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I've overdone it with work.  That meant I had to take yesterday off which is usually my big earning day of the week.  Today I slept in WAY too late and that in turn meant missing out heading over to Wetherby to meet Meter Rat and other BXers, possibly Dean too.  Feeling pretty grotty, seriously short-tempered with everyone and everything and the end of last week I lost my temper with a customer, which I never do, and am hoping I can repair any damage caused there.  Absolutely everything is ticking me off at the moment and even though I'm supposed to be doing the Princess brakes with Mike tomorrow, I can see it becoming something of a tool throwing shouting match if I can't manage to unwind.

It's all very First World Problems, I'm aware.  I've just been holding it all in, as you have to sometimes, to try and get through Stuff and Things, improve my financial lot, expand my business, and try and get on with life.  Sometimes, being self-employed is seriously trying and not having a real world friend network doesn't help.  I can't just pop down the local to see my mates, because I haven't got any that close.  Mike bears the brunt of all my frustration because he lives in the same house and I tend to focus my frustrations on him, unfairly, and the smallest things he does sometimes wind me up so much it's impossible even though it's not like he's doing it on purpose nor is it really that big a deal.

I probably need a holiday or something.  Why must everything constantly be so difficult?

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To add to the above, my suspicions that the suspension on the Princess is not quite right have been confirmed with a corner bounce.  Driver's side front is firmer than the other three corners which hints at a lack of gas since it hasn't leaked any fluid out and sits almost imperceptibly lower than the other side.  Great joy.  I have no spare front displacers and no money with which to obtain one, nor refurbish the existing one.  So I'll get the brakes done and then likely have to lay it up until I can afford to get some suspension work done.  Happy days.

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  On 19/05/2019 at 19:07, vulgalour said:

To add to the above, my suspicions that the suspension on the Princess is not quite right have been confirmed with a corner bounce.  Driver's side front is firmer than the other three corners which hints at a lack of gas since it hasn't leaked any fluid out and sits almost imperceptibly lower than the other side.  Great joy.  I have no spare front displacers and no money with which to obtain one, nor refurbish the existing one.  So I'll get the brakes done and then likely have to lay it up until I can afford to get some suspension work done.  Happy days.

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Does it need fixing? Or can you continue driving as is just with suspension not so smooth?

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Yes, it needs fixing.  The more it's used, the more gas will leak, and the greater the chance of splitting a diaphragm.  I have the BX to rely on thankfully, so it makes more sense to mothball the Princess, save up, and get all the displacers regassed.  It's just expensive to get done, and I was hoping I wouldn't have any more big car bills for a while.

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  On 17/05/2019 at 22:12, Doctormop said:

Thanks all for your good wishes Much appreciated and genuinely helpful

I wasn't going to post on here about what happened but last night just started typing and am glad I Did.

I am crap at communicating and am trying to be better at it

The Tell me Show me Describe idea has really helped, Deep down I'm a bit Who What Why When etc and it doesn't help with anything non mechanical,

I will look at things differently from now on.

Whilst I never really got on with My Brother I am going to miss him but just wish He was easier to like I mean He could have tried to help Himself, Family tried Work tried Social Services all did their best but He wouldn't accept help unless it was in the form of money to drink and gamble We reckon a conservative estimate of his losses over 25 years is around £200k

Guilt and anger are a big part of our lives at the moment I see that now

Thanks again to everyone who helped I'm in a much better place than I was 24 hours ago and will try to pass that on to the rest of the Family.

This place etc

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Not excusing him, but drinking and gambling are illnesses and it's very hard for people to break the habit. Please try not to feel guilt. 

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  On 19/05/2019 at 19:17, richardmorris said:

Your local council will probably offer a service. I’ve just checked and mine is £53 for three nests.

https://www.surreyheath.gov.uk/residents/environmental-services/pest-control/pest-control-charges

 

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If they are wasps, leave them and wait until you have two more nests for best value.  

