The grumpy thread

[seth]

Wow man, its all turning to shit at once. Really feel for you and hope things start working out soon.

[brammy777]

Shit, I am sorry to hear that mk1. I know what its like (sort of), but not to that extent. It catches you completely by suprise, when you think all is well. But as they say, and I apologise, it must sound completely cliche, everything happens for a reason. I really do hope things get better, I know I cant be of much help to you, but if anything, I can assure you they will. Things go wrong, but youre coping now, and thats really good, as others have said it can only get better.

[mk1_4dr]

The thing is, its put me in such a shitty position as I should be looking after my dad and generally being around to help out and be strong for my mum. Instead Im a blubbering mess. They have said though thats its the most they've seen of me in 8/9years since I moved out and that can't be a bad thing.Also the flat Im in has its own yard with big, lockable gates and space for 4-5cars....

[Mr H Sceptre]

They have said though thats its the most they've seen of me in 8/9years since I moved out and that can't be a bad thing.

Well you're doing your bit there then.

Also the flat Im in has its own yard with big, lockable gates and space for 4-5cars....

Every cloud & all that.....

[Lankytim]

Shit MK1, im sorry to hear about all of this. Ive had similar happen, although not after 5 years. Its a crap situation and theres nothing you can do but go through the emotional mill and grin and bear it. Its crazy how things can just come out of nowhere and kick you in the nuts like this. I realise you must be feeling like shit right now, but you wont feel this way forever.The way I dealt with it was to just cut off all ties and move on the best I could, any attempt at communication just gives the ex another opportunity to reject you and make you feel even worse. Take away that opportunity and do your best to move your life on. Thats my theory on damage limitation anyway, not that im any sort of relationship guru or anything.

[whitevanman]

Mk1 , its shit and always will be...time does not heal, but it does allow you to come to terms with it and fades into reletive obscurity, I suspect most of us have been there at one time or another...and as others have said, concentrate on the things you enjoy doing that may take your mind of things and accept the offer of a beer and some bar room psycoanalysis(sic) yes I'm shite at spelling

[Station]

The thing is, its put me in such a shitty position as I should be looking after my dad and generally being around to help out and be strong for my mum. Instead Im a blubbering mess.

Look after your folks, it'll take your mind off it for sure? Worst thing is letting it get on top of you, and getting down about it isn't good, nobody's died. I think it took me four years to get over my first 'true love' properly, until I met someone else and it was instantly forgotten.

[nigel bickle]

Sorry to hear that mate. its never nice.My 'ex'wife phoned me (whilst working in Budapest) on my birthday to tell me she had poisoned my dog, taken the furniture & was leaving me for my bestmate..She had. She did. Now -best thing that happenend to me in the 90's. Sort your life, grieve, then move on. Easy to say though....Wuv's -try the servo....Only place that much fluid could 'vanish' - which wouldnt slop about till the cars driven.

[Mr Lobster]

Fuggin 'ell MK1. Sorry to hear that. As others have said, it does get better with time. You probably won't feel like it now, but it really does. You'll look back on this in a few years when you are in a better situation and know that in the end everything does work out for the best. It does feel wierd though that you spend years with someone, make a lot of plans and generally think that this is how its going to be and then all of a sudden life gets turned on its head and all that just vanishes.Can't really add much more but keep your chin up, try and get on with the rest of your life

[M'coli]

Mk1, that's a big dose of shit to have to deal with, my thoughts are with you. On a different note, is the Escort MOT'd? Taxing it, moving it, SORNing it again will be cheaper than hiring a trailer.

[Lord Sterling]

Sorry to hear about that mk1. Not really been there myself (yet) but have had my heart torn out and shredded by bloody women/girls that I'd really fallen for, they knew that and used it to thier advantage. (Lost my job by one of them)As has been said before. Keep your mind on other things, look after your folks, and let time let you come to terms with the fact that life has changed dramitically. Things like this happen for a reason. And when you least expect it. Blessing in disguise and all that.......

[gearoil]

RE- Scottish Parliament. Is it just me or is that Alex Salmond really really annoying? Aplogies if This offends any shiters north of the border but every time I see his fat face on the telly I get a bit irate.

