The grumpy thread

[SierraMikeHotel]

I genuinely thought that was a poem

 

So did I.

 

The car looked really good in the pictures so there was a bit of a snatch-hand-away-from-mouse moment when I realised that those words were conveying unpleasant facts like DO NOT BID.

[Captain Furious]

I’m sure you’re about to be inundated with messages offering support, but if not feel free to PM me and you can sound out about your problems, rage at the world, whatever it is that you need. I don’t know you from adam but I do know a bit about depression.

 

No shame in a cry for attention, the fact that most men think there is is probably no small part of the reason why suicide is still the most common killer of males under 45.

[HH-R]

Minus 1 outside, on a dual carriageway doing 20 odd and the car is still all over the place, wind is causing it to skid all over and there's snow on the ground. Braking? Forget it.

 

Surely no one would tailgate now? Oh, there's a private ambulance right up my arse with a head light pointing into orbit so now every mirror is blinding me.

 

Pull over and get rid of that prat, then there's a car up my arse.

 

It's no wonder there's so many"accidents".

[Eddie Honda]

I have zero hope of owning a car,owning a house or any form of career or financial progression

 

One step at a time. Lose the wife first. Drain on your resources.

 

I've done shit jobs, I was down to one set of two-wheels only at one point. I've even been up to my eyes in 28k of debt and went bankrupt. Yes, sometimes problems seem insurmountable, but you just have to chip away at the bit by bit. Needs a gameplan though.

[Guest Hooli]

I'm on the verge of doing something silly,wouldn't normally bother writing anything but I don't really have "friends" so no one to talk to.Due to being on low income,and a wife who can't control her spending,I haven't technically earnt anything for 2-3 years.haven't had a car for 3 years as it cost £166 a month to run and I couldn't afford it.now getting to the point where I can't run a 250cc motorbike either.I'm stuck renting,both my mother and grandfather have died in the last few years,I was cut out of my mums will and everything including house left to my (now estranged) sister.I'm stuck in a job working 40 hours for around £8 an hour,but after what I have to pay into joint account and my travel costs I'm left with £50 a month,assuming another £300 isn't lost because my wifes bipolar has kicked in asnd shes bought a loasd of shit on amazon. I have zero hope of owning a car,owning a house or any form of career or financial progression,and now as I'm nearing 30 I'm wondering just what the fucking point is,do I really want to continue on this downward spiral while looking around at the rich getting richer. Didn't really want tyo write anything as I find it such a wet female style cry for attention but at least there would be some record of it.I've only met a couple of people on Here who were all lovely but had to question my current mind process when reading about Hendrys story I was just interested to know how he did it.

 

I dunno what to say mate, but talking is the right thing to do. I know others on here can be a lot more helpful than me.

[Mally]

I'm with Hooli, there are people on here who can use words much better than I.

You did right to post though, and keep on telling us if it helps.

Try to solve one problem at a time, you are working full time, that's all anyone can expect you to do.

[dave21478]

JeanClaudeVanDan, You need to figure out where you want to be and whether that includes your wife - which may sound harsh, but thats all I can say from your post...I dont know the details, but the resentment is pretty clear to me.

I used to be all fucked off about never being able to afford to own a house and have given up on even thinking about it now, but I think thats just life in [current year] now....nobody can own a house unless they inherit or earn big money - for the grafters earning low pay its just something thats not going to happen any more and we are at the mercy of landlords.

Things do change. Ive been bankrupt, Ive had to hide behind the sofa until the bailiffs stop banging on the lounge window, I have lost pretty much everything. Im doing ok-ish now, although still not rich and never will be.

Get help. Get a plan. 

