The grumpy thread

[spartacus]

Never posted on this thread before, surprising really as I'm known for being a bit of a misery, anyhoo, I lent a car to a friend fora couple of weeks, she'd managed to over-fill hers with oil, after believing the oil level indicator on the dash rather than the dipstick, which she also checked!

She picked up her new car, a 2011 Toyota Yaris, and gave me a lift in it to pick my car up. Typically it's got a screen on the dash, which is connected to a reversing camera, on a fucking Yaris!

[SierraMikeHotel]

^^ The first car I drove with a reversing camera was an Aygo...

[Guest Hooli]

^^ The first car I drove with a reversing camera was an Aygo...

 Was the camera in your headrest?

[iainrcz]

Argos catalogue, addressed to Mrs A Hitler.

Wife's become a fucking tyrant on all decisions relating to new house. Decor, furniture, appliances, everything-it's her way, or else I'm being fucking unreasonable. I'm seriously considering taking up golf/lawn bowls/dominoes/anything to get me out of the house regularly. I now know how Richard Bucket and Andy Capp* feel.

 

 

* Without the domestic violence, obviously.

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[3VOM]

Tax credits, bloody things, wish I had never got started making a claim for them but they did it at the job centre when I went to sign on (once a long time ago) now apparently at some point we have had a £3000+ over payment, God only knows how they've managed to come up with that figure.

There doesn't seem to be a way to get away from them either once you are in the system its fill in the form or get a big fine so that is what i've done

Having been in this situation I can explain. First the credit is paid on the estimated income for the forthcoming year then corrected for the actual amount of income. Second, to avoid looking like complete bastards and leaving people with next to no income, the system will only claw back some overpayment out of the next year's credit. Do this a few times and you can easily be four figures the wrong way. It only gets finally settled when either they have managed to take enough back off your credits or you no longer have any credits and you are now in debt recovery mode. If you get to debt recovery mode make a deal to pay back £x per month or it does go out to collection agencies.

Example: year one you get credit of £5000. Year two you get credit of £4000 cos you earned more than you said you would in year one. But now if they try to recover all the overpayment, you are in the situation that you are only getting £3000 this year when you got £5000 last year, and you probably only earned £1000 or so more than you said you expected to, so year two would see you worse off than year one if they recover all the money. So they don't. So they only recover say £400 in year two. Repeat over a number of years where your estimated income is lower than actual and you accumulate a decent sized overpayment.

[dozeydustman]

I've cut short my rant on rear vision cameras very short. Was going to tirade about them as in cars I see them as pointless, especially in something the size of a baked bean.

[rantingYoof]

'Hmm, I need to sell my car.'

 

*puts car up for sale*

*gets enquiry within 24hrs from someone wanting to see it*

 

'Oh no, going on holiday so can only view today or not at all until I get back.'

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

People are, of course, entitled to take holidays whenever they want...but why would you whack your motor up for sale two days before heading off?!

 

 

 

[dozeydustman]

Just been on the phone to the DVLA again regarding getting my HGV license back. For once I had an understanding and competent telephone operator. This however is not my grump.

 

They had to chase up my GP for the forms regarding vertigo, it turned out a locum doctor had glanced through my notes and said unfit to drive at all when I submitted my application in April. Bullshit as have had no vertigo since December 2016, and I hadn't even seen this locum doctor before.

 

They have finally received the correct form from my migraine & vertigo specialist after a number of months chasing her up, but I now need to send another D2 application in, because the incorrect letter from the locum doctor cancelled the D2 I sent in April.

 

My GP practice is getting a bollocking letter.

[dozeydustman]

'Hmm, I need to sell my car.'

 

*puts car up for sale*

*gets enquiry within 24hrs from someone wanting to see it*

 

'Oh no, going on holiday so can only view today or not at all until I get back.'

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

People are, of course, entitled to take holidays whenever they want...but why would you whack your motor up for sale two days before heading off?!

 

because dickhead?

[Richard]

Just been on the phone to the DVLA again regarding getting my HGV license back. For once I had an understanding and competent telephone operator. This however is not my grump.

