The grumpy thread

[Cheggers]

I suspect the long pause in anyone posting is because we're all wondering what the hell we can say to make things better for you.

 

Depression is a bastard. A bastard that has no preference or prejudice when it decides to take up residence.

 

Use the people you have around you, us included (us especially...). The working world is beginning to return to normal and you should be able to get professional help. In the meantime if you just want a sympathetic stranger to talk to, let me know and I'll PM my number.

 

Virtual hugs

 

 

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[chaseracer]

Bob, the problem with these "electronic relationships" (fnarr) and meeting in a field once or twice a year is that we shiters often don't know much about each others' daily lives.  This does not mean we don't care, however.

 

Remember this, though - and it has been shown every time I've seen you - YOU ARE A TOP BLOKE.

[LC Torana]

Is someone on here able to visit outlaw118?

 

Just put a brew on and listen to him.

[Ghosty]

So tired. Been up since 545, went to bed at 1am. 

 

Falling to pieces.

 

Been really grumpy for about a fortnight now, i suspect i've got Shingles - prickly feeling on my belly and back, but no rash. Rang 111 on Monday as it was so bad i couldn't wear a shirt, and they just said take paracetamol, and call the docs on Wednesday. 

 

Keep breaking down in tears too. For no real reason. I'm forty fucking seven FFS, not some two year old toddler whose had his blankie swiped. I'm on anti-depressants, (Mirtazepine?) but they don't seem to be helping. Had counselling in the summer - 6 x hourly sessions - but she couldn't convince me that i'm not completely useless as a son, brother, step-dad, husband, employee. So i tried to top myself. Couldn't even do that properly (OBVS!) took a shit load of assorted pills, hoyed them all up again. 

 

 

Ay up - I'm also depressed, and I've been on Mirtazapine too. Stopped working within a month. I've also been through a counsellor, as has my mum, and had similar experiences. Not good for much but very basic stuff.

 

I'd suggest you go to a/your GP and get yourself referred to an actual psychologist, you seem to have enough of a case - I do apparently after all, and I haven't tried any alternatives to life yet.

 

 

Purplebargeken is a mental health professional, I suspect he might drop you a PM if he sees that.

[M'coli]

The tearfulness is part of the body's response to fighting the shingles, I believe, so don't give yourself a hard time over it!

[The Moog]

Only thing I would add is try different counsellors. They aren't all equal.

 

Good counsellors understand that and normally will be happy to have a chat first.

 

Either that or 6 visits isn't enough. Humans dont have a factory resset button so it can take lots of time to undo it all.

[chaseracer]

Is someone on here able to visit outlaw118?

 

Just put a brew on and listen to him.

 

ASMM Roadtrip Coordination Dept. stands ready.

[Pillock]

Where are you in the world, outlaw?

[chaseracer]

Essex badlands... 

[bub2006]

Outlaw, you have me whole hearted sympathy regarding depression. As mentioned by Cheggers it doesn't take any prejudice in who or how it manifests. I'm game for coming to Essex. Get out and about or something? Even a cafe and cake.

[bub2006]

ASMM Roadtrip Coordination Dept. stands ready.

Friday??

[Cavcraft]

It doesn't count for much Bob, but you know we've got your back here mate. You might be a shandy drinking jellied eel miner, but you're a great bloke with a decent fan base on here. Words are just words when you're feeling blue, but just remember what you are certainly isn't 'useless' and everyone has emotional patches, not the least of which is down to Christmas and what not.

Now go and stick a Chas N Dave Betamax tape on and do the Lambeth Walk up and down your apples and pears, me old china.

[timolloyd]

I'm a trustee for the Mens Health Forum. We provide a free online service for anyone to talk with experts about stress, depression: https://www.menshealthforum.org.uk/beatstress.uk?gclid=CPG5kZTZltECFfgV0wodgvsN5A

[beko1987]

I'm hoping its not the ignition switch, it's been done before. The FCF recommends jiggling the key about as a test before getting the multimeter out.

 

But the other week the fans went on FULL BLAST for a few days then fixed themselves, and the Blower motor transistor thing was given as a culprit, so I've ordered a cheap one of those from ebay to see if it fixes things before looking at the ignition switch and the relay mod.

 

Not tried it today, going out to a party later with Eva so will see if it's fixed itself yet.

Right, the fans don't seem to work until I start to drive... Moving the fan speed to full and it turns on a few meters up the road, so I need to drive blind for a few meters then pull over and wait...

 

Fan speed resistor ordered! The speeds all work once the fans kick in though.

 

However the cloth I used to wipe the screen internally is filthy so now I need to clean the glass inside as its smeared to shit

[Cavcraft]

I've been chasing a bloody cheap car on social media, so cheap in fact it's pretty much a complete no-brainer. Trouble is despite a few polite questions and hints, he just won't tell me what's wrong with it. Obviously there's a chance it's free of major faults, but no matter what questions I ask about the mechanics, bodywork, roof etc all I get it 'come and see it'.