I'm south of the border (as you know) but would quite fancy giving that fat cunt a fucking good shoeing one day.

x 1001.

 

[Parky]

Its a minor thing, but poor customer service, theres no need for it.Bought my son a Nintendo DS. Got it from an online retailer, immediately realised after placing the order that I had a loyalty card so sent a quick note asking if the points could be applied retrospectively. Got a snotty note along the lines of "no you cant, you must use your card at point of purchase". No sympathising, or apologies for any inconvenience, just a straight "no you cant"Starwood Hotels on the other hand said "Well you normally wouldnt be able to transfer your reward points to airmiles as your points expired a week ago. However, as a gesture of goodwill and as its only a week, we have restored your account and your new card will be issued shortly"So in a nutshell, the MD of Starwood Group has an e-mail thanking him and praising the staff member concerned, the MD of Game has a note criticising their policy and thanking him for making the decision to shop in Argos that little bit easier....

[CIH]

Just got an email from my old man saying Doovla sent the confirmation of change of reg. keepr for the bluey. He shreded it after sending the email....

[Pete-M]

Just messed about getting this frickin' photo sorted and I think it's too big.

[Tayne]

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[CortinaDave]

mk1_4dr.. I too have been in your situation. Around this time last year my missus of nearly 7 years upped and walked out of what I though was a rock solid relationship. We always got on fantastically and I think had 2 arguments in all that time together.. she went a bit funny on me for literally a week then WHAM - that was itI was a broken man... she left me with the flat we jointly own to pay myself which has nearly bankrupted me and dissappeared into the sunset, finding herself a new bloke within a few weeks of our split, who i think she is still with. I lost about a stone in the first month or so after the breakup.A few months later I tried to salvage a friendship out of it so i got back in touch with her and we had a long chat which I thought had cleared the air and put us back on decent terms we could at least rebuild a friendship from given time.. She rewarded that by burgling the flat the next day, turning the place upside down and buggering off with loads of stuff.This was a girl who as whitevanman will testify, up until the split, had been possibly the nicest girlfriend anyone could want for seven years! These days she seems to think I am satan himself, for reasons that mystify me entirely and none of what were our joint friends will speak to me either! It does get easier. - i do still think about my ex and the loss of the friendship as much as the relationship still bothers me from time to time but once the initial shock subsides you slowly pick up the pieces and rebuild. I have a rather tasty 21 year old dance teacher on my arm at the minute so being severely shat upon does have fringe benefits! Get down the pub, lean on your mates and take the time you need. you will come through it!

[mk1_4dr]

Thank you all for your support, everything has been taken on board.I have spoken to her today. Im no closer to getting a reason out of her, and she's making her excuses to not have to see me for any reason.She says she doesn't want to sit in a coffee shop somewhere crying while we try and talk, I said its got to be better than bumping into each other in a month and all the pain comes back with a vengence. Horses for courses I suppose. Ive managed to sort a trailer for Sunday afternoon, Im kind of hoping that she'll be in when I get there, but I suspect she'll be working. Another bullet dodged for her I suppose.I really shouldn't be sat here at silly past 3 in the morning worrying about her....

[mk1_4dr]

Ive just reread some of your stories of loves lost, and I know there is some perspective to be gained. I know it could've been a whole fucktonne worse. No kids, no debts, no real ties. I almost feel like Iam going on a bit.Im sure there are people on here that owe their mental health to this place, and particularly this thread....Thank you management.

[barrett]

Im sure there are people on here that owe their mental health to this place, and particularly this thread....Thank you management.

