The grumpy thread

[eddyramrod]

Thank you; they're in now, after several attempts. Panel gaps are a bit Allegroish but it's a Shiter's house, so good enough. Just wait till I start on my ebay bargain kitchen next weekend! Oh, and the doors... I've won four bi-folding doors, which will cover all my door needs, and will be collecting them from Lancaster on the way to Bradford for the kitchen! While I have a rental van I might as well make good use of it eh!

[Spiny Norman]

Maybe not the most famous guitarist ever on this side of the pond, but RIP 'dangerous' Dan Toler, of the Allman Brothers Band.

 

[The Moog]

Booked my flight home from Cambodia. Coming back for August .. but have no home, no job .. .so a little bit scared!

Not looking forward to it even though I have been without power here for the last 5 days in 36oC heat ...

 

Still maybe I should cheer myself up by reading the daily mail to see what is happening back home

[chaseracer]

  The Moog said:

Still maybe I should cheer myself up by reading the daily mail to see what is happening back home

Brenda's got the squits, another oddly-dressed old bloke has been putting himself where he shouldn't, and the shiny-faced rubber idiot is still at No10.

 

Welcome back!

[Des]

  chaseracer said:

  The Moog said:

Still maybe I should cheer myself up by reading the daily mail to see what is happening back home

Brenda's got the squits, another oddly-dressed old bloke has been putting himself where he shouldn't, and the shiny-faced rubber idiot is still at No10.

 

Welcome back!

 

Funny you should mention the Daily Mail, as apparently if you're rocking up here from another country then you have it made.

[eddyramrod]

  Des said:

Funny you should mention the Daily Mail, as apparently if you're rocking up here from another country then you have it made.

 

What the Daily Mail doesn't tell you is, it only works if A) you weren't born here and English is not your first language and C) you arrived legally.

[autofive]

D) you believe the utter shite that gets printed in the hitler-supporting jingoistic comic that is the daily mail.

[Lacquer Peel]

[whitevanman]

Being moved from weekly to monthly pay= no money for 6 weeks= no naughty little Justys coming my way piss flaps

[eddyramrod]

  whitevanman said:

Being moved from weekly to monthly pay= no money for 6 weeks

piss flaps

 

The only reason they do that is for the convenience of the bank. It doesn't matter what they tell you, the poor old worker is guaranteed to get seriously stiffed by this kind of thing. TUPE isn't worth anything either, been there. Did they give you much notice of the change?

[whitevanman]

yes and no.....we are seasonal and only went back to work last week, some got a letter I didn't but they made the the move official back at the start of December.

[Negative Creep]

Back at work after a week off and already realised how utterly boring it is. Sit and do pointless dead end work for no money, sit around every break and lunch by myself because I'm not in the clique required to get anywhere, and go home again. Repeat for the rest of my life.

 

Also, paid £250 for some wheels on Saturday but the seller has failed to respond to any of my messages

[Lankytim]

Hey, NC, sounds like my job. Just go in with a smile and don't let the wankers wear you down. Yo may even make a few friends!

 

In other news, MY ALLEGRO IS BANKRUPTING ME!!! never pay to have a car restored, ever.

[Negative Creep]

To be honest the people aren't bad - I'm not friends with any of them but neither do I dislike or hate anyone who works there. The problem is how bad the pay is and the job is such a waste of time that I'm basically there for something to do

[Lord Sterling]

Well, despite me about to loose my job at FedEx (which I am beggining to discover is no bad thing) the agency has offered me another iob, longer hours, less days but more money possibly, only problem is, its 20 miles away across Birmingham just on the outskirts. I really despise longer commutes, I know there are people who do even longer commutes everyday, but more often than not, they have a pretty good and certainly better paid job.

 

Yesterday we had a "family meeting" a lot of somewhat hurtful criticism came my way, although I'd kind of suspected it, it was still a shock and, lets just say, wasn't very nice. It does make me realise that in my nearly 30 years on earth, I haven't really made anything of myself, always doing menial agency jobs for peanuts pay often ending and my savings dwindle. I'm not really sure which path I need to take now. One thing I do know is that I need to get out of this situation and, to be honest, away from the family.

[Cavcraft]

I wouldn't worry too much about your career so far, LS. You're still here (on earth) and it's not the be all and end all having some fancy job on shit loads of money. More often than not it seems to lead to more spending and less happiness anyhow imho.

Try the commute and see what happens, it's better to try something and regret it than spending a lifetime wondering 'what if' and it might open another door for you.

[Richard]

  Lord Sterling said:

I know there are people who do even longer commutes everyday, but more often than not, they have a pretty good and certainly better paid job.

