The grumpy thread

[pandamonium]

 

To be fair, I'm in support of the moderation, even of things I've not thought were that bad.

 

We need to keep this place welcoming to all, and sometimes that means reminding ourselves how to behave.

 

Edit... Off to change my profile pic in case it is seen as offensive ...

[sierraman]

My recent experience with the Police, not that I've had many.

 

In December 2016, my cunt of an ex Wife (COAEW) told me she was bringing her new bloke back for the weekend. A convicted drug dealer no less.

 

'No you're not. This is my home, I still live here'.

 

I rang my solicitor who told me to ring the Police and alert them to this. They gave me a reference number to give them if they tried to get in the house and I had to ring 999. They told me to lock the doors from the inside and leave the key in.

 

Sure enough, these two arrived around 9pm on a Sunday and tried to get in. I rang 999. 25 minutes later, two bobbies arrived in a patrol car. One was a WPC around 35, the other a 25 year old PC. Upon arriving, my COAEW and the drug dealer approached them, saying I'd locked them out of her house. WPC told the Drug Dealer to sit in the back of the patrol car and behave. She then grilled my COAEW and said in no uncertain terms said wasn't staying in this house tonight. Find somewhere else. The PC said the same to The Drug Dealer and on doing a background check, put a report in to his local Cop Shop. The WPC escorted my COAEW into the house to gather a few things and told her not to show her face again until the day after, and the Drug Dealer was barred from doing through the garden gate.

 

All in all, they did a sterling job for which I'm thankful. Traffic coppers can be a PITA though.

I’m a bit confused. What was the ex wife bringing her new boyfriend back to your house?

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

I’m a bit confused. What was the ex wife bringing her new boyfriend back to your house?

 

 

Yep.

 

She thought that was OK. The Police disagreed. As soon as he was home, the law came for him for questioning as he was on licence. Scum will be scum.

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

Fuck me

 

Regardless of whether I agree or disagree with this, what sort of spineless mummys boy/ girl/hermaphrodite actually bothers complaining about threads they don't like?

 

Then they get their way! For fucks sake

 

That's the way it goes. I can guess which entitled flowers were moaning like a bitch about it. Sadly, only their view matters and fuck everyone else. There is no democratic decision whatsoever. 

 

I might start a thread about the five girls I fucked on holiday, with pictures. How about that? 

[sierraman]

Yep.

 

She thought that was OK. The Police disagreed. As soon as he was home, the law came for him for questioning as he was on licence. Scum will be scum.

How bizarre.

[Cheggers]

It's a slightly strange place that kills a relatively well behaved and interesting Current Affairs thread but retains a cunt count...

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

It's a slightly strange place that kills a relatively well behaved and interesting Current Affairs thread but retains a cunt count...

 

That'll be next - you wait and see. 

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

How bizarre.

 

My take on the situation was different at the time. It's something I will never forgive her for, truly disgusting behaviour. She needs to be buying me out of the house in 6 months time - no matter how distraught she gets when she can't get the mortgage and the house has to be sold, I will be thinking of how I felt at the time to bolster my determination. We sort of get on OK now but I don't want to see her again if I can avoid it and want to be paid up from the house and draw a line under the whole thing.

[Cheggers]

That'll be next - you wait and see.

I've got to say, for me, it'll be no great loss.

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

No, not really. It's pretty childish but it's what separates this forum from every other. 

 

It's only once a year anyway.

[D Spares & Tyres]

It's a slightly strange place that kills a relatively well behaved and interesting Current Affairs thread but retains a cunt count...

The CRISPS thread should also go. In the middle of this current obesity epidemic, we should not be glorifying the causes of this terrible disease

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

I agree. 

 

I think as well as the three forum sections, we should have a fourth as a Safe Space where the terminally Right On can assemble whilst horrible uncouth blokes like myself - the kind of scum who fart in bed and laughs about it - remain outside. 

There, the Right On will be shielded from tits, bad language and the outside world in general, bless.

[FakeConcern]

This fucking place, its not a school or a nursery, thank fuck you can still go to a pub and discuss shit and talk about women you'd like to shag, it's getting fucking tedious, like having your fucking granny as a baby sitter.