 

They had to chase up my GP for the forms regarding vertigo, it turned out a locum doctor had glanced through my notes and said unfit to drive at all when I submitted my application in April. Bullshit as have had no vertigo since December 2016, and I hadn't even seen this locum doctor before.

 

They have finally received the correct form from my migraine & vertigo specialist after a number of months chasing her up, but I now need to send another D2 application in, because the incorrect letter from the locum doctor cancelled the D2 I sent in April.

 

My GP practice is getting a bollocking letter.

 

Is vertigo something that can take you off the road? 

[DodgeRover]

Just been on the phone to the DVLA again regarding getting my HGV license back. For once I had an understanding and competent telephone operator. This however is not my grump.

 

They had to chase up my GP for the forms regarding vertigo, it turned out a locum doctor had glanced through my notes and said unfit to drive at all when I submitted my application in April. Bullshit as have had no vertigo since December 2016, and I hadn't even seen this locum doctor before.

 

They have finally received the correct form from my migraine & vertigo specialist after a number of months chasing her up, but I now need to send another D2 application in, because the incorrect letter from the locum doctor cancelled the D2 I sent in April.

 

My GP practice is getting a bollocking letter.

Stuff the letter send them an invoice for loss of earnings!

[dozeydustman]

Is vertigo something that can take you off the road? 

 

 

Indeed it is. I had labyrinthitis Christmas 2015 which made me very very dizzy to the point of much pukage, an ambulance being called and hostipalisation for a few days, which damaged the labyrinth (balance centre) of my left ear. I reported it to DVLA as any good driver should do, and they said as long as I don't get another bout of dizziness within 12 months I won't have to report it again.

 

September 2016, 5 days from returning from my honeymoon, I woke up with a spinning head, the pukes and inability to walk without falling over. Hospital again. MRI on ears, and balance part of my left ear was by now severely damaged by a new, aggressive infection. Declared it, lost car license for 3 months and HGV for 12. All vertigo had gone by January 2017, and I got my car licence back in April 2017 with no problems but I have a medical marker against my license, which caused no end of problems when I moved house.

 

The annoying thing is I've been discharged from the hospital, and the consultant there has said fit to drive HGV. The migraine & dizziness specialist GP at my practice has said clear to drive HGVs. Both of these doctors have filled in their counterparts of the medical form I sent in.

 

It's this letter from a doctor that has never seen me at all in the past, let alone for this condition that has fucked everything up for me - sounds like they've had a quick glance through my notes, and as the practice has periodically been monitoring my vertigo since September 2016 and since January 2017 there have been no signs of Benign Positional Paroxysmal Vertigo when they've checked me over, but has probably written something that makes it sound like I am still suffering. Basically interfering because DVLA were getting impatient with waiting on my practice to fit me in.

[dozeydustman]

Stuff the letter send them an invoice for loss of earnings!

Thankfully I'm still on driver's rate while I'm loading.

 

EDIT - For the time being

[beko1987]

Further to my grin/news wherever it was post about having all the windows open in this lovely breeze...

 

Went upstairs earlier, and the childrens bedroom door was shut. That's funny, says I, it can't shut, the babygate stop it shutting specifically so they cant, it's wedged open...

 

FUCK, the winds slammed it shut and ripped the hinges out of the door and split the wood as it has met with the stairgate. Cock

 

Will try a bit of mending with wood glue and longer screws, but its a shitty fibre board door so I think I'm just going to have to come clean and pony up for a new door, which wont match the rest...

[sierraman]

OK so here's something that's sort of a grump but could also be taken as not one.

 

Few weeks Fiesta ST goes to a recommended garage for a new handbrake cable. Gets done, ask how much. 'not sure take it home give us a ring when I've worked something out'. Few phone calls later still no price.

 

Ok. Give them the benefit of the doubt and car goes in again. Mystery oil leak all over the auxiliary belt, EGR needs cleaning, exhaust broken, possible new bushes in the rear suspension somewhere, have a look get back to us.

 

They change the exhaust, some shitty looking covers on the back dampers (they've had the back suspension off) but not done the EGR.

