangel]

RIP Mr Lauda. I am by no means a fan of motor racing, but you can't fail to be impressed by such a determined individual.

[New POD]

  On 21/05/2019 at 10:09, MikeR said:

Promote me .... I am the only one who can actually drive ...!

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One day, i'll drive you to work and you can fake a broken arm. 

[anonymous user]

If you fake a broken arm don't forget to say that a Swan did it, well either a swan or Wayne Sleep, bloody dangerous those ballet dancers, they'll break your arm you know

[MikeR]

  On 21/05/2019 at 19:05, New POD said:

One day, i'll drive you to work and you can fake a broken arm. 

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at he moment I am not having to pretend to have a wrecked left knee   ...  my next car might an auto ..

[chaseracer]

  On 21/05/2019 at 20:06, ruffgeezer said:

Once again...

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As a wise man (the Owd Giffer, in fact) once said: "you can choose your friends, but you're stuck with family."

[New POD]

  On 21/05/2019 at 20:14, MikeR said:

at he moment I am not having to pretend to have a wrecked left knee   ...  my next car might an auto ..

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If you NEED to borrow the omega

[MikeR]

perhaps some little 2 pint far eastern runabout when the time comes ...

[SiC]

  On 21/05/2019 at 20:19, New POD said:

 

If you NEED to take ownership of the omega, so I can buy something inappropriate off the low cost big liability thread. 

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FTFY

[New POD]

  On 21/05/2019 at 20:22, SiC said:

FTFY

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I once brought a Perfect Z500 off MikeR before he was my brother in law, and to be honest I ragged it to near death before swapping it for an RD350LC that I blew up (and rebuilt to 375) .

I can't imagine selling him a car. 

[Cavcraft]

  On 21/05/2019 at 10:36, Split_Pin said:

Found out today that I will be out of a job in around 3 months.

I know to many this sort of thing will have happened before however this is a first for me.

Unpleasant times now and ahead.

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Sorry to hear this, ace.  Hopefully your age and experience will help you find something new, and that you get a good enough package to tide you over.

[timolloyd]

  On 21/05/2019 at 20:06, ruffgeezer said:

Once again I'm feeling like the cunt that could.

My Sister in Law and her husband have bought a caravan, which in itself is absolutely fine and fair enough, well it would be...

For the past 3 years, I have been servicing and repairing their car that they had to have (a written off 1.5dci Qashcow) and have been telling them to get the cambelt replaced, this is always met with "we can't afford it, can't you do it for a few beers etc."

I've told them no on several occasions, last year saw a crack appear in my marriage, the result of which I sold off almost all of my cars, including my beloved Datsun, I won't go into details here but a lot of it was based (correctly) around how selfish I could be with my time. This is common knowledge within the family, but it never stops them asking for my time to do their shit.

Part of this moody is bound to be down to a hint of jealousy I'm sure, because I'd love to be that carefree about money, and I'd have liked a caravan too. What annoys me is there is very rarely any help in the other direction when I ask, from any quarters.

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Knowing your way around cars is a blessing when it’s saving other people’s money, until they want to do other things, and then it’s just a stupid expensive hobby.

I know where you’re coming from.

[New POD]

  On 21/05/2019 at 10:36, Split_Pin said:

Found out today that I will be out of a job in around 3 months.

I know to many this sort of thing will have happened before however this is a first for me.

Unpleasant times now and ahead.

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I don't know how old you are or what you do, but I found that the buzz words had changed, and once I started using them on my CV and understood how what I'd been doing for 20 years was basically the same as the new buzz word, I was okay. 

Value stream mapping. Was one that had passed me by, but turns out I've been doing them for 20 years. 

I have a few tricks to get Recruitment Consultants to put your CV at the top of their priority list. Let me know how you get on. 

[vulgalour]

Mike got the pistons out of the Princess calipers and while that's good news for the rebuild, it's bad news for my wallet.  All of the pistons are pitted to varying degrees and need replacing, which is probably why some of them were sticking.  This would be fine, if they were just simple single pot calipers.  Unfortunately, I need 8 pots and if I'm replacing them it might as well be with stainless steel and that means £££££ that I wasn't planning on spending.  Princess is going to sit in the corner for a bit until I've saved up the cash needed.  Oh, and one of the bleed nipple threads in the caliper stripped when Mike was applying the pressure to unstick the pots, so that's had to be retapped and a slightly different thread bleed nipple ordered to refit, which we hope won't leak.

It was all going so well.

