Buyers Remorse - Coping mechanisms.

[BorniteIdentity]

I am both blessed and cursed with a conscience. We all know that buying old heaps is an illness, and selling them seemingly impossible. However, in my experience, it's not something lady folk understand.

 

I've just agreed to buy some old french tat for slightly less than a weeks wages. I have a good job, but also 2 perfectly functioning cars. The hankering was enjoyable, the negotiation orgasmic, now the deal is done I'm thinking about all the things my wife and my children could spen...

 

...I know. MTFU.

 

Any tips for managing the remorse?

[oldcars]

Buy more 

[Fabergé Greggs]

I'm not saying that you should mask one problem with another, but I'd recommend a pint of ale. 

[danthecapriman]

Can't say I suffer this problem (having no conscience) I never feel bad or remorseful about doing anything, especially bad things!

 

The trick is to find what you want then immediately buy it before you give yourself time to think of the consequences. That way when you do think realistically about what your doing later it's too late to do anything about it and therefore not a problem! And besides, it's your money, you worked hard for so f**k everyone else!! Enjoy what you've bought.

[Jim Bell]

Sell it a week later at a fraction of the amount you've spent on it.

 

Repeat.

[UltraWomble]

Lie about how much it cost.

 

I always tell SWMBO that things cost (significantly) less than what I paid for them. AFASK the last shitter cost me £450

[stripped fred]

Do something nice for her or your family to balance it up then your conscience will be clear.

[hairnet]

if you get approval from boss then enjoy if you dont then pray the pain goes soon

 

if the boss enjoys the hobby too then theres no problem right?

[Skizzer]

If you buy enough old tat, the sharp pain of remorse becomes merely a dull ache of ruefulness.

[Bren]

I feel remorseful about buying the audi.

 

Nothing wrong with the car - it is fab. And therin lies the problem.

 

It is too good for me. If it were a meal it would be lobster or caviar.

 

Unfortunately I am steak pie or beef madras. I feel a bit pretentious driving it.

 

I hope it is a passing phase.

[jonny69]

Hammer a smaller conscience over it. Repeat. And again. Eventually the conscience is small and you won't worry about it.

 

This is all metaphorical. You need to buy another car.

[Anglevan]

I bought a morris marina. Told the wife, that's fine she said 'I'm going to buy a cat'

Easy. Although I do think I got the better deal but only just......

[billyboy406v6]

Do something nice for her or your family to balance it up then your conscience will be clear.

Whatever you do,you will never get your conscience clear, ever. Been there,done it !!

[Bren]

I bought a morris marina. Told the wife, that's fine she said 'I'm going to buy a cat'

Easy. Although I do think I got the better deal but only just......

At least you'll never have to weld the cat.

[mercrocker]

Wife and especially children can quite happily spend all you earn. Forever. And in the case of the kids they will spend it after you are gone, too. Three decent cars can quite easily be bought for the price of a new family shitbox. And run for less than the finance.

[captain_70s]

Sell your family, spend the money on another car.

[anonymous user]

Sell it a week later at a fraction of the amount you've spent on it.

 

Repeat.

You are me, if you include not only the purchase price, but all the bits you fit ready for the new owner to enjoy.

 

There is also the option to shove the car into storage and forget about it until you feel better about it (by which time the storage costs far exceed the value of the car).

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

The Bluejeans Solution:

 

Spend no more than £350 on purchase. If it's a hound or it breaks/you get bored, break it, sell the useful bits and bridge the rest.

 

I have six cars, none of which are for sale. You become a slave to it.

 

This week, (well, today) the H plate 318i has had a complete exhaust (used but still silver/as new, cost £10 from the breakers) and a pair of better wing mirrors fitted.

 

The Convertible has had new front discs and pads today. Ebay last month, £10 the lot of a 'I'll use those one day' basis.

