The grumpy thread

[RedSparrow]

Sorry to wander off the car theme but personally I'm slowly realising more and more every day that I may be suffering from depression

 

I just feel sad most of the time, and the littlest thing anyone says or does can set me off and it's just one big downward spiral at the moment. I have realised I have a problem and I want to take my life back so I am going to phone the doctors tomorrow and try and sort all this mess out. It's probably a combination of things over months or years that's finally blown up in my head and messed all my chemicals up

 

Has anyone got it on here and if so, what are you doing to cope with it? I'm just a mess

Yes.

The stuff the doctor gave me (various different sorts) didn't really work - sometimes made it worse, which is not uncommon. The pills that did cheer me up left me walking around like a zombie. Works for a lot of people though so worth a try and I hope it works for you.

I am kind of ok at the moment but often have bad times.

Strangely, eating loads of chocolate seemed to work better for me than any pills.

Oh and if lack of sunlight effects you more than most people, you can buy a UV light box - my friend has one.

Sorry if thats not much help. I understand and sympathise fully though.

[Louise2cv]

I quit my job. I am lucky that my lovely boyf will support me both emotionally and financially. The one thing I didn't do and should have done is go to the doctors, I might not have needed to quit my job that way so I'd say you are making a very sensible decision.

 

It happens to more people than you think, hang in there, I hope the doctor can set you on the road to recovery.

[Pillock]

Short version: I was diagnosed with depression after a few incidents. I went onto Fluxotine for a few months, seemed to help. Ran out, decided I was better off without it, things got really bad when I came back down.

 

Back to doctors, reassessed, given the option of going back on pills or, and I quote, "sorting my life out".

 

New job, split with the GF, moved out, much happier, no need for pills. They're not always the answer but you probably need to chat to someone to work out what's best for you, sometimes it's just a few lifestyle changes that are needed.

 

If you need to chat further, PM or email me......

[meggersdog]

You are doing the right thing going to your Dr.The happy pills didn't work for me but my Dr arranged therapy.It was the anxiety and panic attacks that caused my depression.I saw a therapist twice a month for eight months.Luckily I was well enough to attend court (the second time) to see the pikey scumbag who caused me so much grief and my illness get evicted from the council house over the road.

[wuvvum]

http://www.lowlifedubz.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=852

 

This is now for sale on RR.

 

http://retrorides.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=FSW&action=display&thread=85845

[myglaren]

PetrolPrices.com - Lying cunts.

qué ?

113.9p

Mrh North Anderson Drive Spar

North Anderson Drive, Aberdeen, AB16 7GD

Esso, 2.77 miles away, last updated on 22 August

It was actually 116.9p, 2p more expensive than the shell across the other side of the roundabout but invisible.

Most annoying when I'd just put half a tank in.

I have invariably found the info to be quite accurate but I wonder how they gather data - I have an idea that it is submitted by volunteers who may be a bit tardy in supplying their data - or that the petrol station perversely changed their pricing an hour after the report went in.

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For the depression problem, there is no simple answer or remedy but do try and evaluate the underlying cause rather than throw chemicals at it - it helps the symptoms superficially but can be the cause of greater problems.

 

My wife (doesn't live with me, been with a different guy for 14 years, on day we may get a divorce, not pressing though) was prescribed a cocktail of drugs including Prozac and she is now entirely reliant on them, without the depression having been alleviated.

[RedSparrow]

http://www.lowlifedubz.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=852

 

This is now for sale on RR.

 

http://retrorides.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=FSW&action=display&thread=85845

What a shithead.

[Guest]

Oh God. Oh fuck. Oh shit.

 

Right, this is getting PROPERLY out of hand now.

 

I said I wasn't going to discuss Uni again, but this needs airing as I am now properly rattled.

First problem: A lack of funding.

 

Problem Solved : I found somewhere that can do me a loan, all I have to do is sign on the dotted line. Or Fatha_Wat is willing to take out a loan in his name (long term customer - better interest rate) and I pay 'im back. I have sent an appeal to SFE and they have got back to me saying they've received it and are looking at it.

 

Second problem : Will need a job.

 

Problem Solved: Work have said (for the past five months) that there will be part time hours.

 

Third Problem: Work decides 'there are no more hours.'

 

Counterpoint \ Translation: There are hours, they are advertising them through Kelly's \ Reed. Translation: We want shut of you, piss off.

 

Problem Solved: Other Jobs Are Available. Possibility of deferral till 2011. This would allow me to get my finances sorted properly and stay FT.

 

Fourth Problem: Can I defer?

 

Problem Solved: Uni says 'Yes you can'. I sent a tentative question by email, along the lines of 'Can it be done, don't do it yet, I'm just asking, can you get back to me, I'm waiting for a reply from SFE and my FT job to make absolutely sure they're not yanking my chain...'

 

Fifth Problem: On the strength of one email, Salford have deferred me.

