The grumpy thread

[Metal Guru]

41 minutes ago, Mally said:

We nursed my dad at home for 3 months on our own. My wife stopped work, I was on the best wage.

We were both dead beat, turned him over every 2 hours. The promised night relief turn up the day after he died. We had informed them.

My wife was in hospital, so easier, but spent many nights on a reclining chair.

Strangely it's still a shock when it finally happens.

I’ve only really got experience of one health authority here but I get the impression it’s fairly wide spread, but the organisation of support workers for caring at home is absolutely shocking. I’m not talking about the care received ( which can be patchy but it’s not a nice job and people will have bad days etc), but the logistics , where and when they’re supposed be there , equipment needed delivered after death, unbriefed staff turning up and having to be told the  whole story from scratch, staff turning up at home after hospital admission or death , etc etc.

All that is wasted resources supposedly in short supply but nothing changed in the three years between my Mum and Dad requiring them.

No one is willing to criticise the NHS, but it can’t be denied that it is run by complete idiots. 

[Mally]

18 minutes ago, Metal Guru said:

 

No one is willing to criticise the NHS, but it can’t be denied that it is run by complete idiots. 

I replied to this but have deleted. 

There were a few cock ups with my wife along the way.  Both  doctors refused to sigh the death certificate,

Coroner wanted  a post mortem, maybe inquest.  My decision, and we let it go.

The kids wanted it over and done by Xmas, which was what happened.

Probably for the best.  We all make mistakes, as they said when I scrapped a £6,000 panel at Aerospace.

I wouldn't like to be playing with human bodies.

[Metal Guru]

6 hours ago, Mally said:

I replied to this but have deleted. 

There were a few cock ups with my wife along the way.  Both  doctors refused to sigh the death certificate,

Coroner wanted  a post mortem, maybe inquest.  My decision, and we let it go.

The kids wanted it over and done by Xmas, which was what happened.

Probably for the best.  We all make mistakes, as they said when I scrapped a £6,000 panel at Aerospace.

I wouldn't like to be playing with human bodies.

I’ve no real problem with the actual medical care, it’s just various departments don’t have a clue what others are doing. For example, they had a meeting re my mother going home, half an hour before she died. No one had checked on her condition to be sent home but they were “organising” beds, local cover etc. Also no one ever involved our family in these discussions. I live 100 miles from my mother’s house, my siblings 300. They never asked us how we’d organise things or how long we needed to rearrange our lives around it. 

This is a Trust that has put “integrated” into their title. Deluded!

[sierraman]

Radio Presenters on Greatest Hits… why do they talk incessant bollocks. Had Greatest Hits Radio on earlier, Gerry Rafferty Baker Street was on, gets the to guitar solo and he comes on and talks over it! What a cunt!!! And why do they have this constant ‘countdown to the weekend’ I do actually have some sort of pleasure and enjoyment on weekdays. 
 

This interruption is tantamount to getting your end away then just as you are getting to the vinegar strokes some fucker walking in and asking you to sign something or the radio coming on disrupting your rhythm. 

[beko1987]

1 hour ago, sierraman said:

Radio Presenters on Greatest Hits… why do they talk incessant bollocks. Had Greatest Hits Radio on earlier, Gerry Rafferty Baker Street was on, gets the to guitar solo and he comes on and talks over it! What a cunt!!! And why do they have this constant ‘countdown to the weekend’ I do actually have some sort of pleasure and enjoyment on weekdays. 
 

This interruption is tantamount to getting your end away then just as you are getting to the vinegar strokes some fucker walking in and asking you to sign something or the radio coming on disrupting your rhythm. 

It's why you load up a usb/sd/minidisk with a ton of music and don't bother with the radio at all. 