 

'can't find the oil leak, have jet washed it. Bring it back in a week so see what we can see'. 'OK how much?' 'er don't know ring us later' 3 calls later still no price.

 

Pops tyre Wednesday but going back Thursday, told them to get a tyre.

 

Mrs Shrimp rings today. 'OK to get it tomorrow, how much?'

'can't find any oil leak (been leaking for months and using loads, no blue smoke so must be a leak), not changed the auxiliary belt as it looks OK (it's the 13 year old original and it looks shit) yes we put a tyre on, you can get it tomorrow, no idea how much boss has gone away for the weekend'.

 

Bit disappointed that the best hasn't been done but in the end we're either going to get a bill for an unknown amount at some point or a shit load of work and parts for free.

 

I'm trying not to be a twat about this and think fuck em thanks for the free stuff but how many times do you ask someone how much you owe them before you think tough shit your loss. It isn't like it's a small garage. How the fuck are they staying open?

Oil leaks sometimes take a bit of time after cleaning off the old oil. Clean it off at home and chances are you’ll be able to track it down. Probably something like the pressure switch leaking.

 

Clean the EGR out at home, not usually a difficult job albeit messy.

[Ghosty]

Few months ago the council came along and replaced all the lamp posts on my street with new LED ones.

 

Two of the old sodium lamps weren't removed, including the one opposite my house. The new LED ones sit next to them, off.

A third lamp was replaced a couple of years before the others so is a new pole with a sodium head, when all the others are white LEDs.

 

I complained to the council about the unfinished job as it looks a bloody mess (all the other roads round us were finished), and they didn't do anything.

 

Then the lamp opposite my house died, complained to the council.

2 weeks later they come along with the truck, ignore the new post completely and put a new LED head on the old lamp post.

 

WTF?

[maxpower]

private parking companies!.. after council changed name 3 times..and the parking companies also changing with them, each newcomer thinks they will flex their muscles by writing tickets for cars parked in bays they shouldn't be in...fair enough... until a family friend of mine has had 3 tickets for parking in a bay even though it was a visitors bay and she had a valid scratch card for each day...eventually things come to a head and council guy comes around to house to see what i was ranting about over the phone... so i show him (A) the visitors parking bays.... ( all the bays have not had a lick of paint since the day it opened in 2001 and numbers have long since worn away.. and © the parking warning signs displayed are from the original company and the original housing association that was in office when the houses were built and display a now defunct phone number!

so after he sees all this he puts in an order for the bays all to be repainted and new signage put up.... guys come round stick some stickers with the small writing T&C's on it and thats it...still original council name and number on signs... then we all get a letter to park on the main road between 7am last monday to 7am on the tuesday as they will be repainting all the parking bays... tuesday evening still not painted..i call them on wednesday..he goes and makes a few calls to check what happened... they had only gone and painted the bays in some other car park!...ffs you couldn't make it up...so as of today 2 weeks later..the bays are still unpainted and parking is chaos even for us that buys yearly parking permits hmmmph.

[Timewaster]

Local car club had a little classic car show in town today..

 

I didn't get any photos as I was too busy keeping my kids hands of the exhibits.

 

Here it comes....

 

Who puts bloody George Cross flag Halfords plastic number plates on a 74 MGB?

 

Or obviously brand new pressed black and silver on an otherwise period Ford Pop?

 

Or hacked up JDM plates on a Mustang?

 

Or a big rear plate meant for a Jag on a Bentley?

 

Or black and silver plates on an MX5?

 

Arrrrgh! So many inappropriate plates it made my teeth itch!

[MikeR]

on a good note ,

 

I bought a new belt      , one that goes around me and holds me kecks up ...... 

 

the Cobra buckle was worth some 20 squids and some indestructible webbing to around me ..made it 25 squids in total

 

buckle  is marked up as being able to take 9 KNs  ( whatever that is ) , or 18 KNs with the webbing ......

 

so me smallest climbing carabineer now makes a nice key holder , dog lead clip and safety gear mount .......

