The grumpy thread

[captain_70s]

12 hours ago, richardmorris said:

Amazon claim to have delivered a book to my porch today at 1.30. It’s not here. Nor is there a video of anyone passing or coming to the door when the time is supposed to have been. This means they haven’t delivered to a neighbour either as you have to pass my door to get to theirs. The Royal Mail did deliver my post and a parcel from the folio society this morning which was helpfully left on my porch, but nothing from Amazon.

perhaps Prince Edward has it? I hope he likes science fiction. It’s adrian Tchaikovsky’s latest.

issue raised with Amazon.

Amazon left a parcel for my girlfriend next to the shed yesterday. Not her shed mind you, just a shed.

She managed to locate it with a bit of hunting.

[Alex66]

33 minutes ago, captain_70s said:

Amazon left a parcel for my girlfriend next to the shed yesterday. Not her shed mind you, just a shed.

She managed to locate it with a bit of hunting.

I have had delivery people claim unable to deliver as no one was home, when I was in as I work from home when I get work. Then Amazon have left electronics on top of the  recycling bin, had to send the whole lot back it was pissing down with rain. 

[busmansholiday]

10 hours ago, SiC said:

In an age of next day and (with Amazon) same day deliveries, my grump is when they are not.

Ordered a puller set and wing protector from "the tool academy" on Monday that was supposed to arrive at the latest yesterday. Only just shipped today.

Also ordered a front and back brake rebuilt set for the BGT off http://msc.parts yesterday, but the order is still showing as unshipped. I don't think it's even been processed. Tempted to cancel and just pay a bit more to get what I need from my local Moss branch.

So it looks like I won't be getting the brakes sorted and going for a proper drive in it this weekend now. FFS 

I've been fucking about with the brakes on the B roadster for a time now. New master seals improved the feel but the sytem needed bleeding. Checking the rear and someone, not me, has butchered the adjusters so it will not adjust the slack in the shoes correctly.

Quick interweb search and MGB Hive are cheapest. Ordered Wednesday, arrived yesterday pm. Fitted offside but as she's close to the wall have to move her. Grump, rain today, bollocks.

[Cavcraft]

Sorry to hear your news, DoctorMop, that's awful. 

[New POD]

10 hours ago, Doctormop said:

8  Days ago My Brother took his own life after many years of threatening to do so.

He left a Wife, Two Children and our Dad to deal with the aftermath of his lies drinking and gambling.

I'm glad to see the back of the Useless Twat but by God trying to make sense of things is beyond Me; not so much for me but for those He chose to leave behind is difficult.

I haven't got Children and never wanted them so have literally no idea what to say to my Niece (14) and Nephew (12)

As for My Dad, who will be burying His Eldest Son next week; I can be of no practical help at all'

.God knows I've tried but how can I possibly know how everyone else is feeling?

Wife.  Anger and GUILT and worry about the kids. 

Kids. ANGER, and confusion and more anger. 

Dad. GUILT.  

And Saddness. 

You? You must be feeling something. Relief. But guilt too.? 

Look. Those kids are going to be fucked up. 

You need to make an effort to help.

And if they push you away, keep coming back

 

[TataBobu]

On 5/15/2019 at 10:58 PM, TheDoctor said:

 

I want a Suzuki Wagon R. I think I'm broken. 

Go for it! try to find a 4x4 one, they're fun.

[MorrisItalSLX]

I want a Suzuki Wagon R. I think I'm broken. 

Correct me if I’m wrong, but did you not have one recently?

[Tamworthbay]

You know that moment when you realise someone you thought was a mate is in reality an unmistakable cunt? Yup just had one of those.........

[Doctormop]

Thanks all for your good wishes Much appreciated and genuinely helpful

I wasn't going to post on here about what happened but last night just started typing and am glad I Did.

I am crap at communicating and am trying to be better at it

The Tell me Show me Describe idea has really helped, Deep down I'm a bit Who What Why When etc and it doesn't help with anything non mechanical,

I will look at things differently from now on.

Whilst I never really got on with My Brother I am going to miss him but just wish He was easier to like I mean He could have tried to help Himself, Family tried Work tried Social Services all did their best but He wouldn't accept help unless it was in the form of money to drink and gamble We reckon a conservative estimate of his losses over 25 years is around £200k

Guilt and anger are a big part of our lives at the moment I see that now

Thanks again to everyone who helped I'm in a much better place than I was 24 hours ago and will try to pass that on to the rest of the Family.