I remember being sad when I broke the dab aerial in my head unit 3 or 4 cars ago now. Took me a month before I realised how much of my 45 minutes in to lbc was just ads. I don't have the fm tuned in either 🤷

Granted the mp3's in my car have been the same 8gb's worth for the last 10 years but it's good stuff 😂

[Supernaut]

1 hour ago, sierraman said:

Radio Presenters on Greatest Hits… why do they talk incessant bollocks. Had Greatest Hits Radio on earlier, Gerry Rafferty Baker Street was on, gets the to guitar solo and he comes on and talks over it! What a cunt!!! And why do they have this constant ‘countdown to the weekend’ I do actually have some sort of pleasure and enjoyment on weekdays. 
 

This interruption is tantamount to getting your end away then just as you are getting to the vinegar strokes some fucker walking in and asking you to sign something or the radio coming on disrupting your rhythm. 

You just reminded me.

On Friday 6music were doing a 1990s day. Chris Hawkins played Saltwater by Chicane on his show then talked all over it at the best part.

I need to go and listen to it elsewhere now, without interruption.

[reb]

I've never particularly liked the radio. When I got my first car I went to HMV and bought £120 worth of compilation CDs and a big CD wallet. That served me well for the first couple of years of driving before I got spotify and a bluetooth stereo.

[myglaren]

Bluetooth in my car has gone on strike.  Always listen to stuff saved onto my phone.  Silent journeys from now on.

[New POD]

On 11/01/2025 at 17:01, Mally said:

We nursed my dad at home for 3 months on our own. My wife stopped work, I was on the best wage.

We were both dead beat, turned him over every 2 hours. The promised night relief turn up the day after he died. We had informed them.

My wife was in hospital, so easier, but spent many nights on a reclining chair.

Strangely it's still a shock when it finally happens.

He died at 10:15 this morning. Mum.and sister were with him, I was brushing my teeth. His last breath was about 5 minutes before I came into the room.  I was the person that confirmed that "Yes..he's dead"

Mum really pleased it was so peaceful with the sun shining and a lovely view of Snowdon.  Doctor has just been 7 hours later, and we are now awaiting the undertaker.  

Maybe this should be in the grin thread, because I'm pleased that he and mum experienced the death they wanted. 

I've had a glass or 2 of his best scotch. 

and a glass or 2 of red.

This is Dad (and mum) on Christmas day. Dad's food was mechanically mashed to mush. 

this is  the last picture I took 4? days later when I told him to stop being miserable, and that he had everyone running around after him, and he wasn't in any pain. That was exactly 2 weeks ago.  He was eating a banana.

He'd really gone down quickly over the last few days but I wasn't planning to be here for the end. And am glad that I was brushing my teeth. 

Took my sister for a walk on Red Wharf bay this afternoon, and held her whilst she cried her little heart out. 

[New POD]

Undertaker arrived. 

[Wibble]

Condolences, may he rest in peace. It’s hard, even when expected.

[junkyarddog]

Condolences to you and your family.

R.I.P.

[New POD]

6 minutes ago, Wibble said:

Condolences, may he rest in peace. It’s hard, even when expected.

To be honest, it's a relief. 

He didn't suffer (apart from weeks of radio therapy in 2023. 

[Wibble]

5 minutes ago, New POD said:

To be honest, it's a relief. 

He didn't suffer (apart from weeks of radio therapy in 2023. 

I know, I’m glad it was peaceful and painless.

[High Jetter]

A lot to process, my thoughts are with you. You'll find relief, and release, god willing.

[maxxo]

Decided to upgrade my parents house alarm today as the previous panel has a failure of the microprocessor 

thought to myself, surely, can’t be that bad

 

welp

9 hours in the cupboard later

did over 30 years so can’t complain

but fuck me

my back is fucked

whoever fitted it labelled nothing

what a fucking nightmare

have to go back tomorrow to make some last tweaks as 7pm was late enough for me

what a nightmare 

 

[richardmorris]

2 hours ago, New POD said:

To be honest, it's a relief. 

He didn't suffer (apart from weeks of radio therapy in 2023. 

I’m sorry for you and the family. To be fair I felt like that about my grandmother a few years back. It was sad but a relief as she was in a lot of pain before and had no quality of life.