 

If they're bumblebees, they're probably tree bees, in which case leave them as they will cause no harm.  The description of thumping the ceiling doesn't sound like tree bees though.

 

If they're honey bees, a summer's honey stores will be a problem shortly.  Contact your local BKA, via the BBKA, to get someone to come and get them for free.

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Worx impact driver 2015-2019, gone but not forgotten.

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My favourite tool finally pegged it screwing up fence panels. ?

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  On 19/05/2019 at 20:15, cort16 said:

 

Worx impact driver 2015-2019, gone but not forgotten.

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My favourite tool finally pegged it screwing up fence panels. ?

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Time to upgrade to Makita LXT

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You think I'm made of money? ? It's only 50 quid for another worx one.

It really was great I got so much use out of it.

 

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The telly again, soz.

 

All this 'modern' camera work is fucking awful. Stupid close-ups, partially blurred back grounds and weird camera angles are just awful to watch.

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Bollocks

Dropped my son off at edge hill uni this evening , came up to the M58 roundabout on the way back, a car on it motoring at some speed so I stop and bang , run into from behind by a 68 plate Mercedes 

The damage looks exactly the same as when the last numpty hit it in 2017 

What a pain in the arse , only 2 bonuses 

1 , I was going to go in the mustang but couldn't be bothered to play musical cars and take the disklok off 

2 it's all on dashcam including all my swearing which will be nice for whoever's has to review it.

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  On 18/05/2019 at 12:49, richardthestag said:

Find the wasp motorway to the outside world, should be easy by the constant stream of the stripey little fuckers crawling in or out of the same hole 

Wait until dusk, at this point you will observe that all activity on the wasp motorway will have dwindled down to fuck all traffic.

deposit wasp powder into the hole, don't be shy with it.

next morning little bastards will go in and out of the motorway again as usual but will now be dragging poison back in for the queen.

Nest will be dead within 48h

zero risk of attracting a sting

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I tried that a few years ago when they were in some tree roots , went out at dusk to where I knew the entrance was , shone a torch and the sneaky little fuckers had covered it with leaves so I got a stick to poke it open again

All I can say is in this instance you're wrong about their only being one entrance and they can scramble faster than a spitfire squadron when attacked

My wife still smiles when I mention it , seeing me running down the garden under attack 

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The worst I ever got stung was when I was helping my dad put up a fence. Stake straight through the nest. As you can imagine, they were pretty angry. 

Sprinted 100 metres with them following us the whole way. I jumped in the car to find 8 of them clinging onto me and stinging. Ended up with over 12 stings on me. 

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  On 19/05/2019 at 19:33, loserone said:

If they're bumblebees, they're probably tree bees, in which case leave them as they will cause no harm.  The description of thumping the ceiling doesn't sound like tree bees though.

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They do look rather like tree bees from what I can see of them.

Re the thumping the ceiling thing, I found this quote on a web article about them:

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  1. Rapid reaction and defensive behaviour when a nest suffers vibration.
  2. The sound of bee activity heard through a ceiling – which can sometimes cause concern.
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I have both of those.  I'm therefore going to assume they're harmless bumblebees and leave them well alone unless and until it is proven otherwise.

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Aye, you'll be reet with them then.  Enjoy!

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This is the severe weather outlook for tomorrow in the US. Okahoma city has been given an 80% chance of a damaging tornado. This is a quite rare occurance and it is also close to the 6th year anniversary for the Moore, Oklahoma EF5 tornado. Annoyingly enough Father Fumbler's equipment depot is in... Oklahoma City. The original factory was in Puerta Rico until a certain hurricane blew the entire place to smitherines. This will not be fun for anyone involved.

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Came here because I wanted to offload a grump.

Typed it all in. A fair bit, as I don't do concise.

Then, when formatting some of the text using shortcut keys, the screen suddenly jumped to some weird MS Edge mode whereby the mouse became a pen, and before I realised what had happened, I'd drawn all over my overwrought text like a toddler with a crayon.

