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[red5]

Awful news.

 

RIP matey.

 

Donations/card as per spec.

[M'coli]

I've just read the last few pages of this thread, and like everyone else that has posted about Hendry, I am shocked and saddened by his passing.  He will be missed.

[SRi05]

Terribly sad news. I never knew him personally but seeing the reaction on here tells you everything as to how he was regarded. I hope he's now at peace, and his family can come to terms with their loss. If there is a forum collection I'll make a contribution. RIP

[Lord Sterling]

We have a predominately male environment here, and men are reputedly notorious for not asking for help when they should and at a time when it would be appropriate. Any help we can offer or direct fellow shiters towards should be part of our legacy from now onward.

YES.

 

Seriously chaps. Open your mouths/type on keyboard, just let it all out. Too scared? A bit embarrassed? Send me a private PM. If I can help even just a little bit, I will.

[GrumpiusMaximus]

I feel like I've joined the right forum after reading today's news.  Terrible news but the collective reaction has been... right.

[captain_70s]

Bloody hell, terrible news about Hendry. RIP, chap.

 

Makes some of his later posts in the depressions thread to be sobering reading...

[stuboy]

respect to hendry, 30 is no age, and yes as men we too proud to ask for help, you will be missed and seek help.

[HillmanImp]

This is terrible news. Poor lad and all the people who knew him.

 

I saw one of his posts the other day and did think that reading between the lines that he sounded desperate but just moved on as had other unimportant shit to be getting on with. Obviously now, reading this I feel terrible for fecking off and playing trains with me lad or making a friggin sandwich or whatever I ended up doing, despite the fact that there was probably nowt I could've done as he almost certainly wouldn't listen to some twat he's never spoken to anyway as he had more important stuff going off in his head. But still I feel like a right bastard now though.

 

I've been in some pretty shitty low times like a lot of people, I'm not sure if they were worse or better than anyone else its all subjective I guess. Its probably because I am shallow or a psycho or something but I have got through it by taking comfort in the fact that I look at people getting on with shit in war torn Syria or some shit and put it into perspective to my own shizzle but not everyone can rationalise like that I guess, that's just my way of dealing with it and if that helps someone else I may as well put it out there.   

 

To anyone ever thinking like that, things can get better. They can get worse too though but if you can hold on to find out, I'd recommend it. 99 times out of 100 its probably worth it.

[Geep]

Shocked to read this, very sad. RIP Hendry.

 

Having been through a very messy divorce and losing contact with a 5 year old and 1 year old I know how demoralising it can be. Court cases for more or less two years before it was sorted. Regular access, holidays and ended up with them now grown up and me having two grand children. The idea of them being turned against me or losing them at the time never came to be.

 

Plenty of people told me it would sort itself out in time but it didn't feel like it at the time. Just mentioning so anyone else finding themselves in that position, don't despair, be there for them and time will work it out. As others say, don't keep problems to yourself, just someone to listen to your woes can help. Doctors are also far more receptive to MH problems these days so never be afraid to mention it to the Doctor either.

[Ghosty]

Fucking hell. 

 

I'm in a time of severe existential dread and confusion (don't ask, doctor's on Monday) and this has hit me oddly hard. Completely unexpected, and oddly sobering.

 

My sincerest condolences.

[taxi paul]

Really sad news.

[The Moog]

Wonder if we could do a card.

 

So get a big card, those who wish to contribute will sign a sticker and send to the card holder. Then we can create a card from those of us who wish to be part of it.

 

Hendry Card thread now open -http://autoshite.com/topic/31158-hendry-card-thread/

[UltraWomble]

Craphats.

Thats very sad.

[oldcars]

Raising a glass to him tonight. I’m still absolutely in a state of disbelief.

I went out and fitted the repro dealer plates on my Shuma last night, in the cold. Thought of him and and grandfather. Silly but felt a good time to do it. Shame i fell over the recycling bucket after but there you go.

[Split_Pin]

I'm shocked, absolutely awful news. His knowledge of Scottish car dealers and cars was tremendous, we must not lose what he has had the good grace to share with us on here. His Flickr stream was a treasure trove and should also be presrved

 

Everybody with whom we cross paths is fighting a battle we know nothing about. Be kind, always.

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

Only met Greg the once....... thoroughly nice chap. The amount of info he could recite as just phenomenal - gobsmacking.

I know a lot of us on here and around us in real life have the 'real' life things to deal with and some of it isn't pretty. We get to low points sometimes - it's human. I hope that I'm never too proud or in such a situation that I see only one way out. As has been said before - my line is (almost) always open one way or another.

 

Sleep easy Greg - I hope they do Corsa SRis up there as runabouts. Far too young........

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

In other news - it hit -9 at my place this morning  plus(minus!) wind chill.......... the munchkin cycled in as there is a bloody strike on here of course. Brassic just doesn't cover it! He was a trooper though and kept on rollin'.