I don't know what the above is refering to, but one of the things I really liked about AS when I joined was the free and easy no censorship ethic. I am of the opinion that as long as you know the worst could be there, if you don't like it then don't look!

That doesn't mean that I personally don't feel I should try to think before I post as I don't want to offend, but on the other hand I won't be offended by someone posting something I really don't agree with. For example I won't make racist, homophobic  or sexist posts intenionally, but i wont get upset at someone elses comments that I consider are one of those.

It takes all sorts to make a community.

[D Spares & Tyres]

Does Autoshite hold a raffle license? I've not looked into the laws but supporting gambling doesn't seem right. many people's lives have been ruined by gambling. To avoid the legality of organising a raffle by renaming it a roffle is questionable both in terms of morality and legality.

 

Ban it!

[fordperv]

I agree.

 

I think as well as the three forum sections, we should have a fourth as a Safe Space where the terminally Right On can assemble whilst horrible uncouth blokes like myself - the kind of scum who fart in bed and laughs about it - remain outside.

There, the Right On will be shielded from tits, bad language and the outside world in general, bless.

May I suggest The name of the sub section as

 

The snowglobe

 

My thinking, all those delicate snowflakes protected in their own safety bubble

[mercrocker]

Ah well, it's only gone the way of the world I suppose.  I'm off to look at my 1970s brochure collection.  Plenty of fanny in those.....

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

I don't know what the above is refering to, but one of the things I really liked about AS when I joined was the free and easy no censorship ethic. I am of the opinion that as long as you know the worst could be there, if you don't like it then don't look!

That doesn't mean that I personally don't feel I should try to think before I post as I don't want to offend, but on the other hand I won't be offended by someone posting something I really don't agree with. For example I won't make racist, homophobic  or sexist posts intenionally, but i wont get upset at someone elses comments that I consider are one of those.

It takes all sorts to make a community.

 

 

Well yes. But the frustrated minority always get their way. 

 

I'm not a frustrated minority though, and for that I'm thankful.

[MrDuke]

I'd like to make a suggestion, although it may well be technically difficult/impossible to implement:

 

Every single member has to have at least one other member on their ignore list in order to post (or even login).

 

 

Clearly there are a number of people who utterly fail, or possibly just refuse, to acknowledge the concept of the 'ignore' function, and therefore need to be coerced into using it.

 

FWIW, I'm neither one of the complainers nor one of the offenders. I'm not sure which group I detest more at the moment, I'll decide later.

[clayts450]

I feel for any forum mods - damned if they do, damned if they don't. 

 

Fact remains the forum membership reflects society. And there is a worrying trend within our society these days for snowflake-ism, self-entitlement and moral outrage. 

 

If something offends you or is likely to send your moral compass whizzing around (eg birds wot I'd shag or current affairs) be an adult and ignore it. I've never entered (missus) the shag topic cos I know I'd be morally outraged. I've never entered (missus) the current affairs topic because I know that the forum reflects society and there's bound to be some arguments I completely detest, and I then end up painting a totally inaccurate picture of that person based purely on one random post at one small point in time in one tiny forum in the whole of t'internet. It is insignificant so why get het up about it ?

 

What I don't do is call for a site-wide ban because I'm offended - yes, me, me, me, I'm entitled to be a morally outraged snowflake.

 

I simply swerve it.

 

You know what. I still visit here. The spectre of those threads even existing has no bearing on my existence or my life. 

 

Some people need to MTFU, I'm afraid, and remember they live in a world full of people with different opinions, viewpoints, experiences and tolerance levels. Bless 'em for their fragility.

 

P.S. Very rare I come over all soapboxy, so forgive me

 

P.P.S. Ignore list inclusion acceptable

[Fumbler]

I'd like to make a suggestion, although it may well be technically difficult/impossible to implement:

 

Every single member has to have at least one other member on their ignore list in order to post (or even login).

 

 

Clearly there are a number of people who utterly fail, or possibly just refuse, to acknowledge the concept of the 'ignore' function, and therefore need to be coerced into using it.

 

FWIW, I'm neither one of the complainers nor one of the offenders. I'm not sure which group I detest more at the moment, I'll decide later.

Small question on that.

