The grumpy thread

[chadders]

To elaborate on my earlier post, I feel in the same boat as Cpt_70s.

 

I'm 31, though! I feel like I'm sitting by watching all my friends get married off and buying houses while I'm scratching about still unsure of WTF I want to do and no signs of a house or a partner in sight. My finances aren't dire, but still not enough to comfortably have my own place in this area.

 

All I want is also a smoll, shit house to keep my smoll, shit self and car at. A driveway would be nice, then I'd have the space to own more than one car!

This brings back memories to me as I was the last one of my 'group' to get married, at 35. I didn't meet her until I was 33.

 

Until the kids came along it cost little more to live for the two of us than individually so we had a lot more money.

[stonedagain]

A light FWD car with narrow tyres is the best in the snow.

What's engine braking like with a CVT 'box?

It's fine if you leave the shifter in the DS (Drive Slope) position. Very little in D,freewheels down hills.

[treehugger]

I had a parcel sent from NL once, but they used the post office there - Post NL. Unfortunately, when it got to the UK, their delivery partners were useless fuckwits YODEL, so they fucked about pretending the address didn't exist (house their 80+ years) then pretended to deliver it. Then pretended to lose it. Eventually it arrived back in Eindhoven with the sender 13wks later.

 

I got them to resend it with the Dutch PO, but this time to Ireland, as here they actually use the local PO to do their work. Arrived within 3 days.

Turns out my parcel has been in the post office over the road from here for the last fortnight, only I had no idea. Brilliant.

What happened to letting me know they failed to deliver? GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

[Anthony]

Reason why I left bookfarce all those years ago... Every ones totally amazing lives they were all living. New dog, new job, new house, new kidz, amazing parties, on holibobs again but this time much more better, dinner cooked by a chef, new car, new this, new that, awesome this, can't believe how lucky I am to have such great fucking parents that...

 

This.  Social media can be incredibly damaging as it can give the illusion - and usually it is an illusion - that others are doing so much better than you and living an enviable life, when the reality behind the scenes is often so different.

 

Fir coat and no knickers springs to mind for some people, giving the impression to the world that they're doing wonderfully with new car, exotic holidays and the rest, when in reality they're one bill away from losing everything and being kept afloat by parents and credit cards.

[Squire_Dawson]

This.  Social media can be incredibly damaging as it can give the illusion - and usually it is an illusion - that others are doing so much better than you and living an enviable life, when the reality behind the scenes is often so different.

 

Fir coat and no knickers springs to mind for some people, giving the impression to the world that they're doing wonderfully with new car, exotic holidays and the rest, when in reality they're one bill away from losing everything and being kept afloat by parents and credit cards.

 

Very much so. Some people have always liked to show off, this is natural and gone on for millennia, its just much more easily facilitated nowadays and harder to see the full picture. Anti-social media has made self-promotion and publicity so much easier and all you see are the 'good' things people want you to see.

It is always worth remembering that 'an empty vessel makes the greatest sound'.

[Supernaut]

All very true.

 

My facebook feed is set up so it doesn't show updates from individuals (well, a very select few who aren't the typical empty vessel types) and thus it's just full of weird / shit memes and weird / shit old cars most of the time. It keeps me happy. I don't really post anything myself and just use it for messages and events.

 

It still doesn't quell the constant internal monologue of "what the fuck am I doing?!"

[Guest Hooli]

 

It still doesn't quell the constant internal monologue of "what the fuck am I doing?!"

 

Meh, never listen to yourself like that. Chances are you're an idiot like everyone else you see, so ignoring your own advice is best...

[Guest Hooli]

My grump is I've got my second cold of the winter, I don't get colds normally

[danthecapriman]

My grump is I've got my second cold of the winter, I don't get colds normally

Well that serves you right for liking and trying to enjoy winter doesn’t it!

 

I’ve been hating really hard on winter this year and not had any colds.

[Guest Hooli]

I blame all the people who keep bringing colds into my office.

[Rusty_Rocket]

Top tip- LEAVE FACEBOOK.  It's pure poison.

