The grumpy thread

[dave21478]

Ten years ago I was stuck in a rut in a mediocre job in Aberdeen....wait...is there a pattern forming here?.... It was ok, pay was fine but nothing outstanding but further advancement was impossible.

I jacked it and moved to France. Granted I do have family nearby here which made things easier.

 

Was it the best thing I ever did and cured all my problems? nope. 

Its been fun, no doubt, but here I am now in another dead end job earning "ok" money but not enough to do what I want with cars and stuff, stuck in another rut and every step I take makes my rut that little bit deeper and harder to get out of.

 

The real problem is I am a prick. I am unsociable, I dont enjoy other peoples company for more than an hour or so. This makes it very hard to get on in a world where you are judged on how you appear, who you know and how interesting you are.

 

I need to change again... Dunno what though, the thought of going back to Aberdeen and getting a job in some factory or office is just too much to bear.

[Asimo]

Opened this thread to moan about the stupid places car makers hide fuse boxes but reading Philibustmyarm's tale has made me forget all that. 

 

Get well soon! Now, you need to get yourself an automatic and a claims lawyer......

[purplebargeken]

What the heck is it about Aberdeen? Hey, at least you are in France and in the company of interesting cheese and rabbit stew.

[chaseracer]

...cheese and rabbit stew.

 

Sounds lovely.

 

[richardmorris]

Rabbit stew can be a grump too. Bought bunny the other weekend from farmer's market. Viewed Jamie Oliver YouTube vid on how to portion said bunny. Casseroled with red wine, stock, herbs, onion etc for about three hours. And very nice it was too. But it's a hell of a faff for two people - and the shot was everywhere- think farmer used a blunderbuss! I think we should eat more game as it's sustainable and environmentally friendly and especially very tasty, but small bunny isn't worth the effort. Go for a big wabbit!

[chaseracer]

Go for a big wabbit!

 

 

[dave21478]

What the heck is it about Aberdeen? Hey, at least you are in France and in the company of interesting cheese and rabbit stew.

 

I hate all cheese that isnt cheddar. I hate wine, I hate coffee, I hate Pastis and I hate cigarettes. I dont fit in well here.

[purplebargeken]

You need to move to Aberdeen.

 

I don't like cigarettes but by gum, I'd move back to France this evening if I could. The only place I have ever felt at peace with.

[Jon]

As a context to Phil's little issues and my lack of communication on the subject (I've been busy with work), I had a call from him late Monday afternoon to say he'd just arrived at hospital after a spot of bother at work and he wouldn't be surprised if he'd broken his arm. It was a courtesy call to let me know that he'll be unlikely to help swap the Visa's head over for a few weeks. That was pretty much it! Presumably that arm of steel is to supplement his sizeable metal testes.

[dome]

 

I have a similar problem to yourself but on a slightly smaller scale. Not really going anywhere with my job and money is tight BUT it's tolerable and the bills get paid. Main issue now is the last of my Aberdeen based mates has moved away and my social contact with people is now nigh on non-existent. I spend too much of my time sitting around staring at the walls and trying not to spend money, it's driving me crazy. Becoming increasingly aware that my youth is over and I spent it doing nothing interesting and now my 20s are half over and I've done nothing of any real interest in them either.

 

Friends are saying I should move to Glasgow, cos that's where they mostly live. For a similar cost of renting my current house I could live in an alright area in a rather crap flat or have a nice flat in a somewhat crap area, I could probably sell the Civic/1850HL as I'd likely never need to drive anywhere and keep the 1300 as my only car. The concept of "going to the pub with mates" would no longer entail at least 2 hours of driving for most of the people involved. Also I'm not bad on the pull in Glasgow, probably because lasses in rural Aberdeenshire only like two sorts of bloke, loaded oil workers or burly farm hands.

 

but I've spent nearly 5 years at the egg packing factory as a "senior operative" doing a bit of everything, primarily mechanical maintenance/repair, but having no qualifications in anything other than IT tech support. I feel my chances of getting a job that pays a similar wage to mine without me sentencing myself to 70 hours a week are slim. Also, I've lived in the countryside since age 8 and the year 2000, I don't know how well I'd take to city life... I'm also a very small and muggable sort of chap.

 

Ultimately I fear I'm too good at talking myself out of things and am going to end up living a perpetually lonely life in a house with two spare rooms and a driveway full of cars I can't afford to fix and a job that I think is tolerable but I'm increasingly sure is a lie to myself.

 

 

TL;DR: Sacred of making huge move in life. Moving from shit bit of Scotland to a different shit bit of Scotland.

 

No harm in looking at what's on offer in Glasgow. I moved from darkest Ayrshire to Glasgow and it was liberating-not being the wierdest one at parties, not being looked at like a second class citizen because of your clothes/music taste/not liking the same shit the great unwashed do.  I loved it and still do, although I'm now in Fife. If you have mates there spend a few weekends down there, get a feel for the place and see what you think. 

[MarvinsMom]

sadly i like wine, 

 

and beer.

 

and cigarettes,

 

that is all.

[Split_Pin]

Jesus shit Phili_B sounds like you were chewed up and spat out. All the best for a swift recovery.

 

That contraption you have to drive looks like Nicholas Cugnot's Steam Gun Carriage of 1759 and just as dangerous.

[Split_Pin]

I worked for a bank for 6 months it was hell. I would take 15 negative points from a bank as a positive. You must be good.

I've worked for them for 17 years now and I can tell you that things don't improve after 6 months at all.

[AlabamaShrimp]

About 20 minutes ago I got into bed.

 

Crack!