 

Hope everyone is coping with the OMGSNOKAOS

[cros]

Posting rubbish about cars doesn't feel appropriate for a while after hearing this. I hope that the support and understanding shown here is of help to those in despair. Very sad.

[AlabamaShrimp]

I've k my just seen this and Tbh I've no idea what to say.

 

We knew he was having problems but thus is awful.

[spartacus]

This is terrible. I'm sat in my van crying over the futility of it. When Hendry put that post up about access to his daughter I thought about messaging him but didn't. If I'm ever in that situation again I'll do my best to be there, unfortunately that won't help Hendry.

I'm struggling to take it in and I never even met him, I can only try to imagine how his family must be feeling.

Life deals some cruel cards and takes some rough turns but when somebody you know, even from a distance, like many of us knew Hendry, takes their own life it's almost the most unbearable shock of all.

I'll miss those huge posts that took ten minutes to read.

RIP Hendry.

[tooSavvy]

**Reality Attack**

 

Real world issues... Who OWNS his content?

 

"..His Flickr stream was a treasure trove and should also be preserved.."

 

Where are his rights to logins....

 

RIP Hendry

 

TS

[RobT]

Posting rubbish about cars doesn't feel appropriate for a while after hearing this. I hope that the support and understanding shown here is of help to those in despair. Very sad.

 

That's why I refrained from posting details in this thread about my collection yesterday (keeping it to a brief post elsewhere), as it just didn't seem appropriate at the moment.  Tragic news.

[Guest]

Just caught up with this.. F*ck. This sort of thing is happening too often in our society.  It really does need an overhaul.

[sierraman]

That is desperately sad news.

[Captain Furious]

Crikey, that is awful news, 30 is no age at all.  I hope he finds the peace in death that he obviously couldn't in life.

 

I didn't really know him other than the odd comment on his Mk6 escort thread, nevertheless it is a sobering thought that you are brushing shoulders, if only virtually, with someone going through such unimaginable suffering that they felt taking their own life was the only way out.  Needless to say I urge anyone having any similar thoughts to reach out to someone, a family member, friend, work colleague, random stranger on the internet.  You'd be amazed at the goodwill that can be found in the human race when the chips are down.

[greengartside]

Just read the card tribute thread to him. Just in a state of shock - so young. I didn't know him personally but felt he was a part of the family on here. Like everyone has said, please talk to someone and don't EVER bottle things up. There's always a solution to any problem. There's a dealer-plated Escort waiting for you up there. R.I.P.

[Captain Furious]

As well as the well wishing and condolence messages, would it be worth forwarding some of the posts he made here about how he was feeling, or at least making them aware of his profile here should they wish to look for themselves.  It is a journal or diary of sorts and often people will write out their true feelings to a bunch of strangers on the internet far more readily than disclosing them to friends and family, who they tend to suffer in silence with.  Having that insight could help them understand how he was feeling. 

 

It could also come across wholly inappropriately though, so I dunno.

 

Edited to add: Sorry I originally posted this in the card thread and didn't realise it had already been suggested here.  Needless to say I agree that there may be some value in it for his family, and daughter inparticular.

[Yoss]

I've just found out about this via the card thread and spent the last hour reading that and this. Don't really know what to say but I know I'm in good company here, some of you have a far better way with words than me. Happy to admit I was in tears a couple of times.

 

I must admit I've never suffered from depression but the human mind is something none of us can truly understand.

 

I've got some Broadfields Garage dealer plates in my garage, from one of my old Dolomites and whenever I stumbled across them I was reminded of Hendrys conversations about Scottish dealers and his quest for the holy grail Escort. I kept these because Broadfields was an important place in the history of Club Triumph being the starting place of all the early Round Britain Runs. It's not the same thing but I understand the feeling of a nice set of dealer plates. I think I will have to mount them on the wall properly now.

 

Thanks Hendry for all the posts.

[Datsuncog]

I don't think I'll ever see another Mk6 Escort and not have the impulse to check the dealer plates on Hendry's behalf, the most recent opportunity being only last week. A fair few Scottish registered cars end up in Northern Ireland, and I was hopeful that I might help him find his 'unicorn' one day.

 

But yeah. Been reading over his detailed posts on the Charles Hurst dealership hierarchy on my Laguna thread, and can't get my head around him not being here anymore. He'll really be missed. I just hope that somehow, despite everything, he knew he was loved and valued. And it's pretty crappy that I only ever think to type these words when the person they're directed to isn't here to read them.

 

All of you here on Autoshite mean more to me than you'll ever know. We'll all have our squabbles and disputes, but the core of what this community is - what it stands for - is pretty rare and worth celebrating. We're all little Lucas lamps glimmering in an eternal night; some brighter, some dimmer; some closer, some farther. But I never want to see another go dark too soon.

[spartacus]

Well said Datsuncog.