[Squire_Dawson]

I blame all the people who keep bringing colds into my office.

 

NHS innit.

[Guest Hooli]

NHS innit.

 

Aye lad, that's the daft bit. We all get sick pay n all so why turn up just to act ill, do nothing & infect everyone else?

[Guest Hooli]

Top tip- LEAVE FACEBOOK.  It's pure poison.

 

Nah just use it properly.

 

Don't have it set to follow any friends & you don't see the rubbish. Then join groups you're interested in & get interesting stuff appear. My newsfeed consists of history all the way from pre-historic upto the cold war, aircraft, ships & bikes.

[Lacquer Peel]

Top tip- LEAVE FACEBOOK. It's pure poison.

Aye, you can leave Facebook and keep Messenger, which is the only useful thing now that no one uses MSN messenger.

[Timewaster]

Facebook is fine. It is people who are problem.

Unless it's your data security that concerns you.

[beko1987]

Nah just use it properly.

 

Don't have it set to follow any friends & you don't see the rubbish. Then join groups you're interested in & get interesting stuff appear. My newsfeed consists of history all the way from pre-historic upto the cold war, aircraft, ships & bikes.

Same here, mine's full of vacuum cleaners, old cars and the shit some idiot called Andy Hooli posts (must turn off notifications from him, he's bad news that Andy)

[jumpingjehovahs]

Same here, mine's full of vacuum cleaners, old cars and the shit some idiot called Andy Hooli posts (must turn off notifications from him, he's bad news that Andy)

Funnily enough Beko, I saw an ad for the cordless Henry on Facebook the other day and one of the comments was a YouTube video. It was you posting your cordless Henry/Dyson comparison. I didn’t buy a vacuum but did enjoy your video!

 

 

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[GrumpiusMaximus]

To elaborate on my earlier post, I feel in the same boat as Cpt_70s.

 

I'm 31, though! I feel like I'm sitting by watching all my friends get married off and buying houses while I'm scratching about still unsure of WTF I want to do and no signs of a house or a partner in sight. My finances aren't dire, but still not enough to comfortably have my own place in this area.

 

All I want is also a smoll, shit house to keep my smoll, shit self and car at. A driveway would be nice, then I'd have the space to own more than one car!

 

 

I only gave a shit about having 'things' when I had significant social media.  Everything that people put on there is a curation and an artifice.  Happy couples are often miserable, houses are bought with no actual money, etc.  

 

There's a couple of my road that bought their house at the same time we did.  It's quite a lot bigger than ours.  Ours is a small three-bed.  We turfed our garden (new build), put up a shed, flowerbeds, etc.  When we used to look at the other gardens, their's was just weeds.  And it still is, more than six months on.  Thick with weeds.  We had no idea why the fuck they'd buy a house and not - at least - seed the lawn.

 

Our next door neighbour then told us that they had spent every singe available Penny on that house and they didn't have a pot to piss in.  They'd worked themselves right into a big financial hole with it.  If their interest rate goes up, they're fucked.  But on the outside, they have a big house with a brand new car and look happy.  Truth is, they're financially crippled to the point that they won't buy a spade for the garden.

 

That put it into perspective for me.  I'm fortunate to have had help with my house from relatives and a partner that earns well - but I earn less than Captain_70s (no offence, mate!).  I'm very lucky.  That's all it is.  Luck.  

 

You're a nice person, SP.  You'll get your luck.

[wuvvum]

Just checked my bank account and DVLA have been carrying on taking VED payments for a car I scrapped at the end of November.  I even have the doobery thing from them saying I'm no longer the registered keeper.  The car is still showing as taxed online, even though (presumably) a CoD has been issued.  I've cancelled the direct debit now, but WTF?  Typically it's too late to call them now so going to have to try and get up in time to do it before I leave for work in the morning.  FFS.

[New POD]

I only gave a shit about having 'things' when I had significant social media. Everything that people put on there is a curation and an artifice. Happy couples are often miserable, houses are bought with no actual money, etc.