 

The big bit of wood down the side split length wise from where it's joined to the headboard. Stupid thing is only connected with 5 very loose screws through a metal plate on the broken bit but 2 giant bolts on the other.

Why weren't the bolts made to go straight into the side of the wood not a crappy metal bit?

 

Anyway fixed it. It's now being held up with a 2 ton jack. Nect thing is bodge it with tons of wood, screws and glue or actually go by a new bed?

[philibusmo]

I've now been discharged from hospital. I have a follow up appointment in about 2 weeks to check up on my thumb, have my cast changed and stitches taken out. My thumb still isn't working properly but they think it's tendon damage which should get better over the course if a week or so.

 

Once again, thank you all for your kind words and sympathy. It means a lot and kept my spirits up knowing that I had a bunch of weird old car fondlers rooting for me.

[STUNO]

Yes Phil, I was able to solve the dilemma of visiting you or helping Jon today. But when the brain kicked in I realised I should have answered your call for a lift home from the hospital. Jon's brake job has not gone well (french car)but he will no doubt tell you about it. Now just take it easy fella.

[philibusmo]

No bother stu. I got a lift from my bosses wife and they bought me a load of food so it all worked out alright.

 

I'm now just chilling at home feeling very lucky that I'm still alive and have both of my arms.

[Split_Pin]

That's progress at least, still sounds like a scary event though!!

[Asimo]

 Nect thing is bodge it with tons of wood, screws and glue or actually go by a new bed?

 

You need an Autoshite bed like ours,  2 layers of 3' x2' pallets under a KingSize mattress.

20 years of 28 stone and not so much as a squeak, and all for zero cost.

[mercrocker]

You need an Autoshite bed like ours,  2 layers of 3' x2' pallets under a KingSize mattress.

20 years of 28 stone and not so much as a squeak, and all for zero cost.

  

[Frogchod]

Going to England tomorrow

 

Unlikely to get to SF, if I do it'll be Saturday afternoon when nobody is there.

 

At least I'll be in the land of proper beer

[AlabamaShrimp]

You need an Autoshite bed like ours, 2 layers of 3' x2' pallets under a KingSize mattress.

20 years of 28 stone and not so much as a squeak, and all for zero cost.

Unfortunately Mrs Shrimp has been moaning about a new bed for years (even though there's technically nothing wrong with this one) so I think this will push her to want some over priced tat that won't last 10 minutes.

 

This one was marked down to £50 from about £300ish 15 years ago and is mostly ok

[Cavcraft]

Some penniless botty rocket who was 'definitely' going to buy my bike let me down because his mum is 'really ill'.  So really ill, it would seem, that he managed to visit her on her sick bed at a car show in Wales somewhere.

[The Moog]

Came home to speeding ticket, 36 in a 30 in the swift. Bugger

 

 

May be offered a speed awareness course. Dunno whether to take it or not

[eddyramrod]

Take it, it's better than the points.  Done it meself.

 

Meanwhile... I'm seeing a fair bit of lost mojo on this board at the moment, what with Ken selling up, my fun with the Saab, etc etc.  There must be something we can do to give each other a bit of a boost, surely? 

I'm taking the Cadillac to work tomorrow, which should help a bit...

[LabRat]

Got to sell the forester, due to ruining my elbow and now needing an auto. This has pissed me off immensely, especially as I nearly lost my job over that bloody car!

[captain_70s]

Unfortunately Mrs Shrimp has been moaning about a new bed for years (even though there's technically nothing wrong with this one) so I think this will push her to want some over priced tat that won't last 10 minutes.

 

This one was marked down to £50 from about £300ish 15 years ago and is mostly ok

I've been using 1920s/1930s beds for the longest while, wooden head/foot boards with metal runners down the sides and a sprung base so you can get away with a cheap mattress. Parents used to buy them for £50 or so from 2nd hand shops, although they are probably worth a fortune now...

 

Why not rent some ramshackle old property between all of you, and park shite all over the place...................

I've already done that on my own but the rotting cars on the drive are more problematic than anything else! Also it'd never be as shite as FOADWERX...

 

What the heck is it about Aberdeen? 

It's shit. I find it to be a rather gloomy and characterless place. Everything is also hideously expensive because the oil boys need somewhere to dispose of all their money.

 

No harm in looking at what's on offer in Glasgow. I moved from darkest Ayrshire to Glasgow and it was liberating-not being the wierdest one at parties, not being looked at like a second class citizen because of your clothes/music taste/not liking the same shit the great unwashed do.  I loved it and still do, although I'm now in Fife. If you have mates there spend a few weekends down there, get a feel for the place and see what you think. 

I've spent quite a bit of time down there already, with mates living in Aberdeen, Glasgow, Dumfries and Carlisle the city has always been a good central meeting point. I'm the most remote living a hour and a half NW of Aberdeen itself. I quite like it down there, it's odd to be walking down the shopping district and not be getting weird looks because my shirt is missing the "Superdry" logo that is obligatory for all current clothing.

I think it may be changing my life up for the sake of it really. The longer I wait the more responsibilities and commitments I'll have pinning me in place, I'll start setting aside some money and hopefully this time next year will be moved to pastures new...

[Pillock]

Some penniless botty rocket who was 'definitely' going to buy my bike let me down because his mum is 'really ill'.  So really ill, it would seem, that he managed to visit her on her sick bed at a car show in Wales somewhere.

 

Maybe his mum was one of them lasses in fishnets who spread themselves over a car looking bored all day.

Definitely worth asking him.

[Cavcraft]

Marina?

[fairkens]

Came home to speeding ticket, 36 in a 30 in the swift. Bugger

 

 

May be offered a speed awareness course. Dunno whether to take it or not

Having done the course I'd def just take the points next time