[IronStar]

In today’s episode of where the fuck did you get your license - mk1 Focus estate jumped into the traffic from the gas station on the other side of the road 5m in front of me. Mashed the brake, locked up, skidded, but thankfully there was no one on the sidewalk so climbed the kerb and stopped there not to ram the idiot. Few meters after where his car was. 
He didn’t even floor it when joining to have a chance in hell to make it without a crash. No apology either, just drove away. For extra WTF points, there were no cars behind me, so he could’ve just waited 5 extra seconds.
I really hope I didn’t bend any suspension components from climbing the kerb at 40ish kmh. 

[Westbay]

@New POD

Condolences ...

[alcyonecorporation]

Employers who take the 8K piss for six months, find my breaking point, then act wounded when I explode. 

'How...how dare you! You can't do that, you can't say that...waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah what an over-reaction'. 

Oh, just fuck off. I'm not working when my car's dropping coolant all over the ground, because you sure as fuck aren't buying me a new engine. 

'Oh well this is a failure on your part, the area manager's being rung, you're probably sacked.' 

"No mither, I quit, then."

'Oh! Well! Thank you!' 

"You're welcome [slams phone down]". 

[comfortablynumb]

I've chucked a few jobs like that @alcyonecorporation, just try not to let it get to you.

Bugger them 🙏

[richardmorris]

I’m losing the will to live…

[reb]

Two interesting facts:

1) the letter T is the second most used letter in the english language

2) the T key on the thinkpad I've put on writing duty and brought to the coffee shop has started playing up

 

Also I managed to bump my coffee with my bag while I was putting my tray down and it kind of went everywhere.

[maxxo]

Been told today by the letting agent I’m getting a new boiler in 2 weeks time

grump is that means gas bills will go up

i don’t understand how it’s possible for them not to

so I’ve got a glowworm micron at the minute according the web it’s a 14kw boiler and a 120 litre or so hot water cylinder 

I’ll be getting a 36kw I believe Baxi combi

so heating wise, yes it may warm up quicker but it’ll be using more gas doing so right?

im not happy about having the boiler fire every time I use a hot tap either, that’ll be more expensive over the course of the month I reckon as the cylinder gets heated anyway by the current boiler so I just use that for bathing etc the next morning

im also really not happy about the proposed location, the current one is tiny and in a kitchen cupboard, they’re moving it to where the cylinder is in the front bedroom

ive asked if they could just leave it but no apparently it’s been paid for etc

i absolutely despise combi Boilers as it is, but I just feel this is going to be a lot of faffing around to cost more in gas and have less water pressure

ill be asking them to leave the cold water tank in place for the bathroom, I want a reserve if the water goes off

massive grump from me 

[reductiongear]

Probably a minor grumble but nonetheless still a grump. 

Alternator belt snapped and of course I was out without tools. Cue a mad dash to ECP and b&q to buy some bits, whilst hoping battery would last. Alternator belt fitted in 15 mins in b&q car park. 

However was out in some decent clothes and have tore my jeans in the process from the arse to the crotch... 

[comfortablynumb]

I've always, ALWAYS, got tools in the car. @reductiongear

Whether they're the right tools for the job, well thats another matter 🤦

[reductiongear]

28 minutes ago, comfortablynumb said:

I've always, ALWAYS, got tools in the car. @reductiongear

Whether they're the right tools for the job, well thats another matter 🤦

I have a socket set but did not have it in the car 🤦‍♂️. More annoyed about the jeans I ripped

[chaseracer]

31 minutes ago, reductiongear said:

I have a socket set...

10mm present, or AWOL? 😉

[comfortablynumb]

Been on before, but worth sharing again 

[artdjones]

12 hours ago, reb said:

Two interesting facts:

1) the letter T is the second most used letter in the english language

2) the T key on the thinkpad I've put on writing duty and brought to the coffee shop has started playing up

 

Also I managed to bump my coffee with my bag while I was putting my tray down and it kind of went everywhere.

The keys on a ThinkPad unclip with an upward pull on the front edge. Quite often something has got underneath.

Edit:-Just checked and it was the side edges on my newer one.