The grumpy thread

[GrumpiusMaximus]

Partly true - but if it's not up there in the first place then it has little chance of causing any issues at all. And we're all a little more mature/thoughful/better or whatever. Deffo after the fact if needed, but maybe a little thought beforehand would go a long way in restoring the peace and harmony that is...oh, wait   

 

No disagreement here...

[D Spares & Tyres]

Indeed, but I'm still not sure it deserves quite the level of vitriol. I think some people need to have a long think about what they are saying. How does it reflect on them?

It shows that not only are they deeply unhappy people already but it also shows that repression does not work and neither do people like being told how to think.

[Sheefag]

I would never prevent people from grumping about their relationships, but I do object to phrases like 'they're all like that,' and 'snakes with hips.' It's just not respectful. It also isn't reflective of the situation, nor helpful. Relationships struggle and fail for many reasons, and I don't think just spouting nonsense about women all being mad is either comforting or helpful.

 

But, I air my thoughts on such matters in public, whereas some people have got it into their heads that I go running to the mods every time I don't like something. That is not true. 

 

I'm fortunate enough to be married to a smart, talented, loyal and funny woman. Having kissed a few frogs along the journey, I finally got lucky.

 

When I read things like 'they're all like that,' and 'snakes with hips', I don't recognise those sentiments but I do believe that they're either tongue in cheek or have been learnt by the experience of the person saying them.

Quite often, those experiences are self inflicted and as a result of poor life choices when it comes to partners.

To the person saying it, they may seem based in fact but the person listening always has the choice whether to believe it's true... or not.

 

My experience is that you can gently and slowly, educate people into changing their point of view but applying labels and plain telling them they are wrong, rarely bears results and just delivers a 'shields up' response.

 

As an aside, when you sit close enough to the internet, it just becomes a collection of ones and zeroes, I personally would have very little concern about what ones and zeroes say about me.

 

Wasn't it Shakespeare who said with astonishing foresight for a 16th century playwright, 'The internet's a stage, and all the people players?'

[chadders]

I would never prevent people from grumping about their relationships, but I do object to phrases like 'they're all like that,' and 'snakes with hips.' It's just not respectful. It also isn't reflective of the situation, nor helpful. Relationships struggle and fail for many reasons, and I don't think just spouting nonsense about women all being mad is either comforting or helpful.

 

But, I air my thoughts on such matters in public, whereas some people have got it into their heads that I go running to the mods every time I don't like something. That is not true.

I think that some of the posts were meant in a humorous fashion and other were an outpouring of rage/sadness at the state of their relationships.

I view the 'all women being mad' as being humour, after all it's been said for probably centuries and I'm surer that my wife would feel the same. What she would be very unhappy about is someone being offended on her behalf. By the way I've been happily married* for about 30 years and we have two wonderful sons. * I've got to say this as otherwise I'd be made into mince(joke)

[dollywobbler]

Ok. I can see that. Thanks for the feedback, none of which involved personal attacks.

[AMC Rebel]

That's NOT politics . It references my stereotypes about people I have never met and know nothing about. Yes I mention who they might vote for, but......

 

Look if I hated them due to colour, religion, sexual orientation, that would allow you all to offer me advice about racism, homophia, or tedious bigotry, but hating someone due to their upbringing and ability to get on in life due to their place in the class system isn't politics.

It's life

Its me talking about life.

I deliberately didn't.mention the car That they might own.

That would be silly to judge a person's worth to society. On their transport choices.

X6 by the way.

 

 

It mentioned voting Conservative.  To be clear, I don't mind (because I think the rule is arse) but it's politics and banned on here.

[red5]

James brown is singing ever louder. The two cheapest options locally is a MK4 golf 1.6 that's had an haircut to the tune of 75k 6 years ago and a MK1 scenic 2.0 automatic. My life is over!

 

Scenic it is then.

 

What a choice, like being punched in the left or right side of your face - you choose.