This place etc

[wuvvum]

It appears that I have a wasps' nest in the attic.  Excelsior.

[New POD]

20 minutes ago, wuvvum said:

It appears that I have a wasps' nest in the attic.  Excelsior.

Can think of worse places.  Please try a can of spray carpet adhesive. 

[wuvvum]

I'm not going anywhere near the fucking thing.  It's right in the corner of the loft under the eaves (as far as I can tell from where the buzzing is coming from and the fact that said buzzing goes mental when I bang on the ceiling in the corner of my bedroom) so access is not going to be good.  I'm not allergic to wasp stings but I'm not exactly fond of them either, and trying to beat a hasty retreat whilst picking my way across rafters and down a shonky ladder strikes me as a recipe for disaster.

[richardthestag]

1 hour ago, wuvvum said:

I'm not going anywhere near the fucking thing.  It's right in the corner of the loft under the eaves (as far as I can tell from where the buzzing is coming from and the fact that said buzzing goes mental when I bang on the ceiling in the corner of my bedroom) so access is not going to be good.  I'm not allergic to wasp stings but I'm not exactly fond of them either, and trying to beat a hasty retreat whilst picking my way across rafters and down a shonky ladder strikes me as a recipe for disaster.

Find the wasp motorway to the outside world, should be easy by the constant stream of the stripey little fuckers crawling in or out of the same hole on the outside of the house. They are creatures of habit and will have only one entry / exit point

Get some stripey little bastard killer powder stuff from the garden centre.

Wait until dusk, at this point you will observe that all activity on the wasp motorway will have dwindled down to fuck all traffic.

climb a ladder on the outside of the house.

deposit wasp powder into the hole, don't be shy with it.

next morning little bastards will go in and out of the motorway again as usual but will now be dragging poison back in for the queen.

Nest will be dead within 48h

zero risk of attracting a sting

[MikeR]

If they dont bother you .leave them ... Every other creepie crawly will be food for them .....then get the nest treated before they go mad.   In fact put a sign up near the doorbell to say beware of the wasps nest and have a quiet visitor free life ........

[richardthestag]

my fucking whinge for the day.

Yesterday mrs managed to break the dishwasher again. bottom tray overflow float activated. means that diswasher needs tilting back to drain water from under tray. which I did.

Then it came up with a blocked pump message. ffs

had a look at it after my supper was was pulling lumps of plastic n shite out of it.

Some how my fault that mrs loads mugs and plates into dishwasher with plastic food wrapping on them.

Cleared it but then message E01 = call the Bosch engineer because machine has shut down. ffs

I suggested that we need an engineer. Mrs launches into a "don't spoil my evening" rant which culminated in me doing absolutely nothing right.  

Then she tells me that I need to field phone calls from her dad this morning because sky engineer is visiting to finally fix their sky tv. Invaluable to the poor old 87 year old who has been without it since his house move. Mrs has done all the chat and negotiation over the last 3 weeks. 

So why do I need to be on hand? Because Mrs is going for a fucking run and coffee with her friends this morning. gah

I pointed out that I need to work to get RR finished to get it sold to bring in money.

Her fuckwitted response is "yeah I know you have your greedy eyes on my parents inheritance" 

I tipped a glass of red wine onto the carpet, called her a poisonous vile old bag* (or words similar that are unprintable) and retired to my computer.

An hour later she extended an olive branch and said sorry.

BUT shit sticks, I am still angry with her, 3rd time she has come up with this shit and it could not be further from the truth. Low mood means that I just cannot shake it

She is still irritated that I cannot fix the dishwasher that she fucked up in the first place.

22 long hard years of happy marriage delivers new challenges every day

Oh and my blood pressure is stratospheric and I am dizzy as fuck which means that I have an inner ear infection and I am still busy.

Am I doing the washing up? nah

I will do when she finishes her coffee and we can do it together.

Sons have A-levels this week so are deep in revisions

[chaseracer]

16 hours ago, Tamworthbay said:

You know that moment when you realise someone you thought was a mate is in reality an unmistakable cunt? Yup just had one of those.........

Yeah, been there.  Not long ago or too far from here.

