The grumpy thread

[Junkman]

Norfolk is fantastic, especially the north of the county.

 

Talk to me about Cromer, please.

[Stanky]

Go crabbing, its brilliant! You don't have to eat them, though they are supposed to be very good - I think the done thing is to put them back for others to catch too.

 

 

Holkham has amazing beaches, Wells-next-the-sea is very nice and someone on here has a friend who has a wherry moored there.

 

Norwich is a nice city to visit too.

[Doctormop]

Talk to me about Cromer, please.

 

Stephen Fry once worked as a waiter at The Hotel de Paris in Cromer, Winston Churchill holidayed there as a 14 year old and hated it.

I really like it there, having visited a few times over many years, its a small town that's just big enough if you know what I mean, I always come back so relaxed that I'm Cromertosed!!

 

(Won't give up the day job just yet)

[Kiltox]

Modern classic?! Yeah people are really foaming at the gash for 56 reg Cat D Z4s

 

[Cavcraft]

Talk to me about Cromer, please.

 

It's quite probably the best coastal resort in Britain. Seriously.

[EssDeeWon]

Talk to me about Cromer, please.

 

[trigger]

Cromer is lovely. Keep an eye open for the big house with the Aston Martin Lagonda (1970s model) and a Rolls Royce Camargue laid up in the front yard.

[chaseracer]

It's quite probably the best coastal resort in Britain. Seriously.

 

Apart from Llandudno...  

[NorfolkNWeigh]

As today is the 1st of the month 6 different lots of road tax come out of my bank , so it's a bit annoying that I've paid £11 to use the M6 Toll road on the way to Blackpool and back this morning and £11.50 to drive about 500 yards into the congestion charge zone .

 

Just remembered my brother has come back from France and his car is on my Dart Charge account , that's another £1.67.

Oh, and whilst I'm moaning, . £7.20 for parking at Gatwick, because the traffic getting in and out meant I went over the 30 mins.

 

Glad I've got no work tomorrow, I'll save a few quid!

[HillmanImp]

Apart from Llandudno...  

Not if you stay at the Grand. This was my post from January 2015:

 

I went there last summer. Was an experience. Stayed at the Grand Hotel as that was the only one with room as we decided to travel away at the last minute. Never been before but when I got there it seemed familiar but that was only because I had seen 'Holiday on the Buses' on ITV4 and most of the surviving cast were in the same hotel.

 

I think 99% of the people there had been going there at the same weekend for the last 50yrs. We probably only got our room as someone had died leaving an unexpected vacancy.

 

We had a GR12 view out of the window:

 

 

Plus we had to buy some water as you could not drink it out of the taps as it was not safe for human consumption. Maybe if we keep going back year after year, we will get promoted to a better room as a return customer. 

 

This was the bar area:

 

 

Based upon my thoughts above, I bet these people must have been going there for so long that their rooms are probably plated in gold with mattresses you would sink in and HDTVs with a free Redtube subscription. 

 

I had this:

 

 

Aactually I reckon the girls from RedTube are actually in the room offering to fellate you. Thats the only reason I could ever see for coming back.

 

I went for breakfast in the morning and it was truly the worst thing I have ever eaten (and I love a fry up) but there were hundreds of pensioners lapping it up like it was the food of the gods. IT WAS VILE. The black pudding was half cooked, the bacon was fat and the sausages look like they were recovered from under the sea there was that much water pouring out of them.

[beko1987]

That looks nice* Reminds me of the b and b in bournemouth we used to stay at for £25 a night each when we went clubbing. They were grim, but ace! Especially since we only really stayed in them for a few hours, generally high on something

[Cavcraft]

Apart from Llandudno...  

 

Llandudno is ok, but given other areas locally it's probably not hard to shine! Definitely the best place on that side of the coast though.

 

 

Cromer wins just for not jut for the place itself, but pretty much everywhere within a large radius, notably Sheringham, Holt, Blakeney Point, Cley, Wells and countless others. We've always found the locals really friendly too.

[Semi-C]

Cromer is lovely. Keep an eye open for the big house with the Aston Martin Lagonda (1970s model) and a Rolls Royce Camargue laid up in the front yard.

A short walk from Kings Chalet park....

[chaseracer]

I have very fond memories of Cromer.  It was the long hot post-A level summer of 1984 and her name was Alison... 

 

 

EDIT: And yes, this really should be in the Grin thread!

[New POD]

Modern classic?! Yeah people are really foaming at the gash for 56 reg Cat D Z4s

 

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To be fair the "fast back" version of the Z4 looks great from the back.

