Advice needed...

[Richard Cranium]

Non-car related. If you found evidence of potential cheating by your partner, what would you do? Confront her? Going out of my mind here and some advice would be very helpful.

[whitevanman]

It all rather depends on the evidence, the nature of your relationship, the personalities and fianlly the previous history in relationships......................Our lass had a VERY bad previous relationship and when we got together we agreed that IF it ever went wrong we would never be akward about a split as it very nearly ruined the start of our relationship with the carry on, others are Jealous types.If your 99% sure, I PERSONALLY would plan an exit stratagy then confront your partner when you have organised a way out of the relationship, but remember if their are children, depending on age you need to be able to support them during this time of crisis financially, emotionally and with time as well.I know it doesn't help much, but I've been through this with so manby people you wouldn't believe.

[Mr_Bo11ox]

I would ask for advice on an old car forum.

[andrew e]

I'd try Beachy head for wi-fi access. This probally doesn't help.

[whitevanman]

I would ask for advice on an old car forum.

perhaps the only option available at the time that could be considered unbiased?

[Mr Lobster]

You need to have a proper think about this. Are you absolutely sure about what you have found and what it means? If so then you need to decide what you want to do next - does it mean the end of the relationship, if so then you need to sort out your escape route.

 

Confronting her with the evidence might not work. If she is hiding something then she might well just deny it, cause a big argument and throroghly screw your head up. Then again, she might just fess up.

 

TBH this ain't really the place to ask although you can at least get opinions from people who don't 'know' you as such, whether those opinions are worth much is up to you but at least should be fairly impartial.

 

Hope it all works out.

[Cheggers]

I was going to go down the "why ask a car forum" route, but then realised where else would you go?? - Is there a Suspicious Partners' forum, and would they be any less biased than us??I wish I could come up with something more constructive than "It's better in the long run that you know", but for me that's at the heart of it. If you confront her, at least you'll find out one way or the other and either put your suspicions behind you, or have to take some bad news and move on."The darkest hour is the one before the dawn" and all that...GrahamPS: Apologies if her name's Dawn and the final quote only makes you feel worse

[brammy777]

Alright, so maybe this isnt the best thing to ask on a car forum, but leave it out guys, if something like this happens, panic sets in and you go anywhere and everywhere for advice.You need proof of it mate, you really dont want to jump in the deep end if you have (and i hope you have) the wrong end of the stick.But like outlaw said, you need to think about her past as well....But i guess this all depends on what evidence you have found, in the past i thought i had found rock solid evidence, and it turned out to be nothing.sorry to be of little help.....

[Mr_Bo11ox]

Come home one day in a beige Maestro 1.3 with a blue drivers door. If she doesnt go ape about it on-sight, that means theres another fella on the scene. AUTOSHITE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE

[Mr Lobster]

Come home one day in a beige Maestro 1.3 with a blue drivers door. If she doesnt go ape about it on-sight, that means theres another fella on the scene. AUTOSHITE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE

But if she takes a photo of to show someone, then it's possibly somebody from here!Seriously though, I can understand what you're going through. Think most people have been in a similar position at one time or another Confronting her at this stage might not be the best decision depending on the circumstances but then it's hard for anyone here to know without knowing more.

[Cavcraft]

I would ask for advice on an old car forum.

To be honest I'd ask her at the right moment, i.e when you're both alone at home after work etc.Don't go wading in though as you never know you might be wrong. If your worse fears are confirmed then you have to work out whether you can trust her again and whether you really want it to work out in future so you can stay together. If you can't stay together then just go round and kick his teeth in.

[Station]

I'd typically go wading in there with size 20s. On what grounds do you think she is seeing someone else?

[Pillock]

Been there, done that, got divorced and shod a best friend too (since they were the cheating couple).I had my suspicions but only moved on them when I felt I was being taken for an idiot, when they started to get a little bit more blatant about it all.

[Rusty Pelican]

Ive been here , get mad or get even was my thoughts , decided to get even , gathered as much evidence as i could and did prove she was indeed having a bit on the side , So i did the same , eventually she found out ( i was deliberately not being very carefull ) flew at me , whereapon i flew back with my evidence of her afare , fairly amicable split after that , fire with fire . No kids involved which helps.

[Pete-M]

Think of the money you'll have to buy shite if you dump her. Then dump her. Works for me.Then again, I'm very good at being single.