[AMC Rebel]

I tell you what. Reading what some people on here think about you isn't much fun. Jeepers there are some very bitter and twisted folk about. Who are very good at jumping to entirely the wrong conclusions. Not sure the 'new' forum was a good idea if it gives people like Hooli liberty to be rude as f*ck about others. Also very disappointed to see people I considered friends jumping into the public mauling. Cheers chaps. 

 

I agree - we've had our differences (one actually I think) which was a difference of opinion not personal and settled on here.  I have said as much in the other place.

 

What I don't understand is why we can't talk about the 2/3 things that are deemed unmentionable on here but have an absolute ban on personal attacks.  That works on other sites.  People who want personal fights/flame wars can fill their boots (off the board)

 

I preferred it when you were allowed to suggest I wore Brexit underpants because of something I posted and I said I don't (I really don't) instead of this sorry mess.

[AMC Rebel]

I would never prevent people from grumping about their relationships, but I do object to phrases like 'they're all like that,' and 'snakes with hips.' It's just not respectful. It also isn't reflective of the situation, nor helpful. Relationships struggle and fail for many reasons, and I don't think just spouting nonsense about women all being mad is either comforting or helpful.

 

But, I air my thoughts on such matters in public, whereas some people have got it into their heads that I go running to the mods every time I don't like something. That is not true. 

 

 

I tend to agree - on both those counts, but the issue we seem to have is that views we might not like aren't just being challenged they are being actively removed.

 

Mumsnet is great for this - every now and then someone will post something asking why all men are cheating *cunts interested in beer cars and other women and they will get challenged by some other posters saying it's wrong to generalise in that way.

 

Mumsnet just deletes any personal bile pretty much immediately, but leaves people to debate the issues.

 

I used to enjoy, yes really enjoy reading such a range of opinions about stuff other than just Marina gearboxes on here.

 

*I am not a big fan of this term, but it is used liberally on Mumsnet.

[dollywobbler]

 

What I don't understand is why we can't talk about the 2/3 things that are deemed unmentionable on here but have an absolute ban on personal attacks.  That works on other sites.  People who want personal fights/flame wars can fill their boots (off the board)

 

 

That's not a bad shout. It's not the discussing of religion/politics that's the problem, it's the personal insults that are the problem. Just banning the topic is one solution, one I'm happy with, but firing up the banhammer for people who cannot stop themselves lobbing in personal attacks is certainly an option that makes sense.

[D Spares & Tyres]

James brown is singing ever louder. The two cheapest options locally is a MK4 golf 1.6 that's had an haircut to the tune of 75k 6 years ago and a MK1 scenic 2.0 automatic. My life is over!

Never driven a 2.0 auto but my mk1 turbo diesel was a brilliant car. I was really sad when it went.

 

You'll kill it anyway

[barefoot]

Two things;

 

Whatever happened to Moto-SCAT?

 

And my dear old mother, who kept mislaying her house keys...

She had a key box installed on the outside of the building.

The other day she asked, 'Did I tell you the number of the new key box?'

'No? Your brother says I didn't tell him either...'

Silly old bat now knows where her spare keys are, just that no bugger can get to them.

[chadders]

If its like the one I put up for my Mam there's a default setting, something like 0000, which you need to change.

 

If this hasn't been done this number will probably be on the instructions on the web, if there are any.

[cpjitservices]

Well, I'm grumpy.

 

At least 5k has gone out of my bank account. I say my bank account, it's a joint business bank account!

 

Why oh why did I go into business with someone ??? And why, when you give someone a chance they just rip you off??

 

That's me fucked for a new car and fucked for traveling to clients to.

 

I wouldn't mind of he'd pocketed the money, but he's gambled away the lot.

 

Bye profits.

 

 

Fuck me.

[loserone]

Two things;

 

Whatever happened to Moto-SCAT?

 

We don't really post on the forum much, there's just me, scary and tone in a whatsapp group..

 

[barefoot]

If its like the one I put up for my Mam there's a default setting, something like 0000, which you need to change.

 

If this hasn't been done this number will probably be on the instructions on the web, if there are any.

 

Oh no, she's changed it all right. She just didn't tell anyone or even write it down!

 

 

We don't really post on the forum much, there's just me, scary and tone in a whatsapp group..

