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[Lacquer Peel]

Shite fundraiser if there's donation's to a charity or Hendry's family?

This time last year I was in a very similar position to Hendry and didn't feel comfortable talking to anyone about it. Please talk even if it's Mikey's line, a GP, whoever.

[xtriple]

When I went to pick up the Mazda I met up with a chap who works there, known him for close to 30 years. He MOT'd my car this morning (but didn't know it was mine) so we had a bit of a catch up (in te snow). 25 years ago, he and I were both going through the mill with our 'exes' re our kids, his good lady accused him of everything under the sun and mine accused me of everything else (molesting my son etc) and we were both in a bad way. As it turned out, we both got full custardy of our children but God, it was a truly awful time and there were several stages when I didn't think he was going to make it (and he I as it turned out). While we were never really good mates/close, we did have each other to talk to about the shit our respective wives threw at us, stuff that no one else was interested in, or would believe for that matter.

 

I told him about Hendy and that was what set us off about the misery that being denied access etc can cause. I wish I had taken notice of whichever thread the poor bugger posted his woes on, I 'may' have been able to help, or at least, offer support. SOmetimes, that's all you need. God bless lad.

[HMC]

Just caught up with the news about hendry. So sorry to hear, I remember his carefully considered and thorough posts and his knowledge, particularly when I had a polo he just knew all about it! Sorry to hear. RIP.

[mercrocker]

Never met Hendry but I have just read the news and found it quite overwhelming.   The P in RIP is heartfelt on this occasion, chap, what a tragedy.    

[Talbot]

Exceptionally sad news about Hendry. I never spoke to or really knew him at all, as I've not been back on AS for very long, but he posted this not 3 weeks ago over in open forums:

 

Even more depressed than ever, havent got the inclination or attention span to do anything, barely left the house, barely got out of bed for about a week now. Rattling like a junkie from what i assume is hunger because ive barely eaten in days and yet dont feel hungry. Feel tired but cant sleep, meds not helping, cant get counsellor until next week, hes been busy last couple of weeks so havent been for a while. Just cant face anything and in a totally non suicidal way, i just dont want to be here and cant be bothered with life and its same shit different day.

 

Diagnosed with aspergers and emotionally unstable personality disorder as well as depression and dont feel im getting any better despite being on these drugs over a year and at couselling for 6/7 months now usually once a week.

It's quite dramatic that he went from that to this in such a short space of time. Feel particularly bad for his daughter, who will never know her father. Very sad indeed.

[artdjones]

Many people are depressed for real reasons and pills or even counseling can't do anything about those reasons.Felt sad about this all day.I didn't know Hendry but he put a lot of himself into his posts, which I always enjoyed.

[egg]

I wonder if a tiny bit of good could come of this?

 

So many shiters with mental health issues. Could we have a pinned thread somewhere with links to possible ways of getting support - NHS, charities, other shiters (I believe we have some who have worked in the field) etc. Just an idea.

 

Having a kid with aspergers/autism as well, makes me realise we need to get these support resources out there as much as possible.

 

'Time to Change' did some good work a few years back.

[strangeangel]

'Time to Change' did some good work a few years back.

 

They still do, I was involved in a community radio station a few years back that worked with them on a joint project, and the participants couldn't say enough about how their involvement with TTC had helped them.

[trigger]

I spotted his Facebook profile earlier, it seems he lost his sister, another child, his wife and then custody of his new daughter in only a matter of a few years, even the strongest minded of people would struggle over news like that, I can't even imagine what he must have been going through but it must have been hell if he felt he couldn't carry on no more.

 

A lad from work killed himself about 9 years ago, again he was only young, around 25 and was the nicest guy you could meet, I was only talking to him the day before and he was still laughing and joking on break, the following day his mum found him swinging in the apple orchard. I never did find the real reason for it but I did hear that it was because his parents had told him he had to find a home of his own and "blackmailed" him by telling him they was going to throw him out thinking it would be the kick up the arse that he needed but it back fired on them. I still feel numb about that and I know a few people from work who were really affect by it and still are.

[Lord Sterling]

Fuck.

 

Just seen the news about Greg Hendry.

 

 

Why? Seriously why?

 

RIP Friend. I never met him but I feel the pain.

 

RIP Greg Hendry, your contributions and fantastic knowledge of spec will be especially missed.

 

Edit*

 

You know guys, I was on here yesterday and I did wonder about him briefly as I'd not seen him on here in a while.

 

I really wished I'd reached out, sent him my phone number and had a chat, at the very least. I am a good listner and I know that life can be tough.

 

I just wished I'd reached out a bit more.

 

 

[crapcarcollector]

I cannot add anything.

RIP

 

 

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[quicksilver]

Don't know what to say really. I never met Hendry but feel like I knew him through his posts here. He was clearly very knowledgeable about car trivia and wrote with passion and eloquence on the subject. Poor bloke's head must have been in a very bad way for it to come to this at such a young age. I hope he finds peace in shite heaven. 