[danthecapriman]

Sorry to vent this on here but I have no one else to do it to.

 

I feel utterly shit! Not in a physical way but I just feel so absolutely useless and worthless.

I've been miserable and feeling very down and unhappy for a long time (years would be a realistic time period) but it's getting harder to control and hide now. I'm just so sick of being alone. At the age of nearly 32 I feel a complete failure that I don't have a wife/partner or my own family, everyone else my age seems to have it and I'd gladly do anything to get it.

The trouble is it just never happens.

It makes me sad to have to admit that it must surely be me, I must have a really shit personality and be so repulsive to the opposite sex. I've even recently signed up on an expensive online dating site but had nothing out of it. To be honest I actually feel worse now than before I signed up for some idiotic reason.

While I was filling in the questionnaire and profile info I was really struggling to write anything worthwhile, I just don't think I have any redeeming feature, no hobbies or interest that would appeal to the opposite sex, I just can't put anything down about myself worth reading. I just keep thinking what a waste of time and money this is as nobody in their right mind is going to want to be with such a pathetic looser.

I honestly feel I've got nothing to live for at the moment. It's not like I'm asking much, just the same basic thing everyone else seems to get so easily!?

It's been affecting my work too, I've had several really bad days recently and my bad attitude, temper and total lack of interest in anything has been getting noticed.

I've just started my two weeks off work for holiday and I already feel like shit on the first day.

 

I really don't know what to do, honestly.

 

Anyway, sorry to be such a miserable shit!

[sporty-shite]

Dan, go see your GP. Tell them everything, and get some treatment, whether it be medication , counselling, psychology, whatever. I wasted a good few years of my life feeling like that, mainly because I didn't want to be "labelled". I'm miles better now, although I expect to take medication for the very long term, I don't care because I know it works.

[jakebullet]

Go see vets for happy pills / CBT ?

 

Maybe capri ownership makes you cursed, I was single (read nobody interested) until 41. Mind I could be being punished for putting mine under a cat piss tarp for 10 years.

[wuvvum]

Replace 32 with almost 37 and you could be talking about me.  I've learned not to give a fuck and not to try and make any plans for the future - it's worked.  I wouldn't say I'm happy as such, but I'm content at least.

[taxi paul]

Plus one for GP. I went the other week because I felt ill. I seen my new GP , my old one got sacked apparently. He said I have anxiety and I now have tablets , sertralin. I can honestly say that three weeks later I feel a lot better than I have for years.

[danthecapriman]

Dan, go see your GP. Tell them everything, and get some treatment, whether it be medication , counselling, psychology, whatever. I wasted a good few years of my life feeling like that, mainly because I didn't want to be "labelled". I'm miles better now, although I expect to take medication for the very long term, I don't care because I know it works.

I just don't think I can bring myself to go. I know it sounds really stupid but I just don't feel I can go talk to someone about stuff like this or take treatment for it. I don't know why?

 

It's got so bad that I can't even take a photo of myself for my profile pic because I'm so embarrassed and hate the way I look so much. I really can not stand the thought of having a photo taken or letting anyone see it.

I think I might have some sort of issue with being out in public too. I never feel comfortable around people and even going shopping or something simple feel like I'm absolutely shitting myself from the moment I get out the car until the moment I get back in! I have absolutely no clue how I could ever possibly go on a date being like that. It's just not going to work.

 

Like I said sorry for the miserable reading guys!

[scaryoldcortina]

Dan, please go see the doctor. I don't suffer from depression but my wife and daughter both do and they both say it's better with treatment.

[taxi paul]

The biggest hurdle is speaking to someone about how you feel. You have now done that. So the next less scary step is to see your GP. They wont laugh at you. They can and will be able to help.

[sporty-shite]

I just don't think I can bring myself to go. I know it sounds really stupid but I just don't feel I can go talk to someone about stuff like this or take treatment for it. I don't know why?

 

It's got so bad that I can't even take a photo of myself for my profile pic because I'm so embarrassed and hate the way I look so much. I really can not stand the thought of having a photo taken or letting anyone see it.

I think I might have some sort of issue with being out in public too. I never feel comfortable around people and even going shopping or something simple feel like I'm absolutely shitting myself from the moment I get out the car until the moment I get back in! I have absolutely no clue how I could ever possibly go on a date being like that. It's just not going to work.

 

Like I said sorry for the miserable reading guys!