 

There's a couple of my road that bought their house at the same time we did. It's quite a lot bigger than ours. Ours is a small three-bed. We turfed our garden (new build), put up a shed, flowerbeds, etc. When we used to look at the other gardens, their's was just weeds. And it still is, more than six months on. Thick with weeds. We had no idea why the fuck they'd buy a house and not - at least - seed the lawn.

 

Our next door neighbour then told us that they had spent every singe available Penny on that house and they didn't have a pot to piss in. They'd worked themselves right into a big financial hole with it. If their interest rate goes up, they're fucked. But on the outside, they have a big house with a brand new car and look happy. Truth is, they're financially crippled to the point that they won't buy a spade for the garden.

 

That put it into perspective for me. I'm fortunate to have had help with my house from relatives and a partner that earns well - but I earn less than Captain_70s (no offence, mate!). I'm very lucky. That's all it is. Luck.

 

You're a nice person, SP. You'll get your luck.

Lend them a spade and see if they use it.

 

I guarantee they are watching net fux

[New POD]

Just checked my bank account and DVLA have been carrying on taking VED payments for a car I scrapped at the end of November. I even have the doobery thing from them saying I'm no longer the registered keeper. The car is still showing as taxed online, even though (presumably) a CoD has been issued. I've cancelled the direct debit now, but WTF? Typically it's too late to call them now so going to have to try and get up in time to do it before I leave for work in the morning. FFS.

Do they charge interest when you get caught for no tax. They should pay a fine if they take tax that isn't theirs.

[Supernaut]

You're a nice person, SP.

 

 

 

 

But honestly, I do try. Thanks.

 

[puddlethumper]

The 'Knobvan' has left the building ! Actually left more than the building.

It's left the country.

The Gatherer of Tat in Exile has purchased the offending article and it has

now disappeared in the direction of Dover. One less 305 van in the uk.

Long Live The KNOBVAN ! ! !

[GrumpiusMaximus]

haha no.gif

 

 

 

 

But honestly, I do try. Thanks.

 

 

 

You seem to be rather self-aware.  A sign of actually being a decent human being.

[Mrcento]

why does everything to do with cars attract only absolute morons?

 

Messaged about a workshop, got a reply consisting entirely of dots and commas

 

Tried to phone the guy, wrong number on the ad.

[The Moog]

The 'Knobvan' has left the building ! Actually left more than the building.

It's left the country.

The Gatherer of Tat in Exile has purchased the offending article and it has

now disappeared in the direction of Dover. One less 305 van in the uk.

Long Live The KNOBVAN ! ! !

No photos??

[xtriple]

I LOVE Facebook. I get millions of bits of news and snippets of other peoples lives, all of which have such a tenuous grip on reality that it makes me laugh. I have over 2000 'friends' on there (no idea how that happened, people ask, I say 'yes' I suppose) and a lot of them are of the 'American' persuasion and some of the stuff they post is just so far from a reality I am aware of, it may as well be fiction about the planet Zog.

 

Other than that - groups. Watch groups, car groups, dog groups and that's it.

 

In FML news, Phoebe has hurt her leg again, I carried her outside the day before yesterday. This was, by any reckoning, a BIG mistake. Spent yesterday zoned out on a concoction of drugs that would be lethal to a lesser man/anyone with a modicum of sense/not used to opiates to the degree some of us are and felt utterly bloody awful. Still do (a bit) but when it hurts that much, there's a part of you that just doesn't care, the pain has just got to stop. Phoebe is slightly better today and all I have to do now is support her (instead of carry her) while she goes out. This bodes a bt better for my health.

[iainrcz]

People with kids who assume everyone wants kids, and there's something wrong with you if you don't.

 

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[Rocket88]

Just checked my bank account and DVLA have been carrying on taking VED payments for a car I scrapped at the end of November.  I even have the doobery thing from them saying I'm no longer the registered keeper.  The car is still showing as taxed online, even though (presumably) a CoD has been issued.  I've cancelled the direct debit now, but WTF?  Typically it's too late to call them now so going to have to try and get up in time to do it before I leave for work in the morning.  FFS.

 

this happened to me.......refund took about 6 weeks...........