Im annoyed with myself (its my fault)

[montytom]

I saw a car for sale in Poole. A wolesley 16/60. I agreed a price with the seller and made my way to go and have a look. I live in Plymouth but I got to Bridport and then something came over me and I messaged the seller explaining that I wouldnt be coming to look at the car as I really couldnt justify it while I have other things going on.  The seller seemed ok with it but I have been feeling guilty as I dont like being a time waster but things are changing in my life and that £3000  could be used for rent for 3 months. I wont go into m changes as it has alot to do with my mental health etc. I just felt awful for the seller. 

[Dan29]

I don't think you should feel bad, you didn't waste any of their time really, and it's best to be decisive rather than turn up and pretend to be interested when you're not - or even worse, buy a car that you're not sure you need, just to be polite!

We all know that all sorts of things happen when buying and selling cars, and I'm sure we've all had times when we've needed a break from it as it's not enjoyable. 

It can be tricky to stop looking at cars to buy, but maybe take a break for a bit and see how things go - and really don't worry about this, if it's a decent car at a decent price they'll sell it anyway.

[Lankytim]

You rang the seller to let them know, that was the correct and polite thing to do. Many wouldn’t even do that and just ghost  the seller! 

[Stinkwheel]

I was once late to collect a motorcycle I'd agreed to buy. I had a good reason, the gearshift cable on my van had broken as i set off. So i had to call a mate for a lift and associated delays. I called the bike seller to inform him. In the end i was about 45 mins late. For some reason i felt awful and that I had become a 'time waster' or not able to get there on time of promising at least.

Turns out no one minded, id called, id been honest. It was all i could do. And you did that here, you changed your mind and you let them know. No worries i say 

[grogee]

  On 15/06/2023 at 00:45, montytom said:

I saw a car for sale in Poole. A wolesley 16/60. I agreed a price with the seller and made my way to go and have a look. I live in Plymouth but I got to Bridport and then something came over me and I messaged the seller explaining that I wouldnt be coming to look at the car as I really couldnt justify it while I have other things going on.  The seller seemed ok with it but I have been feeling guilty as I dont like being a time waster but things are changing in my life and that £3000  could be used for rent for 3 months. I wont go into m changes as it has alot to do with my mental health etc. I just felt awful for the seller. 

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I did the same, I was on the way to the bank to get cash for a Fiat Marea, then I had an epiphany along the lines of: "what the fuck are you doing, haven't you got enough broken shite in your life already?"

I phoned seller and apologised and didn't feel guilty really, they were being a bit of a dick about it anyway. 

What goes around comes around anyway - weirdo from Lincs came to view my Saab and promised to buy then changed his mind. I don't consider it time wasting, I see it as part of the selling process.

[carlo]

Congratulate yourself for being a good person who cares about what other people think.

[davehedgehog31]

Sounds like a sensible decision was reached. Better than the alternative of buying it to be polite. 

The right cars at the right time are  a lot of fun, but they can be burdensome things and can end up a bit of a weight on your mind. 

[Soundwave]

Nothing to feel annoyed or guilty about, you were going to have a look. It's not as if you'd made a commitment to buy and the seller had fucked off other interested parties for you.

As others have said, you did the right thing and told him instead of just no-showing, which seems to be the norm these days.

[Blunderguts]

By telling the seller you have done the right thing, nothing to feel guilty about.

In the course of Dad's business we had a few that would make an appointment to come then they wouldn't. There were a few that were consistently incredibly late. Our solution was to allow an hour's grace then go out somewhere. Some phoned up to whinge about it and were told, politely, that we have other things to do.