 

I don't have anyone on my ignore preferences because there's no-one that I get annoyed by, or even don't like. If I'm honest this is (or was until today, depending on how you look at it) the most free flowing forum I've been on, where, aside from name-calling arguements that crop up from time to time, everything's worked like a well oiled machine, and I like that.

 

If we had to have someone on our ignore list to even be validated at login may I suggest a dummy user for these cases where people aren't fully bedded in (like me, I haven't been here long enough to not like people). Other than that I'm fine.

 

 

What's more interesting is that the smaller boards and Discord servers I've been in have had similar flare-ups of this in the recent past, reflecting a (brief) trend of a certain behaviour. Both these places are back on their feet and running well, with some users demoted and others leaving to make their own servers, not that that should happen here, that is! From that, I'd say, we'll pull through and we'll recover.

[Andyrew]

Shes got a "that heap of shit you just got out of better not belong to you" face. .

[MrDuke]

Small question on that.

 

I don't have anyone on my ignore preferences because there's no-one that I get annoyed by, or even don't like. If I'm honest this is (or was until today, depending on how you look at it) the most free flowing forum I've been on, where, aside from name-calling arguements that crop up from time to time, everything's worked like a well oiled machine, and I like that.

 

If we had to have someone on our ignore list to even be validated at login may I suggest a dummy user for these cases where people aren't fully bedded in (like me, I haven't been here long enough to not like people). Other than that I'm fine.

 

 

What's more interesting is that the smaller boards and Discord servers I've been in have had similar flare-ups of this in the recent past, reflecting a (brief) trend of a certain behaviour. Both these places are back on their feet and running well, with some users demoted and others leaving to make their own servers, not that that should happen here, that is! From that, I'd say, we'll pull through and we'll recover.

 

It is a weird situation, and tbh I can't really see either side's position clearly. My ignore list isn't empty, but I would never even consider reporting someone's post, regardless of how much it enraged or upset me. On the other hand, if there are subjects that have been repeatedly proven to end up in vitriolic spats, why keep on starting them just to prove a point, or to vent some kind of keyboard Tourette's issue?

 

Maybe ignoring users is the wrong approach - is there any way to implement an 'ignore thread' function? It seems like there are a few people who just can't help clicking on stuff that they know full well is going to push their buttons, just as there are plenty who can't help posting stuff just to push those same buttons.

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

Being treated as adults would be a start - can any of the mods explain why these threads have really been deleted? Are we as adults (there’s that word again) not allowed to discuss these subjects?

 

 

 

Really??

[nebuchenezer]

Group manopause time is it.

 

Stop drinking and go to sleep.

[Guest Hooli]

This fucking place, its not a school or a nursery, thank fuck you can still go to a pub and discuss shit and talk about women you'd like to shag, it's getting fucking tedious, like having your fucking granny as a baby sitter.

 

FFS! Is this a primary school or a forum aimed at adults?

 

What fucking saddo cunt has complained about a normal conversation between adults? The correct response should be to ban the saddo cunt as they don't fit in with the forum community.

[Mrcento]

It's a thread or two on a forum, not really worth getting upset over because of its content, or because it's gone.

 

Used to be admin on a different car forum, modding isn't easy, you have your own views, everyone has theirs. No matter what you do, you're always going to piss someone off, either because you do something some folk don't agree with, or do nothing and piss off those who feel you're not tackling the issue. (Even when one doesn't exist).

 

And if you go half way, you piss off folk thinking you shouldn't meddle and those who wanted action for not doing enough.

 

TL;DR- You can't win as a mod.

 

End of a day, all you can do is what you feel is best for the site itself and clearly explain decisions.

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

 

What fucking saddo cunt has complained about a normal conversation between adults?

Three guesses.

[MarvinsMom]

The CRISPS thread should also go. In the middle of this current obesity epidemic, we should not be glorifying the causes of this terrible disease

who else remembers "Seabooke" crinckle crisps?

 

or for that matter, "lowcocks" lemonade? (and other fizzy sugary drinks)

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

Shes got a "that heap of shit you just got out of better not belong to you" face. .

My Sophia Loren photo has offended and was thus removed by our moral guardians.

[Cavcraft]

How many complaints have we ever had in the history of this forum about genuine motors related threads? Circa none, at an educated guess.