I'm sure that's true, it's bloody cathartic to come and vent sometimes, especially if, like me, you tend to keep your feelings close to your chest with your friends. There's such a broad group of people on here you just know at least one person will know exactly what you're going through, or be in a worse situation which puts all your own worries into perspective.Autoshite - It's like the Samaratans but with Tagoras

[retrogeezer]

Its a minor thing, but poor customer service, theres no need for it.Bought my son a Nintendo DS. Got it from an online retailer, immediately realised after placing the order that I had a loyalty card so sent a quick note asking if the points could be applied retrospectively. Got a snotty note along the lines of "no you cant, you must use your card at point of purchase". No sympathising, or apologies for any inconvenience, just a straight "no you cant"Starwood Hotels on the other hand said "Well you normally wouldnt be able to transfer your reward points to airmiles as your points expired a week ago. However, as a gesture of goodwill and as its only a week, we have restored your account and your new card will be issued shortly"So in a nutshell, the MD of Starwood Group has an e-mail thanking him and praising the staff member concerned, the MD of Game has a note criticising their policy and thanking him for making the decision to shop in Argos that little bit easier....

Just return it for a refund and then re-purchase it using your loyalty card.

[Lankytim]

The wife has gone out and taken the keys to the Volvo, meaning the Maestro trailer is blocked in and I cant take it on its maiden voyage loaded with scrap metal to weigh in at Browns waste. It would have been educational AND profitable. Its maiden voyage loaded will probably begin in Scotland now. I hope its all ok!

[AnthonyG]

RE- Scottish Parliament. Is it just me or is that Alex Salmond really really annoying? Aplogies if This offends any shiters north of the border but every time I see his fat face on the telly I get a bit irate.

I'm south of the border (as you know) but would quite fancy giving that fat cunt a fucking good shoeing one day.

x 1001.

 

He is incredibly smug, the phrase 'fat cunt' sprung to mind when he popped up after one of the 'Dave, Nick and Gordon' shows to moan he'd been left out of the fun.

 

He's doing his bit for Scottish independence though - most English & Welsh people would be happy to dissolve the union if they never saw him again!

[Mr_Bo11ox]

If it could be proved that fire, wheels and computers were all english inventions, that Salmond bloke would almost certainly oppose their use.

[Arragonis]

He's doing his bit for Scottish independence though - most English & Welsh people would be happy to dissolve the union if they never saw him again!

I'm English and live in Scotland and there are quite a few like that round here, not so much a chip on the shoulder but more like a full fish supper. Have an England flag on your car parked in Edinburgh and it will get 'done'. Park with a Scottish flag on your car in London and nobody would care.

[RedSparrow]

Those ardent Scottish nationalists make me laugh.As I understand, the SNP always fought for independance from Britain, but when they were voted in they had to sheepishly admit that it wasn't realistic as Scotland wouldn't last 2 minutes without all the money England pours into it every year. You'd think they'd keep their mouths shut but they continue to bite the hand that feeds.

[Arragonis]

Those ardent Scottish nationalists make me laugh.As I understand, the SNP always fought for independance from Britain, but when they were voted in they had to sheepishly admit that it wasn't realistic as Scotland wouldn't last 2 minutes without all the money England pours into it every year. You'd think they'd keep their mouths shut but they continue to bite the hand that feeds.

They just keep saying they own the oil...

[Cavcraft]

Is it 'their' oil? Some argue as the oil is actually under the sea bed and the sea is not land (obviously) that's it's not actually their's to begin with.It'd be quite funny though if we conceded then when they got what they want just bought our oil elsewhere.I don't want to piss any Scottish nationalists off on here but it does seem to me as it's ok if we throw fucking millions at wankers like Salmond to build his little empire, then they just tell us to fuck off once they've got what they wanted.Personally I'd prefer to see a united Britain but if any country (including England) want to go it alone they should be (financially) cut off immediately and told to get on with it.

[M'coli]

Oil has propped up the UK economy for the past 30 years. The UK's share of North Sea Oil is mainly in Scottish waters, hence the reason that Aberdeen is the centre of the UK's oil industry and Shetland has a big oil terminal.

I suspect that if Scotland had achieved independence prior to the oil boom, we'd have squandered the profits from it on subsidising the Clydeside shipyards, various steelworks, coal mining, fags, greasy food, and fizzy lager/heavy. We might have had the world's leading heart disease specialists too.

 

I don't think that we'd have been as prudent with our oil as the Norwegians have been, let's put it that way...

[Richard]

I'm not a fan of Salmond but he's a huge improvement on the Labour/Liberal cunts that preceded him.