[GrumpiusMaximus]

I'm on the verge of doing something silly,wouldn't normally bother writing anything but I don't really have "friends" so no one to talk to.Due to being on low income,and a wife who can't control her spending,I haven't technically earnt anything for 2-3 years.haven't had a car for 3 years as it cost £166 a month to run and I couldn't afford it.now getting to the point where I can't run a 250cc motorbike either.I'm stuck renting,both my mother and grandfather have died in the last few years,I was cut out of my mums will and everything including house left to my (now estranged) sister.I'm stuck in a job working 40 hours for around £8 an hour,but after what I have to pay into joint account and my travel costs I'm left with £50 a month,assuming another £300 isn't lost because my wifes bipolar has kicked in asnd shes bought a loasd of shit on amazon. I have zero hope of owning a car,owning a house or any form of career or financial progression,and now as I'm nearing 30 I'm wondering just what the fucking point is,do I really want to continue on this downward spiral while looking around at the rich getting richer. Didn't really want tyo write anything as I find it such a wet female style cry for attention but at least there would be some record of it.I've only met a couple of people on Here who were all lovely but had to question my current mind process when reading about Hendrys story I was just interested to know how he did it.

Getting it off your chest is the first step mate.  If you're feeling shit, you're feeling shit and there is no shame in that.  It sounds like a really tough situation to be in and I think anybody in your shoes would find it tough.  You're not being 'soft' and there's no shame in feeling the way you do.

 

Sometimes there aren't immediate practical answers but there are people that can help talk you through this.  Depending on where you live, you might have a Local Mind Association that offer community support (somewhere you can go for free and talk to somebody) and there are helplines you can call if you want to just get shit off your chest.  I used to work for a mental health charity and believe me when I say you are not the only person who has felt stuck in a situation like yours.

 

https://www.mind.org.uk/about-us/local-minds/

 

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines/

 

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

 

I'm not implying anything with those links, I'm just putting them up there in case they are useful to you, or to anybody else.

[cort16]

Tedious Minor grump-->I've just spent 45 minutes aligning a kitchen cupboard door.I executed several steps including altering it to make sure it was level and totally square.

I reset all the hinges, put the door back on and it's still pissing wonky. My blue philips screw drive was so frustrated by the process it just got up and fucked off.

I've no idea were it's gone. I had it in my hand 4 seconds before it's disappearance. I've now tidied up and I still can't find it.

[HH-R]

PVD, have you been to the docs before about it? If not, would be worth giving them a call. Don't be put off by thinking it's girly or whatever, it takes a lot of guts to go and talk about it.

 

I find it helps to make a list of where you want to be, (e.g house, career, cars etc) and then how you can achieve it, but make sure they're SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely http://www.yourcoach.be/en/coaching-tools/smart-goal-setting.php).

 

Sound corny, but writing down that you want to be a millionaire next week just leaves you disappointed if it doesn't happen. If you do bits at a time, you'll feel better for having seen what you have achieved and it will spur you on to go further.

 

 

[GrumpiusMaximus]

Tedious Minor grump-->I've just spent 45 minutes aligning a kitchen cupboard door.I executed several steps including altering it to make sure it was level and totally square.

I reset all the hinges, put the door back on and it's still pissing wonky. My blue philips screw drive was so frustrated by the process it just got up and fucked off.

I've no idea were it's gone. I had it in my hand 4 seconds before it's disappearance. I've now tidied up and I still can't find it.

Behind your ear?  I've done that more than once...

[cort16]

Behind your ear?  I've done that more than once...

 

When i read that I actually checked but no. 

[cort16]

This DIY is hot on the heels of leveling the wonky radiator in the hall by wedging a bit of wood under it I'd normally use when jacking up my car.

 

 

[GrumpiusMaximus]

Top radiator shite.

[Mally]

I'd secure the wall bracket before it fell on the kids. 

[Guest Hooli]

Tedious Minor grump-->I've just spent 45 minutes aligning a kitchen cupboard door.I executed several steps including altering it to make sure it was level and totally square.

I reset all the hinges, put the door back on and it's still pissing wonky. My blue philips screw drive was so frustrated by the process it just got up and fucked off.

I've no idea were it's gone. I had it in my hand 4 seconds before it's disappearance. I've now tidied up and I still can't find it.

 

In the garage where you haven't been, or upstairs where you also haven't been with it. That's where mine always wander off too.

[cort16]

Featuring oil stains from several Classic cars..

[cort16]

I'd secure the wall bracket before it fell on the kids. 

 

There's still one wall bracket holding it the other fell off and it sank on one side. The wood was originally used in an attempt (failed) to secure the dodgy bracket to the wall with no more nails.

It's level now so you know. Fixed.