In trying to remove it, the text all deleted. 

I can't get it back. It hasn't autosaved. It's my fault but I don't even know how I managed to do it.

Double grump.

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  On 20/05/2019 at 11:48, wuvvum said:

They do look rather like tree bees from what I can see of them.

Re the thumping the ceiling thing, I found this quote on a web article about them:

I have both of those.  I'm therefore going to assume they're harmless bumblebees and leave them well alone unless and until it is proven otherwise.

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I phoned a guy when I had stripey buggers flying in and out of somewhere near my roof - He asked couple of questions then just said they were bees as it was too early for Wasp nests ignore - I did, they went ( I think, not been up to check so might have a loft full of buzzing!) 

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  On 18/05/2019 at 13:04, richardthestag said:
my fucking whinge for the day.
Yesterday mrs managed to break the dishwasher again. bottom tray overflow float activated. means that diswasher needs tilting back to drain water from under tray. which I did.
Then it came up with a blocked pump message. ffs
had a look at it after my supper was was pulling lumps of plastic n shite out of it.
Some how my fault that mrs loads mugs and plates into dishwasher with plastic food wrapping on them.
Cleared it but then message E01 = call the Bosch engineer because machine has shut down. ffs
I suggested that we need an engineer. Mrs launches into a "don't spoil my evening" rant which culminated in me doing absolutely nothing right.  
Then she tells me that I need to field phone calls from her dad this morning because sky engineer is visiting to finally fix their sky tv. Invaluable to the poor old 87 year old who has been without it since his house move. Mrs has done all the chat and negotiation over the last 3 weeks. 
So why do I need to be on hand? Because Mrs is going for a fucking run and coffee with her friends this morning. gah
I pointed out that I need to work to get RR finished to get it sold to bring in money.
Her fuckwitted response is "yeah I know you have your greedy eyes on my parents inheritance" 
I tipped a glass of red wine onto the carpet, called her a poisonous vile old bag* (or words similar that are unprintable) and retired to my computer.
An hour later she extended an olive branch and said sorry.
BUT shit sticks, I am still angry with her, 3rd time she has come up with this shit and it could not be further from the truth. Low mood means that I just cannot shake it
She is still irritated that I cannot fix the dishwasher that she fucked up in the first place.
22 long hard years of happy marriage delivers new challenges every day
Oh and my blood pressure is stratospheric and I am dizzy as fuck which means that I have an inner ear infection and I am still busy.
Am I doing the washing up? nah
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I will do when she finishes her coffee and we can do it together.
Sons have A-levels this week so are deep in revisions
Menopause?

Sent from my Redmi 4 using Tapatalk

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  On 20/05/2019 at 12:45, 5speedracer said:

Menopause?

Sent from my Redmi 4 using Tapatalk
 

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Or just the position of the moon?

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Saturday was number 2 daughter's Hen Party, ended in major drama between other daughters, Mrs and others- upshot we're all disinvited, even though I'm £5k down and we've all got flights , car rental  and hotels in Granada booked. 

Sunday morning I forgot to do a job for a new company - unlikely they'll give me any more work.

Cant get any worse today , right?

Nah, Mrs N's 98 year old Granny fell over at home and is in hospital in Paddington ( 50 miles away) , we'll go in a couple of hours when I get back from a job, says I- " She's not going anywhere, after all"....

We get a call half wY down the M1 - yes , she died. You can imagine who's fault it is that she didn't get to say goodbye.

Seriously couldn't get worse...

Today whilst looking for something in the shed a box of rat poison fell on the floor, youngest didn't notice and left the shed door open, the dog found them. Again guess who's fault for not putting them in a tin in a locked cupboard?

Vet treated dog with an injection to make him vomit and gave him charcoal £90 so far , going back for more blood tests every day this week.

Things can't get worse, can they ?

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Quiz complete

You scored 87%
You passed! (passing requires 86%)
Now try the most difficult questions

 

Fuck that .. I will take my bus pass and somebody else can drive the mini bus at work , if that's what the new drivers are learning ...