It's not far away but I just get the feeling he's hiding something (and I've said that to him) and a few other people have viewed it and walked away. Anyhow bollocks, he can shove it.

[tooSavvy]

I was working Monday... WVMing across the Tyne Bridge, as one does... poor soul hanging onto the OUTSIDE of the brige railings

 

Someone was kneeling on the path - likely pleading with the poor soul & bizzies had just pulled up.

 

Hope that all ended well.....

 

 

TS

[Richard]

I had that on the Tay bridge once. We were walking across the footpath in the middle when a slightly dodgy looking guy passed us coming the other way. I sensed that he hadn't kept going and looked back to find him clambering over the barrier and crossing the road to sit with his legs dangling over the river.

 

I dialled 999, the police sent two cars and a van over. The two cars held back and formed a rolling roadblock, the van went ahead and a copper leaned out and grabbed the guy. No pissing about, I'm not certain they even stopped and I doubt the drivers more than a few cars back even noticed anything was up.

 

I think they have to deal with that sort of thing quite a lot.

[Supernaut]

That does sound very efficient, though. Hope they took him somewhere he could get help.

[Richard]

I would think so. I'd hate to think they had that part of the operation so well rehearsed without giving any thought to what happened next.

[Tamworthbay]

Spent most of the day looking at cars for a mate, all at dealers and every one with an issue of some seriousness. One idiot tried to claim that the lack of clutch was due to the weather. This all on £5k cars. Needless to say none were bought.

[Negative Creep]

Sadly I guess several go over the edge without anyone realising

[Tamworthbay]

I was working Monday... WVMing across the Tyne Bridge, as one does... poor soul hanging onto the OUTSIDE of the brige railings

Someone was kneeling on the path - likely pleading with the poor soul & bizzies had just pulled up.

Hope that all ended well.....TS

When that happened in Derby last year a load of tossers below were shouting jump repeatedly. It's one of the few times in my life I have wished people dead, and it wasn't the poor beggar on the bridge.

[bub2006]

It's cold, I'm still wrestling with gearbox. Can't undo a bolt. Not happy

[omegod]

Sounds like you are having a rough ride Outlaw. I had an episode of terrible anxiety and depression when younger and danced with the reaper so to speak. It sounds to me like you are on the wrong dose or the wrong medication, please see your GP for a review it will help both to talk about how you are feeling and ask for another round of counselling, sometimes it's just the timing isn't right it took a few go's to find something that worked for me . If you've never suffered with it it's hard to understand why simply answering a phone/getting a shower feels like pulling a land rover up Everest while wearing slippers. 

 

I found a routine and a bit of structure also helped me massively, forcing yourself to go the corner shop at 9 , tidy up at 12, walk the dog at 3 etc etc. Happy to chat via PM

 

 

 

 

So tired. Been up since 545, went to bed at 1am. 

 

Falling to pieces.

 

Been really grumpy for about a fortnight now, i suspect i've got Shingles - prickly feeling on my belly and back, but no rash. Rang 111 on Monday as it was so bad i couldn't wear a shirt, and they just said take paracetamol, and call the docs on Wednesday. 

 

Keep breaking down in tears too. For no real reason. I'm forty fucking seven FFS, not some two year old toddler whose had his blankie swiped. I'm on anti-depressants, (Mirtazepine?) but they don't seem to be helping. Had counselling in the summer - 6 x hourly sessions - but she couldn't convince me that i'm not completely useless as a son, brother, step-dad, husband, employee. So i tried to top myself. Couldn't even do that properly (OBVS!) took a shit load of assorted pills, hoyed them all up again. 

 

Just had enough now.

 

Sorry to be a black cloud, just thought if i typed it out, it'd make me feel better.

[Tamworthbay]

Thing is, most high quality £5k VAG cars go to shit in cold weather because the brilliant, teutonic high quality plastic pushrod used to pull the clutch in and out develops stress cracks over the first few years of use and then fails altogether in the cold.That could be what they were on about. Ten ball joints at the front, mate. Proper sports cars.

BMW aren't VAG (yet?) and it was fooked properly, bite point was higher than a Doberman on stilts.

[Tamworthbay]

Just heard he has bought a 58 plate M sport privately for £5k (presumably in the dark as he was just driving it home when he phoned me). how could that one end I wonder?

[Timewaster]

Just heard he has bought a 58 plate M sport privately for £5k (presumably in the dark as he was just driving it home when he phoned me). how could that one end I wonder?

Ah. That old trick. I want you to come and look at cars with me..

 

You have rejected everything I've looked at, I'm going to wait until you have gone and just buy what I want anyway.

 

Woft.

[gordonbennet]

Just heard he has bought a 58 plate M sport privately for £5k (presumably in the dark as he was just driving it home when he phoned me). how could that one end I wonder?

 

Well thats one you can't get the blame for when it shits its timing chain next week.

[bub2006]

After our chat earlier Tamworth, I don't hold out much hooe

[Tamworthbay]

After our chat earlier Tamworth, I don't hold out much hooe

Nope, but what can you do. For £2k more he could have had a brand spanking new Dacia.