[Exiled_Tat_Gatherer]

Wife's become a fucking tyrant on all decisions relating to new house. Decor, furniture, appliances, everything-it's her way, or else I'm being fucking unreasonable. I'm seriously considering taking up golf/lawn bowls/dominoes/anything to get me out of the house regularly. I now know how Richard Bucket and Andy Capp* feel.

 

 

* Without the domestic violence, obviously.

 

 

Get it stopped somehow fella - NOW..... as TwoSmoke said..... slippery slope. Hope it doesn't blow up too badly when you mention it though. Good luck.

 

SMH - Welcome to my world fella. Unfortunately I have a son with the loon. She is bi-polar, admits it herself, but won't see a Dr and attempt to get help so it's a waste of time trying to say anything. 

 

Grump/Rant - apologies for marathon - dropped off munchkin with her for the usual turnover. The guy she cheated on me with is the boyfriend.... lives 2hrs away and has no car so they see each other perhaps 6 or 7 times a year.... not my problem. Munchkin is complaining that when he shows up, she is basically ignoring tike and just getting on with midget monkeywanker - I can't say a word or I'm a dick..... fukkit.

It's been 4 years since I walked out after her using our son as cover saying she was visiting parents/family (muggins here paying) while instead off to 'visit' MMW. While together I paid everything - just like SMH - and she never ever cooked, cleaned, put shit away..... etc... I installed the lighting throughout the place, storage, shelving, book cases, bought every electrical appliance.... she got flowers randomly to try and cheer her up. I worked.... she didn't - socialised and was 'starting a business' that required a small fortune on training courses - guess who paid for that too. 

It's been 4 years now - and I try not to go near the place we used to have if I'm honest. 

First time in ages - munchkin mentioned the electrical problems and why it wasn't fixed..... I took a proper look for the first time in ages at the place. The oven is fucked, dishwasher (bought because she didn't like doing the dishes - but she didn't load this fukker either) is fucked.... washing machine - fucked.... bedroom - not a bedroom anymore and bed - fucked..... heating down there - fucked.... electricity in the place - fucked..... 

MMW had actually been there for a 'visit' - his rubbish and cup(s) were still on the table ( OH yeah - she didn't clear the table of her shit ever either) - this little dickhead shows up, doesn't fix anything..... repair or replace anything she may need to help her. No flowers, ever - no bills or anything paid for her.... no car so he busses over or if being flash - train. Shows up, out for a drink on the evening.... into bed - next day before leaving in the evening - in bed. No shopping, nothing done. 

I didn't know she was pregnant with our son as she let me know with a photo of the scan in my Xmas card - she was already 4mths by then. I worked constantly, cooked, cleaned, washed up, ironed (another no no for her), paid and booked holidays (apparently not enough of them), bought bikes (she had 6 stolen in a single year), replaced clothing and sunglasses (I lost count of how much she cost me one Sumer in shades!) and decorated, storage, shelving, new bed - heating sorted etc.... she preferred being above other cars - so RangeRover bought and insured.... etc... 

It sounds purely financial.... it isn't - I got up at all hours to take care of our son so she didn't lose sleep..... although she wasn't working so had al day to sleep with munchkin when he was tiny. 

She never got the business started - still not. Loads of things not done - not repaid for the training, not a penny to munchkins school fees after SHE decided he was going private and promised family (they are loaded) would help cover her share.

I did all of the above - sorted all the house and everything while working, all the rest once I got in..... and ended up almost burnt out. I was a wreck..... friends intervened and helped me out thankfully.... I documented/vidoed and photo'd the place as they didn't believe me when I explained the shit I was walking into every day. 

It's now 4yrs down the line - she still won't cook anything.... the place is fucked. Her 'BF' turns up, uses her for what every man wants.... let's be honest..... and just fucks off until he's horny enough to get a bus again..... 

I had almost 3yrs of being told I wasn't a partner...... I was the problem....... I wasn't worth her time....... etc..... it still hurts whenever it comes to mind - why I don't want to ever see her if it can be helped.