 

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I never knew that, I thought it had just vanished without trace.

 

Like a lot of things I don't do, I'm not a whatsapper.

 

 

[loserone]

The forum is still there, come and join me and the tumbleweeds

[Kiltox]

Just had to buy another jump pack because I’ve misplaced the old one or it’s been nicked out of the back of the C1. 140 quid ffs.

[John F]

Speaking of splinter forums, there are currently twice as many people logged into "AS after dark" than Autoshite.

 

This is a massive grump as far as I'm concerned. We all belong in here.

[320touring]

Two things;

 

Whatever happened to Moto-SCAT?

 

And my dear old mother, who kept mislaying her house keys...

She had a key box installed on the outside of the building.

The other day she asked, 'Did I tell you the number of the new key box?'

'No? Your brother says I didn't tell him either...'

Silly old bat now knows where her spare keys are, just that no bugger can get to them.

Surely this should be achievable to a JAAAG driver, being a cad and a bounder?

 

https://youtu.be/PFMLD6SonZg

[Christine]

Just had to buy another jump pack because I’ve misplaced the old one or it’s been nicked out of the back of the C1. 140 quid ffs.

 

Is it a new   small one ?

 Handbrake...

Look under the handbrake ..

[Kiltox]

It’s not that small but it is a compact LiPo one yeah.

[Supernaut]

Seeing as a C1 is smaller than a 405 would you find a 20p rather than a 50p?

[Richard]

How does it reflect on them?

Quite badly.

[Bren]

I contacted several garages and bodyshops regarding getting the Discovery welding done

 

Answers?

 

Zero.

Unless there is an old sweat that can do it you are fooked - do you think youngsters want to do welding nowadays?

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

Well, I'm grumpy.

 

At least 5k has gone out of my bank account. I say my bank account, it's a joint business bank account!

 

Why oh why did I go into business with someone ??? And why, when you give someone a chance they just rip you off??

 

That's me fucked for a new car and fucked for traveling to clients to.

 

I wouldn't mind of he'd pocketed the money, but he's gambled away the lot.

 

Bye profits.

 

 

Fuck me.

 

Keep a close eye on it and document anything wary dude. I made the mistake of catching and 'giving a chance' - to an ex business partner. It cost me a bloody fortune and landed me in deep deep shit with the tax authorities. I should've just walked and gone solo.

Once the trust is gone, you'll never be the same anyway. Move on dude….. best of luck.

[The_Equalizer]

Unless there is an old sweat that can do it you are fooked - do you think youngsters want to do welding nowadays?

 

The chap I use for plastering said the same thing about his trade. Young blood isn't coming into the ranks, so much so, they are not running plastering courses anymore at the local tech. Seems that they prefer to be a spark or joiner.

[cpjitservices]

Keep a close eye on it and document anything wary dude. I made the mistake of catching and 'giving a chance' - to an ex business partner. It cost me a bloody fortune and landed me in deep deep shit with the tax authorities. I should've just walked and gone solo.

Once the trust is gone, you'll never be the same anyway. Move on dude….. best of luck.

This is the point where I'm at, new business is set up and new bank account is also now live. A customer paid into the old account even though I told them not to, £500 gone .. he must have checked the old account at lunch time.

Not sure where this will leave me yet with 'the tax man' everything I have taken out of the old business is squeaky clean.... However .. the 10 payday loans (at least) from the company account is going to take some explaining. If they ask.

 

Leaves me stuck for transport, I was hoping that 500 was going Into the new account (like I asked and stated on invoice) but no.

So, fucked for a car now!!!!!!

Also can't get out to see customers. Let's hope there are no major incidents.

 

Oh yeah the bank won't let me close the account without two signatures.. can't get hold of him so account still open.

 

 

Why do people just want to rip people off?

 

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[sierraman]

Raise a joint account dispute. Then it’ll be both to sign on withdrawals. Probably a bit late now for that.

[cpjitservices]

Raise a joint account dispute. Then it’ll be both to sign on withdrawals. Probably a bit late now for that.

Too late yeah, I've spoken to the bank, the only way to close it is to go to court.