 

FUCK!

 

Problem Solved: Can they put it back for the time being?

 

Hang on lads, I think I left the oven on.....

[dollywobbler]

Bloody 'ell. Makes me glad I said bollocks to further ed. What is it you actually want to do Wat? I've personally always opted for the 'I reckon I could do that' approach to work stuff. Blagged myself a career in IT before becoming a writer.

 

I reckon this approach might have limits - well, hopefully the NHS wouldn't let me blag my way into brain surgery anyway...

[Guest]

Bloody 'ell. Makes me glad I said bollocks to further ed. What is it you actually want to do Wat? I've personally always opted for the 'I reckon I could do that' approach to work stuff. Blagged myself a career in IT before becoming a writer.

 

I reckon this approach might have limits - well, hopefully the NHS wouldn't let me blag my way into brain surgery anyway...

Haha, erm....broadcast journalism. (OMG IRONY).

 

It's not as if I haven't got any relevant experience either. On the open day I was blatantly the oldest there (someone asked me if I was the professor running it ) At one point we were asked what we'd done previously.

 

'I've recorded myself on tape', one said. 'I did a two day internship at Radio 1', said another.

The imaginary bottle got to me. I had to stop listing after 10 minutes and I didn't even get onto the SRA nomination.

The bloody thing has been going back and forth so many times it's concussed before it's even hit the wall and disappeared off into the distance. Crippling blow after crippling blow. My own little dialectic.

I didn't think you could defer on the strength of an email. If work get back to me now, or the other jobs I've applied to decide to take me on, I'm going to look a right nob after everything I've tried to sort out.

 

That said, if the place can be held open, it's probably the most sensible option, even though, as Karen O once sang, '[i'm] not getting any younger.' The whole thing is incredibly draining, but if I went in 2011 I'd stand a pretty good chance of being financially solvent rather than utterly destitute.

[Milford Cubicle]

[Lord Sterling]

Greengartside - As you probably know through my rant on here, I am the walking epitome of bad luck. Nothing works for me. I dont have a job, no money, my car has blown its engine and is looking like a homeless person sitting outside. Every little thing I do seems to go wrong.

 

A few years ago I was on top, money, job, car everything......

 

Something like this can drive people mad and certainly into depression. I've had many'a dark day. Thankfully though I have a good, small set of friends and family.

 

I see the problems in life merely as a test, something to try and knock you down. I try not dwell too much on the bad things in life, sometimes I even forget about them. I just try and smile and take it on the chin. I dont have time anymore to kick up a fuss.

 

Sometimes its easier said than done, but you never know until you try.

 

I dont have a working car but than doesnt stop me from going out and just taking an aimless wonder around some random nice places. I also try and keep myself busy.

 

Go and see your doctor. Get it off your chest.

 

I dont know if any of this helps, but I wish you well.

[Guest]

Are you taking the piss? Do I need to answer that?

 

[Cavcraft]

I wouldn't pay too much heed to PetrolPrices.com.

 

People like me who don't like the look of the misery arsed staff at certain garages log on to that website and 'accidentally' tell lies about their prices so others avoid the place.

 

Ps: not everybody gets hooked on anti-d's, it is possible in some circumstances to take them for a while and then stop.

[whitevanman]

Depression. it's a bitch, but you don't ACTUALLY have to put up with it...the best remedy is find something to be positive about ( a lot easier than you think) and avoid all this drugs pish......it's a sure way to destroy yourself, I know as my daughter has gone down the doctor route and is very likely ruined for life..............

 

 

STOP IT..............

YOU don't need to be depressed, just decide life is shite and deal with it, it may be JUST another bad day and not a mental/medical problem....

 

yes you actually do have my understanding, just not my sympathy

[Cavcraft]

Trouble is WVM that if you get depressed it's actually extremely difficult to see that and not that easy to simplify.

If you're having an off day it's easy to snap out of it and be rational, if you're depressed that can seem like another twist of the knife and another thing to worry about.

 

When depression sets in it's not a case of just snapping out of it or thinking of orange Allegros.

[Alexg]

My mrs is watching Big Brother. They are entering ex-housemates. Have you ever seen such a group of annoying fucktards. Shows like this remind us that our once great nation is full of embarassing under-educated, ignorant thick bastards, and for some reason the public love them....

 

Gas the house

[Guest]

My mrs is watching Big Brother. They are entering ex-housemates. Have you ever seen such a group of annoying fucktards. Shows like this remind us that our once great nation is full of embarassing under-educated, ignorant thick bastards, and for some reason the public love them....

 

Gas the house

+1

[Station]

Compressed air (for the spiders) I use the garage air line to evict them.

 

Station, you will feel loads better when the ebay invoice for this month arrives and your "profit" vanishes again.

Funk! I forgot about charges! So they're taking 10% of my pound?

[Formula Autos]

for some reason the public love them....