[cort16]

In the garage where you haven't been, or upstairs where you also haven't been with it. That's where mine always wander off too.

 

That's the thing I didn't move. The screw driver handle is oval so it couldn't have rolled off either.

It's probably in the tumble dryer.

[Picketlinefeelingfine]

Why was my thread deleted? Have I done something wrong?

[Cavcraft]

Because there's thread already in place for moaning about things...

 

 

http://autoshite.com/topic/30113-grumpy-old-man-thread/

 

 

in other words, the thread it's now in.

[FakeConcern]

What thread was that?The one about the noisy Polo at 5am?

[dollywobbler]

Dan - can I suggest Relate? I've heard good things and I think they do online chat sessions. 

[Mally]

There's still one wall bracket holding it the other fell off and it sank on one side. The wood was originally used in an attempt (failed) to secure the dodgy bracket to the wall with no more nails.

It's level now so you know. Fixed.

 

I'm all for a good bodge, but that's a bad bodge.

If its a solid wall you need longer rawlplugs, If its plasterboard.

 

https://www.screwfix.com/p/easyfix-spring-toggles-3-x-50mm-20-pack/7978X?tc=CA8&ds_kid=92700023385601018&ds_rl=1247848&ds_rl=1245250&gclid=CjwKCAiAoNTUBRBUEiwAWje2lkcg-wR8n38O1jOJdOjCjTKb7TXBadXCZ8FWUrfGfbC9QplgRirWhBoCygYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&dclid=CO3QzPyEx9kCFQWRGwodSwMGnA

[FakeConcern]

The problem with moving everything to this thread is I would never read it as there are so many posts that are too far beyond the "Grumpy" such as so and so just died or has a terminal diease or I just lost my job and I don't usually look at it because of that. Not that I don't feel for those people (I do) but don't think someone liking your post on an internet forum when your mum/dad/wife has died quite does it. I'm only on here as I got moved!

[cort16]

I'm all for a good bodge, but that's a bad bodge.

If its a solid wall you need longer rawlplugs, If its plasterboard.

 

https://www.screwfix.com/p/easyfix-spring-toggles-3-x-50mm-20-pack/7978X?tc=CA8&ds_kid=92700023385601018&ds_rl=1247848&ds_rl=1245250&gclid=CjwKCAiAoNTUBRBUEiwAWje2lkcg-wR8n38O1jOJdOjCjTKb7TXBadXCZ8FWUrfGfbC9QplgRirWhBoCygYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&dclid=CO3QzPyEx9kCFQWRGwodSwMGnA

I know how to fix it properly I just don’t want to have to remove that radiator , so it can just stay like that for now.

[AlabamaShrimp]

a jack russel or a ferret would be more suitable for tackling a dirty rat.

 

it takes a vicious little bastard to get another vicious little bastard!

You need one of these to tackle a dirty rat

 

 

I wouldn't call him a bastard though.

[RayMK]

Plasticvandan.  Dan, I have spoken to you a couple of times in Reliant circles over the years and regard you as a friendly face when I hobble around such gatherings.  See if you can reduce  your financial concerns by following some of the suggestions.  Sometimes just considering the advice of others can help you to see your own way forward. A chat with your GP can also help.  You have quite a flair for fixing Reliants and motorbikes. While this may not pay bills, you are respected for these abilities and should take some pleasure from the fact that many are quietly admiring your depth and breadth of knowledge.  Spring will arrive eventually, making riding the MZ a real joy again.  I wish I could still ride a motorcycle.  Keep posting!

[dave21478]

Tedious Minor grump-->I've just spent 45 minutes aligning a kitchen cupboard door.I executed several steps including altering it to make sure it was level and totally square.

I reset all the hinges, put the door back on and it's still pissing wonky. My blue philips screw drive was so frustrated by the process it just got up and fucked off.

I've no idea were it's gone. I had it in my hand 4 seconds before it's disappearance. I've now tidied up and I still can't find it.

 

I have 22 of the bastards to fit tomorrow. I can feel the rage building already.

[vulgalour]

PVD: You're a useful person, don't go doing anything stupid.  You've been bloody useful when I've been dealing with my hopeless old wrecks.  Drop me a PM if you need to talk at someone, I won't mind.