 

I'm not sure that they do tbh. It used to be the case but increasing numbers of people are doing monster commutes for minimum wage.

[chaseracer]

  Lord Sterling said:

Yesterday we had a "family meeting" a lot of somewhat hurtful criticism came my way, although I'd kind of suspected it, it was still a shock and, lets just say, wasn't very nice. It does make me realise that in my nearly 30 years on earth, I haven't really made anything of myself, always doing menial agency jobs for peanuts pay often ending and my savings dwindle. I'm not really sure which path I need to take now. One thing I do know is that I need to get out of this situation and, to be honest, away from the family.

Ouch... A little temporary distance sounds like the best plan...

 

We should all be valued for WHO we are, not WHAT others might wish us to be.

[dollywobbler]

  Cavette said:

I wouldn't worry too much about your career so far, LS. You're still here (on earth) and it's not the be all and end all having some fancy job on shit loads of money. More often than not it seems to lead to more spending and less happiness anyhow imho.

Try the commute and see what happens, it's better to try something and regret it than spending a lifetime wondering 'what if' and it might open another door for you.

 

Very, very wise words. There's a ridiculous pressure to be something spectacular. People seem to think that there's a written law that thou shalt chase a career, get into shit loads of credit card debt, live on a rabbit-warren-esque housing estate, produce offspring and consume with insatiable appetite. I've said 'balls' to that right from the moment that the manager at the branch of Kwik Save I worked at said "I can see you in my shoes one day." I pretty much resigned on the spot. There's nothing wrong with having a job rather than a career. Here on Autoshite, we excel at enjoying ourselves with minimal income - which is probably the major driver that sees us hurtling around in old shite in the first place.

[Lord Sterling]

Cheers for the words guys. At least some appreciate who I am rather than what I am. I do often wish I were in Belgium alongside FATHA_Sterling seeing as I've been told I am 'very much like him'.

 

Anyhow, if this new job comes up, I shall take it, its more money but longer hours, it will leave me a free day to go and work with a mate at the garage and earn a little more on the side. I might also apply for the kinds of jobs I'd probably never usually have a chance of getting. Lets see how it goes...

[Mr_Bo11ox]

Plenty of slightly eye-watering clichés coming up here, particularly

 

  Quote

We should all be valued for WHO we are, not WHAT others might wish us to be

 

Which sounds like some kind of ‘sign-off’ that you’d get at the end of a collectors edition Justin Bieber DVD

 

At the end of the day if you’re happy with your lot and you’re not a drag on someone else then you can pretty much do as you please can’t you. I don’t know anything about your lifestyle LS, but I know a lad who gets a lot of this pressure, although in his case its cos he’s 25 but has piss all qualifications, no money, no plan, no driving license, no assets of any sort, no place of his own, nothing basically (except an iPhone, and an iMac that he’ll be paying for years after its gone in the skip). To me the pressure seems entirely justified. I suspect he’s a long way behind yourself in terms of general life skills.

[Lord Sterling]

I know what you mean Bol. To be honest, for much of my life I've not had a plan, I tried studying for a few years but felt it just wasn't me. The last time I was on a course, the work I did do was lost because the college decided to refurbish the not even 10 year old college building, after that I'd decided once and for all, studying wasn't for me.

 

Since about 2007, I've kind of drifted in and out of low-paid dead-end agency jobs, some jobs were pretty good but ended for one reason or another. Obviously as I am approaching the 30 year old milestone, some are concerned that I have nothing to show for it but a few old cars, a load of my own possesions.

 

One of my problems is, I've never really had a goal, I've never known what I wanted to do and I guess as time has gone on, I have paid the price for not focussing on a goal. I now live back at home with Ma (she works away I look after Sister) so I guess in a way I'm not far off your 25 year-old lad.

 

I've got plans and goals now, albeit a bit late, but it depends whether those things will happen. Life had got a funny way of making them either not happen in one way or another.

[chaseracer]

  Mr_Bo11ox said:

Plenty of slightly eye-watering clichés coming up here, particularly

 

  Quote

We should all be valued for WHO we are, not WHAT others might wish us to be

 

Which sounds like some kind of ‘sign-off’ that you’d get at the end of a collectors edition Justin Bieber DVD

Cheers for the unsolicited opinion, Testes - be assured it is valued as highly as ever...

[theorganist]

  Lord Sterling said:

I know what you mean Bol. To be honest, for much of my life I've not had a plan, I tried studying for a few years but felt it just wasn't me. The last time I was on a course, the work I did do was lost because the college decided to refurbish the not even 10 year old college building, after that I'd decided once and for all, studying wasn't for me.