[dozeydustman]

Had a lovely couple of days away in Kent doing things I do and visiting my family. Got home about half an hour ago, wife in tears (sent home from work). Mother in law has lung cancer, the type caused by exposure to asbestos. No other info at the moment, how aggressive, how set in etc.

 

What an shit end to a nice couple of days and weekend.

[Crispian_J_Hotson]

How'd you handle it? Looking forward to some time away, get home and missis gets a call from the school. Stepson 1 has offered a tictac to another pupil. Only it's an ibuprofen. I have my views believe me, but this kid is pushing some boundries recently, like for the last two years. We've done the talks, saw things from his perspective, tried to understand... And then this stunt. Step parenting is hard. If he was my kid I'd be winning the super champion arse kicking competition in approximately 20 minutes but I have to back seat it and support the missis. The thing is, he's a good, loving kid but goes out of his way to fuck his 14 year old life up. His old man is a useless twat as well, living some faux gangster lifestyle abroad, never financially supporting the kids he has. Now, he is a cunt. There's something in that I reckon and it's making stepson 1 be like this...even though he knows what his old man is like. I just can't figure out what. Step son 2 is a pure football and maths genius. Maybe some jealousy there eh? I'm out of ideas.

[Fumbler]

  On 22/05/2019 at 14:02, dozeydustman said:

Mother in law has lung cancer, the type caused by exposure to asbestos. No other info at the moment, how aggressive, how set in etc.

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Mesothelioma (asbestos triggered lung cancer) is a horrible form of lung cancer. I hope things get better for you. Honestly, I do.

[tooSavvy]

  On 22/05/2019 at 17:41, Fumbler said:

Mesothelioma (asbestos triggered lung cancer) is a horrible form of lung cancer. I hope things get better for you. Honestly, I do.

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SWMBOs ex >> brother has Meso... Man & Boy worked at Blyth Power Station [... like, what are all the turbine/pipes/boilerwork lagged with?]

[Fumbler]

Blue Asbestos mainly. This is because miracle mineral had the best insulation properties known to man back then.

[dozeydustman]

Thank you @Fumbler. I've not heard anything as to how advanced it is but MiLaw has been recommended to go for chemo as they *think* it's treatable at the moment. Knowing my in-laws they are not letting on the whole situation. Just got to support my wife and stepdaughter as much as possible and take some of the pressure off father in law - he's 78 and still as active as he can be with bad hips and bad knees.  I'm hoping my nearby nieces and nephews pick up the baton from time to time as well.

I have 2 sister in laws, one on the Isle of Wight who I know will try and get over most if not every weekend to see her, the other is totally hopeless at supporting others in times of need and is the sort that would normally claim she's had the same condition as someone but 9 times worse and survived it, because she lives in her own little bubble.

[brownnova]

Blimey, some people are getting a shit hand lately... thinking of you guys... 

[Tadhg Tiogar]

  On 22/05/2019 at 17:33, BoggyMires said:

...Now, he is a cunt. There's something in that I reckon and it's making stepson 1 be like this...even though he knows what his old man is like. I just can't figure out what. ...

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We are made that way. 'tis in the genes, and as to which characteristics become more prominent is surely in the lap of the gods.

[Alex66]

Got a stomach bug, can't take my normal pain killers well its shown me how well they work and have been considering sawing various parts of my body off at various points.  Ordered a battery and charger set for a camera I got at a bargain price only the f charger in the packet so now have to send that back to get refund and find another source. 

[Rovorsche]

Cleaning an '06 Fucus with a pressure washer and making a bloody hole in it pissed me off today.

 

 

Compared to the previous posts I got away lightly and I salute your courage.

Rusty Focii are shite before their time though.

[New POD]

  On 22/05/2019 at 17:33, BoggyMires said:

How'd you handle it? Looking forward to some time away, get home and missis gets a call from the school. Stepson 1 has offered a tictac to another pupil. Only it's an ibuprofen. I have my views believe me, but this kid is pushing some boundries recently, like for the last two years. We've done the talks, saw things from his perspective, tried to understand... And then this stunt. Step parenting is hard. If he was my kid I'd be winning the super champion arse kicking competition in approximately 20 minutes but I have to back seat it and support the missis. The thing is, he's a good, loving kid but goes out of his way to fuck his 14 year old life up. His old man is a useless twat as well, living some faux gangster lifestyle abroad, never financially supporting the kids he has. Now, he is a cunt. There's something in that I reckon and it's making stepson 1 be like this...even though he knows what his old man is like. I just can't figure out what. Step son 2 is a pure football and maths genius. Maybe some jealousy there eh? I'm out of ideas.