How the fuck can - after all that was being done for her - was I such a screaming dickhead that she went off and cheated.....? How in all that is 'normal' can she let the place get to such a state and live like that ( the bedding had a horrid smell of damp ) and act as if it's perfectly acceptable for a child to not know if the water/shower will be hot or not when he gets in it? 

How can ANY man show up at the place of someone he cares about ' loves - and ignore the fact that it is a shithole, with every appliance fucked - and not at least offer/attempt to repair/replace them..... sort an engineer for the electrics or gas heating? Buy Lino or something to cover the bathroom floor so her and her child aren't getting out onto bare concrete? ( I had a dairy thing I found that she somehow managed to trash after I'd moved out)........ 

How am I - when my son asks why electricity or something else - is fucked, how am I supposed to keep biting my tongue and not tell him that a REAL MAN or PARTNER wouldn't actually let his 'loved one' live like that. That a man would step up and pull his fucking weight....... 

If I do - we'll be back to me the arsehole...... can't win.

 

Apologies - really really depressed about it at the moment after seeing that and hearing munchkin. I'll admit, of course I'm a bit jealous too - I worked my ass off to make sure none of that shit happened while I was there. I just wanted someone to help me out with some of it and do their share - as it was killing me to do everything..... MMW does absolutely fuck all and is a 'partner' apparently. Just be nice on text, email or Skype and then show up for his rewards...... 

 

Not sure how I can say anything - 'cos munchkin will repeat it to her and I'm still a dick..... fuggit! 

 

 

Sorry........... had to rant

[richardmorris]

Is vertigo something that can take you off the road?

 

Well high roads possibly

[Tadhg Tiogar]

Well high roads possibly

Take the low road, then. You'll reach Scotland before anyone else. 

[dave21478]

FFS

[DodgeRover]

Further to my grin/news wherever it was post about having all the windows open in this lovely breeze...

 

Went upstairs earlier, and the childrens bedroom door was shut. That's funny, says I, it can't shut, the babygate stop it shutting specifically so they cant, it's wedged open...

 

FUCK, the winds slammed it shut and ripped the hinges out of the door and split the wood as it has met with the stairgate. Cock

 

Will try a bit of mending with wood glue and longer screws, but its a shitty fibre board door so I think I'm just going to have to come clean and pony up for a new door, which wont match the rest...

Remove door.

Beg/ borrow buy g clamps, plenty of wood glue into the splits, clamp it all up nice and tight wait a couple of days for the glue to get proper hard.

Refit door.

[LightBulbFun]

FFS

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please dont tell me it was twins?! 

 

on a serious note tho, get well soon mate.

[AlabamaShrimp]

Oil leaks sometimes take a bit of time after cleaning off the old oil. Clean it off at home and chances are you’ll be able to track it down. Probably something like the pressure switch leaking.

 

Clean the EGR out at home, not usually a difficult job albeit messy.

I picked it up today and looks cleanish so just going to check it every week and go from there.

 

I could clean the EGR but it's behind a water pipe that I don't want to take off so it'll have to stay like it is for now.

 

Good new is we didn't pay again. 'ring on Tuesday' was the words of the blokes son.

[Guest Hooli]

Few months ago the council came along and replaced all the lamp posts on my street with new LED ones.

 

Two of the old sodium lamps weren't removed, including the one opposite my house. The new LED ones sit next to them, off.

A third lamp was replaced a couple of years before the others so is a new pole with a sodium head, when all the others are white LEDs.

 

I complained to the council about the unfinished job as it looks a bloody mess (all the other roads round us were finished), and they didn't do anything.

 

Then the lamp opposite my house died, complained to the council.

2 weeks later they come along with the truck, ignore the new post completely and put a new LED head on the old lamp post.

 

WTF?

 

Around here the council outsourced the lampposts so they have no say on when they are changed or how etc. They just signed a contract to get new lights every 10 years (I think) and the contractor does whatever they want.

[twosmoke300]

Bloody hell Dave . You ok ? Well obviously not but you are in the best place . Keep us updated mate

[Guest Hooli]

FFS

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More slugs?

[MikeR]

More slugs?

would save the battery if it was switched off ?