[fraser.innes.3]

Just Fuck!

 

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[tommotech]

Like all of us I’m a bit taken aback by the news of Hendry’s passing and the circumstances. Whenever you meet anyone, or deal with them on such places as here, you never know what battles they are fighting inside. A sobering reminder to how sensitively we should treat each other when we don’t know true circumstances.

 

Mo, don’t beat yourself up fella, chalk it up and move on. You have your own struggles, as we all do, without adding that regret.

 

RIP Hendry

[richardthestag]

very very sad

 

thoughts with family and friends

[The Moog]

 

 

Shite fundraiser if there's donation's to a charity or Hendry's family?

We are on it.

 

Stanky is going to do a special fundrazr or similar.

 

Will then ask for what the family wishes to do with it.

[SiC]

Maybe a bit too soon just right now, but it might be worth writing to Hendrys father to let him know of this place. Not for him, his mother or his ex, but for his little girl. The daughter who will grow up without knowing really what her father was like. When she gets older, and if this place is still around, she may want to revisit his old posts to understand what he liked, what interested him and who her father was.

[beko1987]

Maybe a bit too soon just right now, but it might be worth writing to Hendrys father to let him know of this place. Not for him, his mother or his ex, but for his little girl. The daughter who will grow up without knowing really what her father was like. When she gets older, and if this place is still around, she may want to revisit his old posts to understand who what he liked, what interested him and who her father was.

Its a shame, his daughter would have had the best fucking example of a 2003 Corsa C Sri ever for her first car. Original tax disc holder and dealer plates and all.

[Kiltox]

Raising a glass to him tonight. I’m still absolutely in a state of disbelief.

[The Moog]

Wonder if we could do a card.

 

So get a big card, those who wish to contribute will sign a sticker and send to the card holder. Then we can create a card from those of us who wish to be part of it.

[Kiltox]

1000% up for that

[beko1987]

With a picture of an old Arnold Clarke dealer sticker on the cover?

[SiC]

With a picture of an old Arnold Clarke dealer sticker on the cover?

Probably not. He really didn't like them!

[D Spares & Tyres]

Maybe a bit too soon just right now, but it might be worth writing to Hendrys father to let him know of this place. Not for him, his mother or his ex, but for his little girl. The daughter who will grow up without knowing really what her father was like. When she gets older, and if this place is still around, she may want to revisit his old posts to understand who what he liked, what interested him and who her father was.

Good idea.

 

Print all his posts out. Maybe edit a few, but get them sent to his daughter when she is older. Am sure someone local could organise that.

 

Also, I really hope the hearse will be on local plates

[beko1987]

Probably not. He really didn't like them!

 

In the old font then. I always got the impression he liked the old Arnold Clark, then they went to shit (just like everything in life)

[beko1987]

Good idea.

 

Print all his posts out. Maybe edit a few, but get them sent to his daughter when she is older. Am sure someone local could organise that.

 

Also, I really hope the hearse will be on local plates

With enough time spent with his old posts we could create the most comprehensive vauxhall wiki ever!

[DodgeRover]

Today started well

 

Had a message about 20 minutes ago, I'm very sorry to say that Hendry of this parish took his own life yesterday evening at the age of 30.

 

Some of his more recent struggles were documented on here, none of which were good - I can only hope he is now at peace.

 

I did have the pleasure of meeting him a few times and a nicer bloke you could not hope to meet.

 

All of you - it is never as bad as you think. PLEASE talk to someone if you're having a time of it, it will help.

 

R.I.P. Greg.

 

 

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Oh shit I'm sorry for him and those close to him

[3VOM]

I wonder if a tiny bit of good could come of this?

 

So many shiters with mental health issues. Could we have a pinned thread somewhere with links to possible ways of getting support - NHS, charities, other shiters (I believe we have some who have worked in the field) etc. Just an idea.

 

I'm sorry to hear about Hendry. I am another shiter who suffers from depression and fortunately I am on the mend and currently trying to get off the medication I am on and get back to normal, as in being a normal human being. I look back and see that my depression was a long term thing but not an intense, deep hole. I am hopefully within a few months of giving up medication entirely as little bits of my life start picking up in small steps. There is nothing though that says this can't change for the worse again at some point in the future but I feel better equipped to spot the signs and do something about it.

 

We have a predominately male environment here, and men are reputedly notorious for not asking for help when they should and at a time when it would be appropriate. Any help we can offer or direct fellow shiters towards should be part of our legacy from now onward.

[HH-R]

I've returned to this thread a few times today in shock, hoping that I'd read it wrong and it wasn't true.

 

I never met Greg, but like many, enjoyed his contributions here.

 

So sad for his loved ones left behind.

 

Like Mo, I feel guilty for not having reached out.

 

I hope he is at peace now at least.

[mk2_craig]

Sad news. I saw the comment about "non suicidal" and did wonder whether the opposite might be true. Would be lovely if someone who knew him well could contact the father and make him aware, at the appropriate time, of this place.