 

Since about 2007, I've kind of drifted in and out of low-paid dead-end agency jobs, some jobs were pretty good but ended for one reason or another. Obviously as I am approaching the 30 year old milestone, some are concerned that I have nothing to show for it but a few old cars, a load of my own possesions.

 

One of my problems is, I've never really had a goal, I've never known what I wanted to do and I guess as time has gone on, I have paid the price for not focussing on a goal. I now live back at home with Ma (she works away I look after Sister) so I guess in a way I'm not far off your 25 year-old lad.

 

I've got plans and goals now, albeit a bit late, but it depends whether those things will happen. Life had got a funny way of making them either not happen in one way or another.

 

I wouldn't worry I am nearly 38 and still don't have a plan! I wouldn't worry too much about what anyone else thinks as it is your life and as long as you are happy with your lot then that is the main priority. And if you are not happy then we all have the ability to change it is just quite hard and frightening to face change, and I don't think it gets easier as you get older, in fact I feel it is harder.

[Spiny Norman]

Things must be desperate when a bloke has to come to Autoshite for lifestyle advice!

 

  theorganist said:

I am nearly 38 and still don't have a plan!

 

I'm nearly 48 and still don't know what I want to do when I leave school....

I think far too much is made these days of all this ambition, achievement and self-fulfilment bollox you see perpetuated on these God-awful daytime TV shows, by the type of person who I like to imagine cries themselves to sleep every night with the stench of mediocrity hanging over them like a damp patch from the upstairs lavvy.

[Mr Lobster]

I wouldn't worry about having 'a plan' (or not) tbh.

 

I'd be surprised if many people who set out with a plan of how their career will work out actually see the plan through. A lot of stuff changes over time and you have to adapt I suppose.

 

I started in the motor trade and worked my way up to a reasonable level then realised it was all really a load of shit and that I had a job rather than a career with a company that give less than two fifths of a fuck about me.

 

I've been self employed about three years now and its loads better. I'll never be a millionaire mind but quality of life is loads better.

 

Have a think about what you want to do and how much you actually need to earn and take it from there. Don't stress yourself about getting a career or that you have to have some big title or whatever, just do what leaves you satisfied and everyone else can cock off.

[messerschmitt owner]

Mo

 

First lesson in life is don't care what other people think. The only person that matters is you and you're big enough and ugly enough not to be bother about it. Sometimes we all need a kick up the bum but only you can do the changing and only if you want to. Lots of us don't have plans and life works out in the end. If you're happy what does it matter.

[eddyramrod]

+1. I can't disagree with the foregoing, in fact I'm living validation of it. 54 in a few weeks, nothing even slightly resembling a plan, history of numerous "dead-end" minimum-wage jobs, history of dozens of cheap old shite cars, and you know what? The one time I tried to have an actual "career" it blew up in my face and set me back at least 15 years. As long as you can pay the bills, and preferably have some shitey treats now and then, stuff the lot of 'em. Your life is your life, not theirs. They can do what they want and so can you.

 

I was about five or six years older than you when I learned this, and came to terms with it. And as we all know, I'm still totally capable of mucking things up! Learn to laugh at yourself, I've found that enormously helpful. Take as much pleasure as you possibly can in small things, such as a stroll along the canal, or sitting down in front of QI with a Yorkie bar. Neither is much to ask, nor is it expensive, but both will cheer you up, guaranteed. Don't bother chasing the big stuff. If it's got your name on it, it'll come to you; if not, you don't want it anyway. Unless it's a LHD Argenta for the summer!

[outlaw118]

"Plans" are over-rated.

My "plan" or initally my parent's plan was that as a precocious child, showing signs of academic ability from an early age, i would go to university, become an accountant, or a teacher, or something "worthwhile". Get married, produce sprogs, live happily ever after with an estate car and a dog.

Instead I ran out of brains come O level time, scraped through a few, onto 6th form, and failed two A levels.

Went to work for Halifax, spent 12 miserable years there, got endlessly lied to and shat upon, left, now in current job (debt recovery) for 12 years, going nowhere, no prospects except an early fag and bacon induced death.

Yes, i've got married (failing), got a house (going to need to be sold when divorce happens) but I have got an estate car! No dog.

 

Plans have caused me no end of grief. If they don't happen, you either feel like a failure yourself, or are made to feel like one by those who imposed them on you in the first place. Family_Sterling need to realise that your happiness is moar important than targets, goals and plans. Yeah, i'm sure, deep down that they want whats best for you, as all families do, but at the end of the day, you've got to make the best of it. Ma & Pa_outlaw are probably disappointed in my "progress" but i'm not bothered any more.

 

Good luck with the job hunting, and don't let anyone tell you you're a failure.

 

It could be worse. You could be me.

[whitevanman]

What's for you won't go by you.........