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Sorry, whats he actually done? 

What was he intention?  

Who was encouraging him? 

Was the victim really innocent? 

Give the lad some slack. 

At 14, my parents were invited into school.to discuss my behaviour.  I was put on report. Meaning at the end of each class i had to get a form signed. 

After 4 weeks my form was inspected and i was critised by the deputy head for getting a single C for effort. Out of all A and Bs 

Looking back. My behaviour had changed. Id hit puberty with a growing hatred of authority. And i despised most of my peer group. The ones who had made the previous 3 years almost unbearable. 

If you want my advice, take him to a clmbing wall. Both of you do the ropes course, and every wednesday evening, spend 3 hours trusting each other to save the others life, by being attached on a bylay rope.  Challenge him and get him to challenge you to do scarey but safe. Talk to him like a fucking adult.

  Don't take the blue eyed boy. (Arrange it at a time wjjen he has maths club) 

 

[Crispian_J_Hotson]

  On 23/05/2019 at 22:39, New POD said:

Sorry, whats he actually done? 

What was he intention?  

Who was encouraging him? 

Was the victim really innocent? 

Give the lad some slack. 

At 14, my parents were invited into school.to discuss my behaviour.  I was put on report. Meaning at the end of each class i had to get a form signed. 

After 4 weeks my form was inspected and i was critised by the deputy head for getting a single C for effort. Out of all A and Bs 

Looking back. My behaviour had changed. Id hit puberty with a growing hatred of authority. And i despised most of my peer group. The ones who had made the previous 3 years almost unbearable. 

If you want my advice, take him to a clmbing wall. Both of you do the ropes course, and every wednesday evening, spend 3 hours trusting each other to save the others life, by being attached on a bylay rope.  Challenge him and get him to challenge you to do scarey but safe. Talk to him like a fucking adult.

  Don't take the blue eyed boy. (Arrange it at a time wjjen he has maths club) 

 

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Thanks for that. I take it you turned out normal! I've done the talk, he was just pulling a joke without thinking about the consequences. The school have been looking for an excuse to bomb him since he was put into the naughty boys box 2 years ago and they've never given him time to change his attitude. Every minor disruption has been dealt with way too harshly. They've expelled his friends, they have a special unit where they transfer the naughty kids and their isolation is a fucking room with no windows! It's a target driven 1800's shit hole. Today they expelled him too.

He was on report when the teachers could be arsed to sign it, they lost interest in him on day two because he had clowns as mates and we haven't been able to recover from it. Their correspondence has been shocking or non existent, even up to this day where they emailed my missis, getting her surname totally wrong. If I feel like they have let him down and thrown him in the bin, gawd knows what he feels like. He's not the only one either, it's really common  If the kid threatens the grades, they are out. It's very sad but at least now we have to change direction.

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

  On 23/05/2019 at 22:39, New POD said:

Don't take the blue eyed boy. (Arrange it at a time wjjen he has maths club)

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Can't agree with this - yes, talk to him like an adult...……. but don't alienate the other kid.

ALL of you go - the brothers can probably form a better bond too if they both like it. If they don't - take just one…….. but at least let it be their choice.

Good luck - it's the toughest of times going through it and (probably) parenting too (I'm yet to get there!!!)

The sad fact is none of us at 14(ish) are listening at all when repeatedly told our actions 'now' will impact the rest of our lives etc...… It's always just the 'oldies' being dramatic!

I'm not looking forward to that era at all.

 

[Lankytim]

Rot hole on the drivers side strut top on my 2002 V70. There’s a bit of rust underneath too. Probably not worth repairing seeing as it’s a high mileage clunker. A real pity as I was full on fixorating it to make a reasonably mint daily driver.

Also..

In a well known charity shop today looking at old maps and books (one of each I bought) First of all the elderly female assistant pretended to look at books while she kept her eye on me in a pretty obvious way. She wandered off and was replaced by a younger assistant who did exactly the same. When I went to pay the cashier spoke to the young assistant, nodded in my direction and asked if “everything was ok with him” (btw, I can still hear you if you try not to move your lips like some sort of ventriloquist act)

Do I look like some smack head looking for my next hit? Am I going to steal a Mills and Boon novel and sell it on the black market to fund my habit?

Launceston. IMHO an odd town full of odd people.


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[Cavcraft]

Lanky Tim, master crim.

[bigstraight6]

That does rather sum up Launceston, deliverance country..