One of life's eternal mysteries, but one that at least explains the existence of OK magazine, and the continuing 'career' of Katie Price.

 

I have never watched an episode of Big Brother, and I'm strangely proud of it.

[Pillock]

My mrs is watching Big Brother. They are entering ex-housemates. Have you ever seen such a group of annoying fucktards. Shows like this remind us that our once great nation is full of embarassing under-educated, ignorant thick bastards, and for some reason the public love them....

 

Gas the house

Famous, for being famous. I watched the first ten minutes of the first show of the first series, and decided I wanted nothing more to do with it. Utter tripe, and I remain bemused at it's popularity.

[Station]

Just avoid Channel 4. I'm sometimes subjected to this when I'm at a mate's house. They have Big Brother on through the night, on TWO channels. They're asleep ffs.

I'd just like to say Channel 4 is totally shit. Shit American imports, pop music, fashion and the occasional documentary about useless shit. ITV is pretty shit as well, for opting to have teleshopping and bingo on at night.

Give me back 4 channels!

[Guest]

Just avoid Channel 4. I'm sometimes subjected to this when I'm at a mate's house. They have Big Brother on through the night, on TWO channels. They're asleep ffs.

I'd just like to say Channel 4 is totally shit. Shit American imports, pop music, fashion and the occasional documentary about useless shit. ITV is pretty shit as well, for opting to have teleshopping and bingo on at night.

Give me back 4 channels!

Channel 4 used to be good.

 

No, Channel 4 used to be great.

[Alexg]

C4 has still one or two good shows- inbetweeners is back soon.

[myglaren]

Trouble is WVM that if you get depressed it's actually extremely difficult to see that and not that easy to simplify.

If you're having an off day it's easy to snap out of it and be rational, if you're depressed that can seem like another twist of the knife and another thing to worry about.

 

When depression sets in it's not a case of just snapping out of it or thinking of orange Allegros.

Very true. Much common sense here.

[Guest]

About the only TV show I ever seem to watch now is that thing on Channel 5 where a fat American man moves large buildings in a really hamfisted way. I find it oddly compelling, reminds me of when thick blokes have to move things around a warehouse but don't really think things through to their conclusion, so a pallet full of fragile boxes lurches over and sways around whilst they shout and swear, etc.

 

Also, I sometimes watch the late night play-at-home roulette because sometimes there'll be an attractive female croupier and a male presenter and underneath the hollow flirting you can sense the most unbelievably chilly/tense/awkward atmosphere, bit like my life. Bet she hides in the toilet on her break just to avoid him. Must be running out of excuses for why she can't go out for a quick drink after work by now.

[pompei]

You put all that extremely well, STB. Depression and anxiety can be the most debilitating illnesses but there is help available.

[The Moog]

I had a bit of a breakdown 2 years ago. Walked out of work in tears. Thought I was being stupid but my Dr was tops. Talked me through it all, said that it is actually a chemical imbalance and isnt just a case of pull yourself together.

 

Was put on pills but struggled with them because they make you feel ok but a zombie. even made me feel suicidal something I thought I would never feel. Changed them and they worked better. Took them for 3 months then stopped because I couldnt work.

 

Biggest help for me was two things

 

1) counselling - thought that it would be all bolloxs but really helped. Got to the root of the issues which wasnt the trigger. only had 7 sessions and can quite honestly say it was one of the best things I have ever done.

 

2) Excercise - getting out and doing something really helps. I went and had golf lessons. Really worked.

 

I ended up changing careers and have never been happier. It was really good dealing with the problems.

 

Thing is to get on and deal with it. It wont go away and it isnt something you can just sort yourself.

[AlsoMike]

Realising that you could be suffering from depression and making the decision to do something about it is a really good first step. Doing something positive towards counteracting the effects, whatever it is you do, will help (helps with me anyway). I've suffered with it for years and have good and bad spells, I've tried the tablets several times, and they do help. They won't make you 'happy', but they will allow you to put the crap to one side and actually function for a while. Like SirTainlyBarkin says finding the cause of the depression can be key to keeping it at bay.

 

Totally agree with the Moog about exercise, I go to the gym, a lot, and it really helps.

[autofive]

AAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH

 

scimitars

 

after a couple of weeks of not running right (now on my 3rd carb in this car) my se5 lurched out of a supermarket carpark late last night with no oil pressure. i stopped let it cool down for half a hour. turned the engine over, and still no movement on the gauge. this morning i changed the oil drive shaft, which looked worn, and still no oil pressure, When removed from the block, the pipe (to the gauge) doesnt even drip when engine turned over, so the engine has to come out

 

this was the scene at 6:30 tonight, and an hour or so later (and with scarys help, and violin accompaniment) the anchor was removed.

 

 

dont know whats going in yet, i may just be lazy and plonk the Zephyr engine in - i know its a good engine, and its handy.