Seriously, Dan. Go to your doc. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed. It's their chosen career to help people who need it, and it sounds like you really do. Like SOC said, treatment works. It really can be life changing.

[danthecapriman]

I think I know I probably should go but just can't make myself do it. It's really hard for me to try to talk about. Plus I don't want anyone to know, I don't want to upset my parents, who I'm still living with btw!.

My sister has depression and is on medication for it. Not sure her problems are quite the same though. I don't think even those closest to me know how I feel, as I think I'm very good at hiding it and putting a brave face on things since I've been doing it so long.

[Coprolalia]

Dan, speaking as someone who worked as a GP, go see your GP.

You're stuck in a negative cycle where you feel worthless because you have not been able to achieve anything that makes you feel good about yourself because you don't see the point because you feel worthless.

 

You NEED to break the cycle.

Don't worry about the label, 1/3rd of people will go through this at some point in their life.

Talking therapy is good if you're prepared to talk. Tablets don't make you feel artificially happy but will give you the mental energy to go find things to make you feel worth something again.

 

Exactly what forums like this are for.

Christ, if you pitched up in my clinic with a printout of this page it's be enough for me to start offering therapy and advice.

 

 

This website run by my old GP mental health service is good.

http://www.stepiau.org

[taxi paul]

So you spend an uncomfortable ten minutes , like me. admitting you have a problem coping with life and its making you ill, because it is by the way. Your gp then will help and may prescribe something. Its not a magic tablet but it does help you to cope better and therefore give you a better quality of life. What's ten minutes?

[Coprolalia]

BTW the biggest step is recognising that you feel low, and that it's not normal.

 

The hiding/ don't want to be a burden/ don't want others to worry is classical, and helps drive the cycle.

 

To a good GP (I emphasis good, there are some shitters, so find one who listens!) you're not a burden or a problem. You're the sort of person for whom we can make a huge difference, which is what we live to do.

 

So just do it!

[mrbenn]

I think I know I probably should go but just can't make myself do it. It's really hard for me to try to talk about. Plus I don't want anyone to know, I don't want to upset my parents, who I'm still living with btw!.

My sister has depression and is on medication for it. Not sure her problems are quite the same though. I don't think even those closest to me know how I feel, as I think I'm very good at hiding it and putting a brave face on things since I've been doing it so long.

 

Sounds like you and I, and others on here I suspect, are quite similar.

 

I'm 35, back living at home, feeling much the same as you. Been getting worse for a while. I, like you, didn't want to go to my GP, for various reasons. What I did do (eventually, as my mood and outlook deteriorated further) was seek counselling. I now see someone local once a week.

 

I am not a talker. At least, certainly not about my own feelings. I'll seem like a happy, confident guy on the outside but all I want to do is run away and hide. The counselling is really helping me on many levels. After a slow start, I just started talking. A good counseller will bring things out of you. Its a bit like picking at a scab, it can be difficult and you'll probably feel worse before it gets better. But I've been going a couple of months now and I'm very glad I did.

[danthecapriman]

I will honestly have a think over the next few days, now I'm off work for a couple of weeks the pressure is off I suppose.

I'm still not 100% sure I want to go but I know it's only a matter of time before this causes me more trouble. It's been picked up by colleagues that I'm a bit 'off' and I think it's only a matter of time before something happens and I end up doing or saying something at work. There's a bit of pressure coming from work too that really isn't helping things. A few times in the last couple of months I've been very close to throwing down the tools and walking out, I don't want to do that but...

 

Sounds like you and I, and others on here I suspect, are quite similar.

 

I'm 35, back living at home, feeling much the same as you. Been getting worse for a while. I, like you, didn't want to go to my GP, for various reasons. What I did do (eventually, as my mood and outlook deteriorated further) was seek counselling. I now see someone local once a week.

 

I am not a talker. At least, certainly not about my own feelings. I'll seem like a happy, confident guy on the outside but all I want to do is run away and hide. The counselling is really helping me on many levels. After a slow start, I just started talking. A good counseller will bring things out of you. Its a bit like picking at a scab, it can be difficult and you'll probably feel worse before it gets better. But I've been going a couple of months now and I'm very glad I did.

That is pretty much exactly how I feel. I think if I didn't need the money I'd not bother leaving home, even for work.

 

 

Thanks for the understanding everyone. I don't really have anyone I feel able to talk to at home so this has helped get it off my chest. As I say, I'll have a chill out over the next few days and think about what I'm going to do, I can't keep going on like I am doing.