[xtriple]

Even though I am now 'single' I still feel remorse, in fact, I dither for so long the thing I wanted has been sold or I talk myself out of it! No idea what I'm doing putting off for  a 'rainy day' 'cos it's fucking pouring right now!

 

[Ghosty]

Tell us what car it is so we can all congratulate you on your top bombing.

[BorniteIdentity]

Ha. It's a 405 DerVGC. I do about 25-30k a year and have been doing it by petrol for 5 years now, as petrol cars are nearly always cheaper at purchase. Being a total womble I convince myself I'll never make the saving to justify diesel. In the 5 years I'd have saved thousands.

 

Anyway, may run it on veg. May be too frightened of rogering my new steed with the wrong fuel and end up buying vpower, utterly destroying any savings.

 

Fml.

[Jim Bell]

You can't kill a 405 diesel with petrol. Just top it up with veg or derv as soon as there's any space in the tank, keep it topped up and run it through.

[BavarianRetro]

....... H plate 318i .......

That's a very, very early E36. Won't be many "H" plates left.

[FakeConcern]

It's not remorse with me, as soon as I have it, I'm no longer interested, hence an XM on my drive with a flat battery (again!).

[The Reverend Bluejeans]

That's a very, very early E36. Won't be many "H" plates left.

 February 1991 - I reckon it's probably the oldest one left.  Grey bumpers and those funny wheel trims  and, oddly enough, it's not rusty. I've just finished converting it from the shit M40 (noisy cam, no oil pressure etc etc) to an M43, retrofitted the digital AC and a disc brake rear axle. I am officially certifiable. Call the white coats now.

 

It looks nice though in that metallic green.

[Taff]

Even though I am now 'single' I still feel remorse, in fact, I dither for so long the thing I wanted has been sold or I talk myself out of it! No idea what I'm doing putting off for  a 'rainy day' 'cos it's fucking pouring right now!

 

 

see, I'm there at the moment. I've got a few quid burning a hole in my pocket and the car of my (affordable) dreams has appeared on the horizon. I genuinely can't find a reason not to buy it, even though I really ought to spend the cash on sensible stuff like a wardrobe and a dining table.

[sierraman]

The Bluejeans Solution:

 

Spend no more than £350 on purchase. If it's a hound or it breaks/you get bored, break it, sell the useful bits and bridge the rest.

 

I have six cars, none of which are for sale. You become a slave to it.

 

This week, (well, today) the H plate 318i has had a complete exhaust (used but still silver/as new, cost £10 from the breakers) and a pair of better wing mirrors fitted.

 

The Convertible has had new front discs and pads today. Ebay last month, £10 the lot of a 'I'll use those one day' basis.

I don't know what breakers you go to but the one i use the exhausts are always fucked as the car gets dropped on them.

[Asimo]

^^^Nyphur has hit the nail on head for me. The Van is the first thing I have bought for years that didn't make me think I should have kept the money and not been so silly.  Yesterday's dream becomes tomorrow's nightmare.

 

Ho hum, back to Autotrader where there is this shiny red Camaro.......

[mercrocker]

see, I'm there at the moment. I've got a few quid burning a hole in my pocket and the car of my (affordable) dreams has appeared on the horizon. I genuinely can't find a reason not to buy it, even though I really ought to spend the cash on sensible stuff like a wardrobe and a dining table.

 

When I had my Yank I couldn't afford clothes or food. Hence no need for wardrobe or dining table.

[dollywobbler]

I don't wish to sound smug, but my coping mechanism seems to have been to stop buying utter shite. I didn't quite get it right with the little Sirion, as I paid a bit too much for it (given how rotten it was) and then stupidly spent money on it (new exhaust, caliper slider pins, winter tyres etc) and then sold it for sod all. Even worse, that deal included a shonky Maestro van - though I found that beast far more appealing than I expected. 

 

I can't say it's down to ability. I think I just got lucky (grabbing frantically at timber) with the XM, and the Nippa is so cheap to buy and run that even if I have it away, I'd feel up on the deal. (I'm not giving it away).