[wuvvum]

1 hour ago, richardthestag said:

Find the wasp motorway to the outside world, should be easy by the constant stream of the stripey little fuckers crawling in or out of the same hole on the outside of the house. They are creatures of habit and will have only one entry / exit point

I've been watching the roof and found where they're going in and out - between two roof tiles.  I don't have a ladder long enough to reach up there.  However, looking at the shape of the critters going in and out (they're too high up and too smoll for me to be able to make out the full details), I think they might be bees rather than wasps.  If that is the case then I will leave them alone.

[Inspector Morose]

1 hour ago, chaseracer said:

Yeah, been there.  Not long ago or too far from here.

But you still love me ?

[Tamworthbay]

1 hour ago, chaseracer said:

Yeah, been there.  Not long ago or too far from here.

Yeah it’s not good is it, someone who has been a close friend for a few years and then suddenly the most vile racist rant I have heard in years comes out for absolutely no reason whatsoever, both in front of me and partly on Facebook. What really pisses me off is that they have used more than their fair share of the NHS over the years but were happy to slag off all immigrants as ‘parasites’.  I didn’t get into a big argument, no point, but won’t be making contact again. You think you know someone..........

[beko1987]

2 hours ago, richardthestag said:

my fucking whinge for the day.

Yesterday mrs managed to break the dishwasher again. bottom tray overflow float activated. means that diswasher needs tilting back to drain water from under tray. which I did.

Then it came up with a blocked pump message. ffs

had a look at it after my supper was was pulling lumps of plastic n shite out of it.

Some how my fault that mrs loads mugs and plates into dishwasher with plastic food wrapping on them.

Cleared it but then message E01 = call the Bosch engineer because machine has shut down. ffs

I suggested that we need an engineer. Mrs launches into a "don't spoil my evening" rant which culminated in me doing absolutely nothing right.  

Then she tells me that I need to field phone calls from her dad this morning because sky engineer is visiting to finally fix their sky tv. Invaluable to the poor old 87 year old who has been without it since his house move. Mrs has done all the chat and negotiation over the last 3 weeks. 

So why do I need to be on hand? Because Mrs is going for a fucking run and coffee with her friends this morning. gah

I pointed out that I need to work to get RR finished to get it sold to bring in money.

Her fuckwitted response is "yeah I know you have your greedy eyes on my parents inheritance" 

I tipped a glass of red wine onto the carpet, called her a poisonous vile old bag* (or words similar that are unprintable) and retired to my computer.

An hour later she extended an olive branch and said sorry.

BUT shit sticks, I am still angry with her, 3rd time she has come up with this shit and it could not be further from the truth. Low mood means that I just cannot shake it

She is still irritated that I cannot fix the dishwasher that she fucked up in the first place.

22 long hard years of happy marriage delivers new challenges every day

Oh and my blood pressure is stratospheric and I am dizzy as fuck which means that I have an inner ear infection and I am still busy.

Am I doing the washing up? nah

I will do when she finishes her coffee and we can do it together.

Sons have A-levels this week so are deep in revisions

Oh I get that, but not quite in the same way

"ffs why do you have to do that fucking hoover now?" 

*in my head*"because I want it gone as the guys giving me £180 for it..."

*real life*"because I want it gone and out of the way... 

Sod telling her what I actually get for them! And soon I won't ever have to again! 

[strangeangel]

24 minutes ago, Tamworthbay said:

Yeah it’s not good is it, someone who has been a close friend for a few years and then suddenly the most vile racist rant I have heard in years comes out for absolutely no reason whatsoever, both in front of me and partly on Facebook. What really pisses me off is that they have used more than their fair share of the NHS over the years but were happy to slag off all immigrants as ‘parasites’.  I didn’t get into a big argument, no point, but won’t be making contact again. You think you know someone..........

A few years back, a chap I used to ride with on a regular basis, and that I considered a mate, surprised me when he started on about how he was off to Bradford for an EDL march. That was the last time I clapped eyes on him.

 

[richardthestag]

3 hours ago, wuvvum said:

I've been watching the roof and found where they're going in and out - between two roof tiles.  I don't have a ladder long enough to reach up there.  However, looking at the shape of the critters going in and out (they're too high up and too smoll for me to be able to make out the full details), I think they might be bees rather than wasps.  If that is the case then I will leave them alone.

defo, bee family do nowt but good.

stripey bastard family just do nowt

[SiC]

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-lincolnshire-48326572

[mrbenn]

19 minutes ago, SiC said:

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-lincolnshire-48326572

Absolute scum.