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  On 18/05/2019 at 13:04, richardthestag said:

....22 long hard years of happy marriage ...

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I think they call it "wedded blitz".

  On 20/05/2019 at 12:45, 5speedracer said:

Menopause?...
 

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Womenopause, surely?

  On 20/05/2019 at 13:16, colnerov said:

Or just the position of the moon?

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Works better if done out of the back window of a coach going down the motorway.

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  On 18/05/2019 at 13:04, richardthestag said:

my fucking whinge for the day.

Yesterday mrs managed to break the dishwasher again. bottom tray overflow float activated. means that diswasher needs tilting back to drain water from under tray. which I did.

Then it came up with a blocked pump message. ffs

had a look at it after my supper was was pulling lumps of plastic n shite out of it.

Some how my fault that mrs loads mugs and plates into dishwasher with plastic food wrapping on them.

Cleared it but then message E01 = call the Bosch engineer because machine has shut down. ffs

I suggested that we need an engineer. Mrs launches into a "don't spoil my evening" rant which culminated in me doing absolutely nothing right. ;) 

Then she tells me that I need to field phone calls from her dad this morning because sky engineer is visiting to finally fix their sky tv. Invaluable to the poor old 87 year old who has been without it since his house move. Mrs has done all the chat and negotiation over the last 3 weeks. 

So why do I need to be on hand? Because Mrs is going for a fucking run and coffee with her friends this morning. gah

I pointed out that I need to work to get RR finished to get it sold to bring in money.

Her fuckwitted response is "yeah I know you have your greedy eyes on my parents inheritance" 

I tipped a glass of red wine onto the carpet, called her a poisonous vile old bag* (or words similar that are unprintable) and retired to my computer.

An hour later she extended an olive branch and said sorry.

BUT shit sticks, I am still angry with her, 3rd time she has come up with this shit and it could not be further from the truth. Low mood means that I just cannot shake it

She is still irritated that I cannot fix the dishwasher that she fucked up in the first place.

22 long hard years of happy marriage delivers new challenges every day :D

Oh and my blood pressure is stratospheric and I am dizzy as fuck which means that I have an inner ear infection and I am still busy.

Am I doing the washing up? nah

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I will do when she finishes her coffee and we can do it together.

Sons have A-levels this week so are deep in revisions

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You got a fucking APOLOGY ?

29 years of Marriage, and I've NEVER had an apology. EVER

 

Apart from her occasionally saying "I'm sorry, that I have ME, and a Frozen shoulder and am so useless" 

to which I say "You can't apolgise unless it's your fault. It would be like me apologising for the US invasion of Iraq or Donald Trump's continued existence on the earth" 

 

But for the arguments that she started? Never. Obviously I'm to blame for getting her a new phone, and her not being able to access voice mail. (which took 3 minutes to sort) 

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  On 20/05/2019 at 21:37, MikeR said:

Quiz complete

You scored 87%
You passed! (passing requires 86%)
Now try the most difficult questions

 

Fuck that .. I will take my bus pass and somebody else can drive the mini bus at work , if that's what the new drivers are learning ...

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If you'd failed would they sack you or promote you? 

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Promote me .... I am the only one who can actually drive ...!

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Found out today that I will be out of a job in around 3 months.

I know to many this sort of thing will have happened before however this is a first for me.

Unpleasant times now and ahead.

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  On 21/05/2019 at 10:36, Split_Pin said:

Found out today that I will be out of a job in around 3 months.

I know to many this sort of thing will have happened before however this is a first for me.

Unpleasant times now and ahead.

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Sorry to hear that. Happened to me last year and, though it may well present an opportunity and path to better things in the end, it can be very unsettling and stressful.

Best of luck.

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  On 20/05/2019 at 23:20, Tadhg Tiogar said:

 

Womenopause, surely?

 

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 HI, Debatable.  Women get it,  men suffer from it.

Colin

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