Exhibitors must be heartbroken ?

[vulgalour]

I've overdone it with work.  That meant I had to take yesterday off which is usually my big earning day of the week.  Today I slept in WAY too late and that in turn meant missing out heading over to Wetherby to meet Meter Rat and other BXers, possibly Dean too.  Feeling pretty grotty, seriously short-tempered with everyone and everything and the end of last week I lost my temper with a customer, which I never do, and am hoping I can repair any damage caused there.  Absolutely everything is ticking me off at the moment and even though I'm supposed to be doing the Princess brakes with Mike tomorrow, I can see it becoming something of a tool throwing shouting match if I can't manage to unwind.

It's all very First World Problems, I'm aware.  I've just been holding it all in, as you have to sometimes, to try and get through Stuff and Things, improve my financial lot, expand my business, and try and get on with life.  Sometimes, being self-employed is seriously trying and not having a real world friend network doesn't help.  I can't just pop down the local to see my mates, because I haven't got any that close.  Mike bears the brunt of all my frustration because he lives in the same house and I tend to focus my frustrations on him, unfairly, and the smallest things he does sometimes wind me up so much it's impossible even though it's not like he's doing it on purpose nor is it really that big a deal.

I probably need a holiday or something.  Why must everything constantly be so difficult?

[vulgalour]

To add to the above, my suspicions that the suspension on the Princess is not quite right have been confirmed with a corner bounce.  Driver's side front is firmer than the other three corners which hints at a lack of gas since it hasn't leaked any fluid out and sits almost imperceptibly lower than the other side.  Great joy.  I have no spare front displacers and no money with which to obtain one, nor refurbish the existing one.  So I'll get the brakes done and then likely have to lay it up until I can afford to get some suspension work done.  Happy days.

[SiC]

2 minutes ago, vulgalour said:

To add to the above, my suspicions that the suspension on the Princess is not quite right have been confirmed with a corner bounce.  Driver's side front is firmer than the other three corners which hints at a lack of gas since it hasn't leaked any fluid out and sits almost imperceptibly lower than the other side.  Great joy.  I have no spare front displacers and no money with which to obtain one, nor refurbish the existing one.  So I'll get the brakes done and then likely have to lay it up until I can afford to get some suspension work done.  Happy days.

Does it need fixing? Or can you continue driving as is just with suspension not so smooth?

[vulgalour]

Yes, it needs fixing.  The more it's used, the more gas will leak, and the greater the chance of splitting a diaphragm.  I have the BX to rely on thankfully, so it makes more sense to mothball the Princess, save up, and get all the displacers regassed.  It's just expensive to get done, and I was hoping I wouldn't have any more big car bills for a while.

[richardmorris]

On 5/18/2019 at 6:20 PM, richardthestag said:

defo, bee family do nowt but good.

stripey bastard family just do nowt

Your local council will probably offer a service. I’ve just checked and mine is £53 for three nests.

https://www.surreyheath.gov.uk/residents/environmental-services/pest-control/pest-control-charges

 

[Cavcraft]

On ‎5‎/‎17‎/‎2019 at 11:12 PM, Doctormop said:

Thanks all for your good wishes Much appreciated and genuinely helpful

I wasn't going to post on here about what happened but last night just started typing and am glad I Did.

I am crap at communicating and am trying to be better at it

The Tell me Show me Describe idea has really helped, Deep down I'm a bit Who What Why When etc and it doesn't help with anything non mechanical,

I will look at things differently from now on.

Whilst I never really got on with My Brother I am going to miss him but just wish He was easier to like I mean He could have tried to help Himself, Family tried Work tried Social Services all did their best but He wouldn't accept help unless it was in the form of money to drink and gamble We reckon a conservative estimate of his losses over 25 years is around £200k

Guilt and anger are a big part of our lives at the moment I see that now

Thanks again to everyone who helped I'm in a much better place than I was 24 hours ago and will try to pass that on to the rest of the Family.

This place etc

 

Not excusing him, but drinking and gambling are illnesses and it's very hard for people to break the habit. Please try not to feel guilt.